Hi all. I have 2 DC - age 2 1/2 & 6mo. Married 9 years. Own home, both work.
I love the idea of a large family. DH is very laid back & goes with the flow. He said he would like 3 or 4.
Whenever I mention this to my family (eg I said I’ll save the baby clothes for the ‘next baby’) they say ‘are you mad’ and negative, derogatory things like ‘i wouldn't if I were you’. My mum always comments on people who have smaller age gaps too but no idea why as she is 1 of 4. My Sister seems to have the opinion that having 3 or more is trampy!
The usual is ‘you just about cope now’. My eldest does have additional needs so I do see some sense.
I’m 34, 35 in the new year. I worry about trying for a third (and can’t even imagine a fourth) because of their reactions. They seem to think it’s a bad idea & can’t understand why I would want more.
DH & I of course will do what is best for us. I try to ignore comments but they play on my mind. When I get into a discussion they back off and say obviously it’s your life do as you please.
Does anyone else get the impression that others think having 3+ isn’t good? What is it that i’m missing?
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Sunisshining12 · 16/09/2019 13:51
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