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Am I being selfish

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hannahb135 Sat 27-Jul-19 19:46:09

I'm currently recovering from labour and have been told not to travel in cars and get plenty of bed rest. My DD is a week old and most of our family has met her. My partners family keep asking for cuddles which is lovely but as I can't travel it means my partner normally take her and I'm left at home. I'm starting to get abit down being away from my daughter. She's been out on visit everyday since she was born (only for a few hours but still). I just feel a little left out and forgot about and I'm don't really feeling up to people coming over to visit just yet. Am I being selfish by saying no to visitors/visits. I just want one day with my baby and partner without them leaving me to see family. I feel like I'm being rude saying no but I just want a 'lazy day' for us three. Do you think I'm being out of order?

Mammyloveswine Sat 27-Jul-19 23:31:28

Not at all your newborn should be with you! Are breastfeeding? If so it's even more vital as you build up your milk supply!

Even if not your baby needs to bond with you. Hugs OP, insist that your baby is brought back to you and not taken away again until YOU say so.

SmartPlay Sun 28-Jul-19 13:00:45

That's not rude at all! You have just given birth and - deserve to rest and you need to rest! And the most important person for your baby is you, right after follows your husband.
I wouldn't have allowed anyone to take my baby anywhere without me so soon. Other family members can surely wait a couple of weeks to personally meet the new addition.

Helenj1977 Mon 29-Jul-19 11:30:29

There's no way I'd let my baby anywhere that young. They've had their cuddles, now it's time for you to bond and recover. I'd say no more visits or visitors until your better.

Congratulations and enjoy this time, you never get it back xx

Windydaysuponus Mon 09-Sep-19 11:21:51

Your baby should be with you. .
Your dp sounds like an arse to be agreeing to such shit

Threnody Mon 16-Sep-19 09:54:45

No way would I let my baby go anywhere without me that early - you are not being selfish at all. Tell your dp no more visits until you can travel.

Sunisshining12 Mon 16-Sep-19 13:54:07

Oh my gosh, this is too much for you. Please tell your partner how you feel. You really should be resting & bonding with your new baby not worrying like this.

It needs to stop.

Tell you partner you want to check out from visitors for a week. Have some down time & recover.

She is YOUR baby. Not an attraction or a prize. I totally get that people want to meet her, cuddle her etc etc but that is not in your best interests.

Tell them visits will resume when you feel up to it.

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