Hi. First post, so I'm sorry if it's in the wrong place ☺️
To cut a long story short I had my first son at 21 years old to my ex. I wasn't ready so my Mam & Dad helped me raise him. So, they did a lot for him. That's all changed and I've been doing a 80 mile round trip for the last 13 years of his 16 to get him every weekend as his Mam moved away and doesn't help with travelling etc.
My parents have always been different with him as he's the first and they helped raise him for a time. The transition into me being in control was a tough one.
I now have 3 boys 7, 4 & 2. With my wife of 10 years. We just live down the road. They also go to the school where my Mam works.
My Mam has boys a lot because in a nut shell, my wife's Mam and step dad have no interest in their grandchildren or us tbh. My mam has the boys sleep over every other weekend and more than not will have when I need her to.
My dads slightly antisocial. He loves them, but when they're there he always sneaks off to bed or do something in garden. He's the last of the 13 children and always been like this apparently.
So these are my issues.
- My Mam never asks for us to pop in for dinner, but she will always make dinner for my sister who has no kids. Not big, but I just wish she would ask to see kids during week.
- They never take boys anywhere. They have them stop over, but just to really sit in house. Although on their birthday they take them as in individual somewhere nice.
- They would never dream of a weekend away with us and kids and definitely not a holiday which my Mam would love and so would boys, but my dad wouldn't so my won't.
- My sister is trying for a kid and my mam said "I love your boys but it would be different if your sister had a kid as it's our girl" - this makes me sad :/
- Christmas. As our family has grown they have been less reluctant for us to go there. Today is the first year they've said they'll be having Christmas on their own.
There's many more but I just wanted to see if I was being too selfish or sensitive about these topics.
Also my Mam buys kids stuff (that they like and need) and loves to see them. I think it's more my dad, but yeah ..
Thanks in advance.