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Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 18:01:10

We not long found out we are having another little stinker and we are over the moon and can’t wait to tell my other ds they are having a baby brother. Life is already noisy and smelly with lots of inappropriateness so I can only imagine what it will be like with another one thrown in 😀

Anyone out there for a fun and lighthearted chat about boys only? 😁

HappyGowerGirl Sun 10-Dec-17 18:02:29

I don't have four boys but I'd love to😊 My husband is one of 4 boys and the vibe/sense of brotherhood is amazing!

cakeymccakington Sun 10-Dec-17 18:02:29

Yep! Me!
Mine are 12, 10, 8 and 3

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 18:12:27

Hi Happy and Cakey,

Mine are 8,6,4 so this is going to be a bigger gap but is also my bonus baby and is most likely the last one so really wanted to enjoy babyhood for the last time smile

LinoleumBlownapart Sun 10-Dec-17 18:19:19

Yes, 14, 8, 5 and 18 months. I also have a girl though, she's 12, she loves to hate them grin

Nomoretears56 Sun 10-Dec-17 18:22:05

I have 4 boys, all adults now, life was.... Interesting grin

TheFirstMrsDV Sun 10-Dec-17 18:22:36

Mine are 7,9,14 and 23.
I had a girl but she died when she was 14.

Afreshturkeyplease Sun 10-Dec-17 18:23:09

I have three boys. And a girl who is just as much a boy as her brothers.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 10-Dec-17 18:23:38

Just three here. Would have loved another (DH said no, no more!, sadly)

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 18:36:30

How old are they Nomoretears? Have they all settled down? I would love to know if the one that I think will be a trouble as they older does actually turn out to be the one or the roles change later on??

Tinselistacky Sun 10-Dec-17 18:41:20

8 boys here!! The ones that were harder work as babies /toddlers are indeed the ones that are harder still!! 25 yo keeps me awake with worry at night, yet his placid 23 db is still as laid back as ever!!

Nomoretears56 Sun 10-Dec-17 18:45:52

35, 31,27, 24, all moved out, the youngest last week!! They are all very different, a bit of advice.... Never let them watch wrestling, my 4 used to practice headlocks etc on each other, it was carnage!!! I'd say they have all changed over the years except no. 3 son, he was incredibly laid back as a child and still is, he has 2 sons of his own now and is a fantastic dad, he has patience that I never had.

Nomoretears56 Sun 10-Dec-17 18:46:39

Tinselistack
Much respect!!!!

frenchlife19 Sun 10-Dec-17 18:46:48

We have six aged 38,37,34,31,24 and my youngest turned 18 on Friday .All completely different personalities , career choices , a couple went off the rails ,but after a spell away have turned themselves around ,one has just started a PhD .Life has been a rollercoaster since I was 16 years old ,but hey I'm still here and now have 4 grandsons !!

DarkestBeforeDawn Sun 10-Dec-17 18:49:17

I have four boys too! It’s mad! Mine are really young still (5,5,3,1) but suffice to say I think the teenage years will be interesting 😬

Nomoretears56 Sun 10-Dec-17 18:54:36

I had years of football, rugby and cricket practice. Toilet seat always left up, smelly socks and mucky bedrooms but I wouldn't change it for anything. The house is very quiet these days (and tidy) smile

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 18:56:10

Tinsel, Nomoretear,French that fills me with sweat already and I worry about their later life already. The only thing that keeps me hopeful that dp had gone off the rail toobit found himself again and turned his life around so the boys will carry those qualities with them but until that develops Im happy to worry for them 😬

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 18:57:40

* I HOPE the boys will carry those qualities

Nomoretears56 Sun 10-Dec-17 19:02:32

I never had girls so I this is just a my opinion but boys seem to be much more straightforward, they don't have seem to have the "side" that girls do. I think boys are easier, they're much more what you see is what you get.

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 19:04:43

and Nomoretears I will not let them watch wrestling thank you. Unfortunately I can safely say the violence has reached an unsafe level and have heard of siblings fighting with the kitchen knife so I’m praying that’s a couple of years early yet for us and honestly don’t know what I will do if the fighting carries on beyond my size 😩

Tedster77 Sun 10-Dec-17 19:07:07

I only have 2 but my best friend has 4 and we holiday together, have tea together etc so that’s 6. It’s awesome grin. Crazy but awesome. They are all so different thought. Only 1 of the 6 likes sport. One is very theatrical and in to dance. One is a very quiet and w loner etc etc. Wish I could have had more!

Fluteytootey Sun 10-Dec-17 19:10:11

flowers MrsDV

Nomoretears56 Sun 10-Dec-17 19:11:27

Be firm and mean what you say, always follow through with punishments. It was the only way to protect my sanity sometimes. I found with mine that they would fight and squabble with each other but if anyone else dared to try and fight with one of them then the other 3 were always there. It does get easier as they get older so chin up smile

Psychobabble123 Sun 10-Dec-17 19:12:06

How is DSD taking the news OP?

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 20:04:15

Psychobabble, what is DSD?

cakeymccakington Sun 10-Dec-17 20:21:16

Step daughter?

Mumof3cheeky Sun 10-Dec-17 20:29:53

Thanks that’s what I thought perhaps the question wasn’t for me then 🤔

euanthesheepiloveyou Sun 10-Dec-17 23:15:15

I have 6 boys & absolutely bloody love it!! It's chaotic, messy, noisy, fun & there most definitely is never a dull moment. They're 10, 9, 7, 4, 2 & 7 months. Always wanted boys & would happily have another 1 (or 2...always fancied having twins!!!) but I'm (we're!) being sensible & stopping at 6. I love how they get on (and sometimes don't!) & always look out for each other. I have nieces & Goddaughters and I can honestly say (as lovely as the girls are) I'd have another boy in a heartbeat. Congrats - a band of brothers is fab!

Mumof3cheeky Mon 11-Dec-17 11:37:33

What would also be interesting to know if the middle child syndrome disappears as they become 4 or just double 😀 my middle child is definitely a very fussy one but not in a needy way that would make you think he is permanently bothered by being in the middle just simply a bit of a troublemaker and is very particular with his ways but is also the most fun out of the 3 😊

euanthesheepiloveyou Mon 11-Dec-17 13:45:24

Not sure...I never noticed the middle child thing when we had 3, then 5...they're all so different.
What we do have is 3 sets of two & at the moment the 2 older pairs are best buds with each other. It will be interesting to see if 5&6 also become best friends when the baby gets a bit older. Love watching the changing dynamic.

Needmorechocolate Tue 12-Dec-17 22:14:00

I have 4, ages 8, 6, 4 and 2. Life is hectic! They are still young so it’s a bit difficult to say for definite whether it helps with the middle child dynamic but I do feel it’s a bit more even now as they can pair off.

helpmum2003 Tue 12-Dec-17 22:17:27

@TheFirstMrsDV I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your daughter xx

BeauticianNotMagician81 Tue 12-Dec-17 22:19:02

I have four boys. They are 13, 11, 4 and 17 months. My eldest is autistic and my youngest is a little whirlwind that likes to destruct everything in his path but it's all great fun smile

Gordonbennit Fri 15-Dec-17 20:54:40

I have 3 age 8,5 & 3 - can someone give me
Hope that they will not be in competition for ever?? First out the house, first to do a job, first to open car door, first upstairs it never ends!!!...it always ends up in a screaming fit. I'm convinced 8&5 don't actually like each other sad is that normal??

Mumof3cheeky Fri 15-Dec-17 21:15:54

Not sure if it’s normal Gordon but exactly the same here!

Gordonbennit Fri 15-Dec-17 22:05:11

It's so draining...surely they don't enjoy the constant battle...I find it hard to tell the difference between an actual argument where I should interveen and a brotherly tussle that ends in giggling!
only thing I wish I had a girl for is all the cool girls clothes, but that's it I love all boys...it's just hectic!!!! smile

Mumof3cheeky Sat 16-Dec-17 06:47:32

It really is Gordon. Dp has a shout at them last night at bedtime as it’s just constant that he can not face another weekend with them squabbling all day long and they went quiet until this morning when Back on with full power 😀

Gordonbennit Sat 16-Dec-17 11:39:40

Thanks for reply just noticed how old this thread is! Least I know we're not the only
Ones cheeky - thanks smile

Mumof3cheeky Sat 16-Dec-17 15:14:08

I think it’s only a week old 😀

Ilikecakes Sun 17-Dec-17 08:16:59

DS4 is 10 weeks old, my others are 3, 6 and 7. It's bananas! My boys are like dogs and need to be run, run, run daily. It's noisy and chaotic but they are sensitive and loving too and I wouldn't change a thing. I was delighted when #4 turned out to be a boy, to the shock of all the 'trying for a girl this time?' brigade hmm

ferriswheel Sun 17-Dec-17 08:22:05

I love this celebration of boys thread. I have three aged 2,3 and 5. What are everyone's top tips? I spend my life exhausting them, and they just get stronger!!!

I adore them. smile

weasledee Sun 17-Dec-17 09:13:47

Just come across this thread and although I only have 2 boys I can relate to the competition factor!!
Who's gonna be.....
First though the door
First upstairs
First to have their item of food opened
First to scream "I'm having that for Xmas!!"
First to sit on the couch
I could go on......
Are they always gonna be so competitive in life.........? confusedsmile

BrutusMcDogface Sun 17-Dec-17 09:16:51

I have two girls and a boy and they are all incredibly competitive! Especially the older two. Sometimes it works in our favour, though...."who can be first to get ready for bed?!" Etc etc wink

2gorgeousboys Sun 17-Dec-17 09:40:09

I have two boys and a DSS. I don't understand this stereotyping of boys "smelly" "messy" "noisy" "competitive" yes they sometimes were/are but my niece can be worse. They like all children have their moments and also the moments when they like quite things or reading or listening to music.

I was hoping for a thread celebrating boys in all aspects not one adding to the gender stereotypes I listen to everyday. This is probably not the place for me.

seething1234 Sun 17-Dec-17 09:56:27

4 boys here. Oldest 16 youngest 20 months. 16 year old is breaking my heart, really clever but does nothing. I had his parent teacher meeting last week and went from teacher to teacher with a tissue having a little cry cause the feedback was so poor. Lot of the teachers told me their boys were the same and they turned it around.

Did anyone ever see the episode of Malcolm in the Middle where it shows Lois,s life if she had girls. Hilarious and I think of it a lot.

Mumof3cheeky Sun 17-Dec-17 09:58:40

2gorgeousbous I started the tread and my aim was to make it funny and cheerful about the boys and their funny qualities in afraid my boys aren’t into those things or like sitting quitely reading or listening to music so sorry I won’t be listing those qualities. They will sit for the odd crafty activity or while they are doing they obligatory reading but that’s I’m afraid not what happens in our house! Perpaps one day and I ll be calling you to compare notes 😀

Mumof3cheeky Sun 17-Dec-17 10:33:41

Seething1234 that must be very difficult for you. my eldest is only 8 but is already like that. Super intelligent and while right now he gets away with not making much effort I can already see he is increadibly lazy. He still works at school but everything else at home is a struggle apart from what he is interested in which is football.
Dread to think what he will be like when he is 16 🙈
Is there anything he is interested in In terms of what he would like to do when he finished school?

Needmorechocolate Sun 17-Dec-17 11:45:18

2gorgeousboys sorry but it really is noisy and competetive in my house, if you have any suggestions to encourage more quiet activities then please share! smile

Mumof3cheeky Sun 17-Dec-17 12:26:11

needmorechocolate I was going say that weather it is good or not my boys 80% of the time fit in the stereotypical boy category and I can shout as much as I want I can’t stop them laughing at someone farting or looking at each other naked 😆 I think it is funny because we spend most of our time telling them to behave in a certain way and definitely guilty of that and definitely care too much what others or perhaps mums with Girls only think of my boys but the truth is when they get to 30 I suspect they will still find all this hilarious.
That’s not to say they are not sensitive and obviously not cave boys who have absolutely no manners but there is just something special about brothers and boys amongs each other 😍

MadhousMom59 Sun 17-Dec-17 20:27:35

Yep. I have eight boys.and one daughter she came last as a twin.my boys have always been so loving.i am now a grandmother to 24 grandkids 5 of which are adopted grandkids.my house is full on Christmas Day with at least 22 at one point. I love my grandkids. They keep going. I also have a grandson who lives with me.and at 58 I'm still doing school runs. My beautiful grandson tells me every day that he loves me. That's boys for you.excuse my grammar.xx

4cheekymonkey Sat 25-May-19 20:56:10

Fastforward a year and ds4 is almost 1 and I can safely say I’m slightly loosing my (shit) mind!! The arguments and competition is unbelievable. Ds4 is constantly poorly hence he isn’t a very happy baby! A day like today I just needed to read through this thread to appreciate my ds!!

MakeMineADouble81 Sun 26-May-19 11:59:15

Aww sorry you are feeing overwhelmed. I hope your littlest fella feels better soon. My 3rd guy was like that with constant throat infections but grew out of it thankfully. My boys are 8,5, 3 & 8 months and the fighting between the eldest 3 drives me mad 🙈. I think it's non stop with 4 kids though regardless of their sex!!

4cheekymonkey Sun 26-May-19 18:57:30

Thank you! It’s always nice to hear I’m not the only one loosing their shit 😀 agree the fighting is mind blowing. I feel the same and have no clue what to do about it! Struggle to ignore it tho 🙄

chocolatefudgecake157 Tue 20-Aug-19 21:40:12

Sorry, realise this is an old thread but it has really cheered me up, so thank you!

I have 3 gorgeous boys - 4, 2 and 1. I love them with all my heart. But I've been feeling sad recently about never having a daughter. I hate myself for feeling like that. I know how lucky I am.

I worry I won't be as close to them in their later years. Any grandmothers out there who can give me reassuring stories??

4cheekymonkey Wed 21-Aug-19 06:54:18

Hi @chocolatefudgecake157 I can partially sympathise with you. While I have never wished for a girl as such I worry about how close we ll be when they are older and have their own family. Saying that I'm not sure just because you have a daughter, it's guaranteed you will have a close bond later on in life. My mum and I have never had an amazing relationship. I love her dearly and want the best for her but we have just never got on very well. Distance did a lot of good to our relationship and have definitely made me appreciate her more. My other half always says outlr boys will always adore me and I just hope that will be the case smile

chocolatefudgecake157 Thu 22-Aug-19 14:36:07

Thanks 4cheekymonkey I'm glad it's just not me that worries! It's silly really, I think society conditions us to believe sons will not be as close yet I can think of so many examples to the contrary

Here's hoping they worship us wink

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