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Froggy34 · 28/01/2017 23:08

Hi,
I would really like to have some positive feedback not negative please.
I have 3 beautiful children who are 6,4 and 21months.
After I had my third I suffered greatly with postnatal depression but has now spiralled out of control and I suffer greatly with anxiety related to motherhood. Sadly I don't enjoy being a mum anymore and question myself if I love them anymore,I know this sounds awful and I feel terribly guilty about it,but I just can't imagine growing up with them.
I am on antidepressants,my marriage is failing because of this. I wondered if anyone could advise me or relate to me?thanks

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Froggy34 · 31/01/2017 22:48

Can anyone help??

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FourToTheFloor · 03/02/2017 21:33

Hi Froggy, this might be better in chat for a wider audience? I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Can you go back to your GP for a different AD? It doesn't sound like the one you're on is working.

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Froggy34 · 03/02/2017 21:51

Thanks for getting back to me,where do you think I should post this?

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FourToTheFloor · 03/02/2017 22:22

I would probably put it in Chat as that gets a lot of traffic.

Report your thread and ask MNHQ to move it? Just click the bottons on the right.

And fwiw I have days where I think wtaf have I done having dc! You're not alone finding it all a bit too much at times

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user1486246880 · 04/02/2017 22:27

Hello
I've just joined and was about to post something similar. I have three beautiful children 5,4 and 1 but am finding it so overwhelming and am not really coping well at all. My second was very hard work until he reached 3.5 years and the baby phase now is so exhausting. I just feel like it's so hard. Are you a full time mother?

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Froggy34 · 05/02/2017 20:52

Hi,
Sorry to hear you are struggling too,don't get me wrong I should be grateful that I have three beautiful children that are healthy it's just it's bloody hard work and I am with my youngest 24/7 because yes I am a stay at home mum,are you?x

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user1486246880 · 05/02/2017 21:14

Hello
I am a full time mum currently but i do some work from home occasionally.
I noticed you would like to hear something positive. I have to say my second was very hard work. But we turned a corner at around 3 years of age and he's just adorable now. It gives me hope that things do get easier when you think they won't.
I have to say (and I'm guilty of this) it's very easy to become overwhelmed but time passes so fast and I find if I have a bad day a good day usually follows.
It definitely hard work but it won't last forever I tell myself this. Nursery etc is around the corner. Lots of playgroups from 2 plus and this gives you a break. For you it's not far off. Are you doing lots of activities with your youngest? The time of year doesn't help if you want to get out for fresh air.
Do you have family to help or any other help? We have an au pair and its really good for bedtimes helping with laundry and various daily tasks even if I just need to pop to the shop or somewhere and the youngest is sleeping.

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Mrsbclinton · 06/02/2017 07:24

Hi Froggy, I also am a SAHM to three children 3, 6 & 8 and often have days where I feel like Im not enjoying motherhood and question everything.
My thrid child was a very bad sleeper and it really took its toll on my day to day life I was bloody exhausted allthe time, felt I was giving older kids enough time etc.

When he got to 2 and a half he started sleeping and life improved as I had more energy and patience.
Is so demanding having three kids but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Soon you will be done with nappies and your little one will start nursery. They will gain a little independence.

Dont be so hard on yourself and try to do something each day for you. We are so busy looking after the kids we forget about ourselves.

Try and just take each day as it comes and remember there are loads of us in the same boat x

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Froggy34 · 09/02/2017 20:42

Thanks for your positive comments,i have come to realise that i haven't adjusted to having my third yet and haven't really found a routine even though she is 21months old. My second has also been the live wire even before we had our third,but unfortunately he was very jealous from the start but now loves her to pieces.
Like you say we're all in the same boat and we won't be in this boat for long so we just have to hold on tight and make the most of it😊thanks for all your comments xx