Tell me all the Great things about same sex children(17 Posts)
Hi we found out we are having Ds4 yesterday. I was disappointed for about 5 minutes not about having a boy but knowing that I don't have a girl (he's definitely our last).
I'm so looking forward to 4 crazy boys. My other boys are 11,9 and 2. We told them yesterday and they are super excited. My boys are all very different personality wise. They bicker but on the whole they are great. I get complimented all the time on their impeccable manners. It's funny as I'm such a girlie girl.
However, unfortunately all the mean comments have started already. A lot from family which I am shocked and saddened at.
So I'm posting this thread for all the positives of same sex children boys or girls. Especially some great one liners I can throw back at those with great ignorance.
Congratulations - there is something amazing about having many of one gender! But, people will non-stop comment, and it is rarely nice.
I have 4 Dds and I constantly need to tell them that I think I am the luckiest mum in the world to have 4 Dds! People always express sympathy for dh it's a running joke with the oldest Dds about people's comments! My Dds are born within 5 years and 2 months, so 9, 7, 5 and 4. I guess we get comments about this also.
I'm afraid I tell people who really irritate me the truth. I've actually had 5 Dds but I lost my eldest dd, and frankly I'd love to have all my 5 Dds with me. Pretty much shuts them up. I don't have a good comeback for 'poor dh'. I bloody well wish I did. But perhaps I should start coming back with we actually think we are blessed to have 4 lovely Dds.
Imip so sorry to hear you lost a dd .
My eldest son has autism (I get comments about that as well). I had a lady say to me today "I bet you wish you had a daughter". I couldn't help but reply "if I had one wish it would be to take away my sons autism not change the sex of any of my children". Is it bad that I took great joy in the look of shock on her face. I didn't get a reply back just a smile.
Congratulations. I lost my second ds - born too early and too ill. It's the "oh you're so jammy having one of each" or the "what a big gap that used to annoy me. I never had the guts to say "oh really, I'd have loved two boys but ds 2 died" or "that's because our second son died"
People just don't think
Op, dd2 has autism, I'd say the same also (though not in front off dd!).
Sorry for your loss, Beaufort- we have a daughter, lost a daughter and are now expecting another girl. I'd love to have a boy but I'm equally thrilled about my eldest getting a sister again (hopefully one that comes home from hospital). Still bracing myself for the 'will you try for a boy?' comments. Don't think I'll manage to be polite this time!
Beau so sorry for your loss.
I'm sure we will get the same comments about trying for a girl. I would have liked one daughter just to see what the fuss is about. DHs family are girl obsessed. Only one granddaughter and the difference in the way she is treated to all my boys is ridiculous. The only thing I was worried about had this been a girl is that DHs family would have treated her so differently our boys would have felt pushed out.
Congratulations op. I have 3 dds, 10, 8 and 3 next month. We always get the poor DH comments, and the dog and cat are both girls too which everyone always mentions.
I love having three girls, but I'm sure I would equally have loved three boys or a mix of both. My girls are all very different but also similar in many ways. We are blessed to have them and although that can argue till they're blue in the face I also think they are so lucky to have each other. I just hope when they're grown up they're all friends and close. I have an older brother, four years older. We aren't close, we see each other every couple of months at family events, get along fine but don't really speak much. I want much more for my girls.
Sorry for your loss imip.
Msrichard sorry about your loss. So sad. I'm so careful about mentioning children to clients in case they can't have children or have suffered losses.
Furry I'm more similar in personality to my brother and we get on great but I share more with my sister. Possibly just because she's the same sex as me. My older two boys are only 17 months apart & have a great relationship. We are hoping that ds3 will have the same relationship with his younger brother. There will be a 3 year age gap.
I know opposite sex siblings that of course have great relationships also. But I only have the true comparison of my personal experience.
I have had four boys. My third was still born so in the same boat..... my lads are all really different DS1 who is 19 in April has autism and then I have DS2 14 and DS 4 11.
I love our muddy, game filled, constant food demolishing, lynx spraying house
msrichard. I'm sorry and thinking of you. I remember how difficult it was. DS2 would be 19 this year - you eventually come to terms with it and it stops hurting.
Congratulations Just think of when you're older, and you'll have 4 handsome adult sons and possibly a few granddaughters
You know, people will pass comments regardless of what you have. I have a mix but get comments on the age gaps, poor ds being the only boy, having my hands full, etc etc.
I think people comment regardless - I have 5 girls and 1 boy (he is second born) - ages - 13, 11, 8, 6, 3 and 7 months. On a daily basis I hear - are they all yours, do they have the same dad (yes!), 5 girls poor you, your poor DH, your poor son - some people are so very rude. I love and cherish my girls and boy and am very blessed to have 6 healthy children. Lots of best wishes for ds4 x
You could say you're going for 7 in a row to get to meet the king?
It's a tradition here (not UK, obviously) that a 7th son gets the king as their godfather and a 7th daughter gets the queen as their godmother. Obviously this happened a lot more often in the past.
I have 3xB + 1 x G.
All same sex makes Clothing SO much easier, fewer 2nd hand clothes to store in loft for passing down. Fewer shoe decisions. Also makes gift giving for relatives simpler if they want to send a joint gift. Room sharing is easier. They are more likely to go to similar clubs (so less ferrying around) and find it easier to play with each other's friends who come around (which is more of an issue as they get older). A little more likely to pursue the same hobbies or TV programmes, or want to play same games on the dsi or Xbox.
In a sense you have fewer decisions to make & the best solutions to find. Eg, When you have boys & girls then you need to understand both how often to shave & where to buy cheap pantyliners.
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