Will I always feel broody??(34 Posts)
Hello! I don't normally post on forums much but need to talk about this. I just had my 3rd baby 8 weeks ago, an adorable little boy, my two other children are dd 6 and a ds 4. I've always wanted 3 kids and imagined having 2 girls and a boy, a boy first an then 2 girls. So when I was pregnant 1st time I thought I'd have a boy but what a lovely surprise, I got a girl, second time round I then assumed I'd have another girl but I got my ds1. We waited before having a 3rd as we wanted to enjoy another baby as it would be the last. All through my pregnancy I told everyone that this was definately the last, we didn't find out the sex, after having one of each I didn't mind but in my mind thought I would get a girl after all thats what I imagined having, 2 girls and a boy. Anyway out popped my ds2, surprised but instantly fell in love with him and I can honestly say out of all 3 I was the most smitten wIith this wee guy. For the first few weeks I was certain my family was complete but Im now feeling there is still someone missing and would like no. 4. Lots of people thought I was mad having a 3rd so dread to think the reaction I would get to a 4th. Is it hormones, do I want a girl to even things up, what if i got another boy, I really don't know. I know I would wait a couple of years before trying for another but what if I did have another would this broody feeling slowly creep over me again?? Also I have no desire to be pregnant again and my last labour was the most painful but would do it all again. Sorry the post is long but can anyone answer my question do you ever stop feeling broody??xx
I have four and DP has just been for the snip, all I felt was relief, no sadness at never being pregnant again. I feel finished with babies now DS is four.
I have 4 - still broody. Never going to change I don't think.
I have 2DDs and thought I was done and then 15 years later along came DS1 at the ripe old age of 42. I couldn't be happier and absolutely love him to bits, we are thinking about no4 even though it may not happen now I'm 43 but what will be will be.
Hi. I am so glad to have found this post. We have two gorgeous ds, 5 and 3. I always wanted children and was incredibly broody from around age 12 with my younger cousins. I used to be so impatient that my aunties and mum 'hogged' all the baby holds especially the newborn ones. I managed to wait until I was 35 before having my first - how heaven only knows ha ha! When ds1 was born I was fine as I knew we'd have a second. But even when ds2 was just a few weeks old I started to get broody even though he had horrendous colic and it really wasn't a good time!!
Dh is adamant that two is enough and is fabulously happy with our two boys. But still I long for a third as in my head a always loved the idea of a big crazy family. Although I have had to admit to myself that if I am truly honest I am broody to be pregnant and have a newborn not necessarily another toddler (fun but very hard years!).
I have a mirena coil but spent many a google search looking for mirena babies and frequently fantasised about being one of the 0.01% to get pregnant on a Mirena. Rediculous. And due to irregular bleeding gp has now prescribed mini pill on top so it is really not going to happen.
Two of my colleagues are pregnant at work which is great for regular baby chat but doing nothing for my broodiness and bump envy!
I'm 40 now and as well as thinking I'd have three also thought I'd be done breeding by 40 so I'm hoping I miraculously stop being broody on my 41st birthday.
I'm even half looking forward to the menopause to remove the temptation!! I could never have an 'accident' but I so wish that it would happen none the less as dh would be fine with it and we'd manage somehow financially. I'd be a bit scared though of the stress levels as I am a bit of a stress bunny. So all in all two is our family but I'll always be broody....
I have four Dcs, two girls, two boys. I have just convinced dh to ttc number 5. I never wanted to say that I had "enough" and whilst everyone will think we are mad I am desperate for dc5. I have dd1, who is 11, ds1, 7, ds2, 6 and dd2 4. I've been good and stuck to the contraceptives since dd2 was born but am having my coil removed a week on Monday.
I felt so broody for years, but particularly after I had given birth (bizarrely!). I think some of it must be hormonal. Don't feel broody now though.
Dc3 was supposed to be my last baby, but I never really felt that he was - he is 2.5 now and we're ttc number 4. There are much smaller gaps between dcs 1, 2 and 3, so it did take us a while to decide!
I'm nearly 25, have 3.5,almost 2, and 6 week old. I feel the same, I get very broody especially when I look back to when I gave birth (luckily I had amazing experiences albeit painful, but empowering)
But each baby I've had I don't see them being my last?
Hi linnilou. I have 3 dc ages 10 8 and 5. I always thought my 3rd was my last and our family was complete. I couldn't shake off the terrible broodiness. I enjoyed dc 3 as a baby as much as I could and got rid of all my baby stuff etc. I was totally convinced I couldn't have any more because of money, child care etc.
Last summer dh and me decided we would just go for it and have dc4. I was worried about other people's reaction s and judging me etc. But I have been so surprised. People are so happy and id forgotten the joy another baby can bring. So don't rule out another one. Just give yourself time and think about it in a few years maybe?
Yes, I think you will!!
I have two children, a DS & a DD so one of each. We always said we wanted two and two we have. I feel very lucky... And yet, so bloody broody!!
My Dh thinks I'm crazy and has done since DD was born, he doesn't understand it. I should feel done, I've got my family. And yet, I'm sooooo not done!
I've finally talked him into having a third and final child. I can't help it, I just feel there's room for one more. Financially we would be fine, the kids would love it as they always ask for a brother or a sister. I'm so excited at the prospect!!
After the next one, no matter how broody I am, there will be no more, I'll def be pushing my luck then! ;) I think I'll always love babies, holding them, feeding them and their smell is like no other! But, I can't keep having more so will have to accept the bloodiness! Xx
We always said we wanted four. We now have three, dd 5, ds 2 and ds 10 months. I am just starting to feel broody again and DH is the same! However we have decided that three has given us the feeling we craved of having lots going on all the time, and we feel a sense of completeness. The main reasons for not having another are that it would stretch us too far financially and also we struggle as it is to find time for one on one time with each of the children, so a fourth would mean that was even harder. I think I will always feel envious of people with four children but I think the broodiness will subside once our youngest is out of nappies and sleeps through!
Dh used to ask me how I wanted my eggs? I would say fertilised!
Took a while for dh to say yes to a 4th. He is now 4. I am no longer broody. I always wanted 4
2 girls 13,11
2 boys 8,4
Full on but happy.
Stargazer, I think it is more likely that because you had a fixed idea from the beginning that you were having a girl, you are now missing that girl that you created in your mind. You were expecting a girl and you got a boy. It might take time to adjust to.
I say this because I felt similar with some of mine. The baby would be born and even though delighted I missed the imaginary baby of the opposite sex. And I wasn't convinced throughout that the baby would be a particular sex as you seem to have been. For later pregnancies I found out the sex of the baby early and this stopped this feeling for me.
Just consider that you were convinced you were having a girl this time but you weren't. Why would the conviction that there is a baby girl waiting in the wings be any more real? What if you had another boy?
Wow!! I came on here tonight especially to post and don't need to - you seem to have written it for me!!!
I have just had my fifth a few weeks ago. All the way through my pregnancy I was totally convinced this was my last. Told everyone and totally believed it. I was convinced baby was a girl as I dreamt about her all through the pregnancy. Didn't even think of a boys' name. But here is my gorgeous little boy. And he is wonderful. I had no actual preference as we had 2 boys and 2 girls. So we didn't mind one bit.
But now I am totally and utterly convinced that dd is waiting to join us. I dreamt of a boy at our table last year and here he is. So I just feel the same now about this little girl. Perhaps I am going crazy. However I have told dh that there is still a little girl waiting in the wings and he has gone from being adamant no more to gently humouring me and being more open to the idea. I have no time on my side at all and feel quite pressurised to move quickly so we do not deny her if this is our fate. Sounds crazy I know. I sorted out my pregnancy wardrobe tonight and although I had intended to bin them I haven't even moved them to the garage. I am convinced that fate will mean I need them again soon. It's so strange. I am so blessed with my 5 beautiful children and although I do still feel broody it is more a feeling that this is totally meant. Perhaps there is a little girl out there waiting for you and is trying to tell you. Have you ever read the book 'an angel set me free'. I sound ridiculously crazy. I'm not. Honest : ))
I have 3 DCs aged 7, 4 and 1. The whole time I was preg with the third I was very firm that this was our last baby and that I would definitely be cured of my broodiness. Well that was total bollocks! I've been horribly broody since he was about 4 weeks old and would love another. We won't though as financially and time wise it would be very difficult. My theory is that some people are just naturally broody, I really understand why some people just carry on having babies. I think there is a bit of a hormonal element to my broodiness though as since DC3 stopped BF'ing a couple of months ago I'm slightly less broody. I'm going to start encouraging Dnephew to start breeding now that he's been married a month!
We've got 3 girls 10, 5.5 and nearly 4. I'd love anoyher and as a previous poster said considered having an "accident" but feel its not fair on dp. However I keep hoping I'm one of the 1% the pill doesnt work for Its a horrible feeling wanting another but logic says it will be too dificult to have one. Plus I'd feel bad as my sil has had trouble ttc so wouldnt want to "rub her face in it"
I have 5dc and would love at least one more. I have 11 yrs between dc3 & 4 and the longing for another child never went, so I expect it will always be there.
Lovely post EllaBel! We should all do that.
Have 3 and still broody - always wanted 4 - feel that we're getting old for it tho (37 and 41)
After I had dc3 I felt quite broody for about a year. I think it was due in part to being told tht medically it would be a bad idea (dc3 had rhesus disease when he was a newborn - all better quickly but would ge high risk with subsequent pregnancies).
He's 4 now. I am not broody. Would love another pregnancy and birth and obviously love my children. But it would break me and dh and I am just aware of how little time I get individually with the dcs as it is, particularly now the older ones are 10 and 8.
It is not selfish - it is totally natural. Some of us are programmed to just keep on breeding - it is a hangover from the days of the need to reproduce or 'die out'! Unfortunately - you will always feel it, until it isn't possible. Cherish your babies - whatever their age... focus your broodiness on them - use that energy to read, play, create and develop your little unit.. and sleep well so that you can be there for them. If you do have another, don't feel that you are compromising. Just absorb the extra work and live life...
I have 4 and I would keep going if money was no object! My maternal instinct is very strong and always has been. Some of us are like that!
I'm now cured of my broodiness after having dd, after 3 boys. I always wanted 4 so I don't know if its just having my fourth, or having a girl that's made the difference
Ive got 4 children 2 x ds 5 and 3 and 2 x dd nearly 2 and the youngest is 10 months.
Life is very hectic for me as you can imagine, i dont particually want a big family BUT i do feel like i might want another 1 day and OH feels the same i know people think were mad.
I miss been pregnant i dont know why i just do, For nearly 6 years ive had dirty nappies and been joined to a pushchair the thought of not having any of this anymore makes me feel quite sad
On the other hand you have to stop somewhere dont you and i really would love a bit of freedom guess you got to weigh up the pros and cons
i have 3 boys aged 5,4, and 21 months and i am desperate for another baby. i also crave a little girl as i always imagined having a houseful of girls and never imagined having a houseful of little boys i wouldnt change a thing about my family except to add a little girl to it and my husband has agreed to have another baby in a couple of years but i dont know its like a mixture of emotions its such a hard desicion to not have anymore children.
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