Hello
I am about 5 months pregnant with my 3rd child and I am having a really bad time with it. The pregnancy is planned - my husband and I talked and talked for about 2 years before finally deciding to go for it. I got pregnant immediately, the first few weeks were fine but then I started feeling completely terrified about what we had done.
All the negatives, the reasons that I had not to have a third seem to have magnified and I can't seem to get hold of any of the feelings that I previously had about wanting another child. I feel completely horrible about it. I already have a boy and girl who get along really well and I just keep looking at them and thinking 'what have I done'?
I don't feel any excitment about the new baby I just feel scared about what is going to happen to my life and how I will cope.
At one point I even considered not going ahead with it but I was so incredibly sick that I couldn't think straight and I just couldn't make that huge a decision without knowing it was definitely what I wanted to do. And aborting a planned pregnancy seemed like the craziest thing ever.
I can't talk to anyone now. I'm physically fine now and my husband thinks I'm over my confusion, everyone thinks I'm really looking forward to it and all I want is for it to go away.
I am desperately hoping that when the baby arrives I will fall in love and it will all be fine but I can't shake off the feeling that I am going to spend the rest of my life wishing I hadn't had this baby. I can't stop thinking that if it took me two years to decide whether to have another or not then I really shouldn't have done it.
I've mentioned it to my midwife who thinks it may be prenatal depression but I don't think I feel depressed, I feel full of regret and completely terrified and really hating myself.
Can anyone offer me any kind words?
Thanks
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MrsK70 · 03/06/2011 21:16
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