DS is 6 weeks, born by EMCS cat 1. Pregnancy ok, only sick twice triggered by brushing teeth, SPD in last 2 months, and general tiredness and sore lower back/pelvis area. I have a higher BMI. I fell pregnant literally the first time we did the deed after coming off the pill.
I always wanted 4 children, turned 34 in October, and so conscious of the issues as i approach 35 and beyond.
Doctors have said i might be ok with a VBAC, but they said about 30% chance i will need another CS.
On maternity allowance (am self-emp), and if had another baby now, would not need to go back to work to be eligible for a second claim.
So, am wondering when to try for number 2 - thoughts are prompted by impending post-op doctors appt next week and knowing that she will want to raise the issue of contraception.
DP knows i want more and close together and we have a pram that allows this, but haven't exactly discussed when to try for number 2.
Not sure how i would cope with DS if i had to have another CS but not sure i would cope any better or worse no matter what the age gap. Feel like if we leave too big a gap, they won't have as close a relationship and that the longer we leave it, the more fertility and abnormalities may become an issue. But also aware that looking after DS is all-consuming and not sure what would have happened if i already had a toddler, especially if i had to have a CS. (and also based on when we have DC2, working out when to have DC3 and DC4)
Just hoping someone on here can identify with my situation and can give opinions from the point of view of having "been there, done that".
thanks !
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Loooopy · 15/12/2010 22:02
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