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Picklepickle123 Sun 05-Apr-20 19:32:09

Hi all. Struggling a little today. This year we have 5 close friends that are having babies, which I thought I was fine with - sent my congratulations etc.

Today, husband has sent out some messages offering our cot/pram/highchair etc to those expecting. He asked my permission and there really is no point for everything to be sitting in the garage unused but it's really bought to life that we're not going to have another baby anytime soon. If ever. We have a son, and I'm so grateful that we have him, but something about giving away all these things has really made me cry today.

Please be kind.

MrsC2018 Mon 06-Apr-20 01:17:05

Infertility is shit whether it's secondary or not. You're allowed to grieve the family you wanted but haven't got yet. It doesn't make you a bad person to find it painful when others announce their joy. You aren't sad they're happy, you're sad you haven't got what they have. I so sorry I don't have any words of wisdom or advice but I do understand how you feel and you're definitely not alone ❤️

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted Mon 06-Apr-20 08:47:00

I have a loft full of baby stuff that I can't bring myself to get rid of yet - although we are waiting to start our final round of IVF so we still have a chance or two left

I saved lots of beautiful baby clothes thinking I'd have several children close in years and they would be worn again but when I realised after DD that wouldn't happen I had them made into a beautiful baby quilt and that has made me feel a bit better. Also I've boxed her wooden toys up to keep for when she hopefully has children one day

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