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TWW March April 2020(104 Posts)
I know cycles have been cancelled but how many are in there TWW now?
I’m one of the lucky few who got to FET. I’m 7dp5dt.
Welcome @Owlz, I had my 2DT on Friday, so I'm early days. How you feeling?
Thanks @41trying. I’m ok, trying to stay positive although I’m really not feeling it. Fighting the temptation to test as well.
How about you?
I'm not too bad, I know everyone in the TWW will be in the same boat if at home, but not being able to keep busy as usual is a nightmare.
Will you test a little early? @Owlz
Im due to test on Saturday but I’m thinking Wednesday wouldn’t be to early? I’m kinda scared to test tbh. This is my first FET so I didn’t really know what to expect
Is this your first?
In tww from trying naturally. HyCoSy last month and been taking vitamins the last couple months (only know issue is low morphology) so hoping something happens!
Only issue we didn't dtd the day of positive ovulation or after, but we had dtd a good few times in the days before so hoping that did it but aware it's much less a chance.
@Owlz, this is my 5th and last attempt. I have children from previous marriage but got sterlized. I have been with hubby 13yeara no children together. First round got cancelled 2nd and 3rd EC but none fertilised SP. Then when to another clinic LP fertilised but BFN, so as we are self funded and I'm 42, this is last chance for us. It's too much emotionally and expensive but I did say at start if it didnt work I wouldn't go again anyone after 42.
@41trying I hope it all works out for you, It sounds like it’s been a long journey. have you got any frozen? You’re right, it is so bloody emotional, I didn’t appreciate how draining it could be.
I have pcos and 37yo. I had one round on NHS and have been very lucky to get 5 into the freezer. I don’t think I’ll do anymore if all 5 fail. It’s far to tough.
This sounds so daft but I kinda felt that this was my time. I havent had a natural period in around 10years so when I came on all by myself to start this FET, I was so excited but I don’t think it’s going to be this time unfortunately.
@willithappen welcome. How far are you from testing?
I'm a week from my period. I won't test unless it's a couple days late though as we have been TTC for about 5 years now and I have done my fair share of tests and disappointment
No frozen @Owlz as last time I had 3 collected I fertilised this time 2 collected both fertilised but I abnormal, so this has been challenging over 5 goes.
Good luck @willithappen
How are we all doing?
@Owlz did you test early?
Well today is 6 days post transfer and test date still feels like a million days away
Hi! It’s been a busy few days, my partner has to go back to work, I’m not happy.
I did test early, and got my first ever BFP!!!! Official test date is tomorrow so. I’m so excited 😁😊
Wow congratulations @Owlz, how many days early did you test?
I tested on Wednesday then double checked Thursday and Friday with a ovulation test just to be sure it was still there 😂. So that would have been day 10.
Is that 10days since transfer? @Owlz?
@41trying yes sorry, 10days since transfer. I have heard of people testing earlier and getting false negatives. How are you getting on? When do you think you’ll test?
Well I was thinking Monday @Owlz which will be ten days since transfer, but will still test if OTD which will be Friday
Well @Owlz I followed suit and took it a couple days early and got BFP very clear
Omg that’s great news, I’m so happy for you @41trying 😁😁
We need things to look forward to in the crazy year
Definitely @Owlz, I cant find any groups that are active, are you in any?
@Owlz, did you manage to find any groups?
We just got in for our 4th frozen transfer on Monday ( last day they were doing them!)
My test date is 19th but I'm already 99% sure it hasn't worked yet again 🙁 Got period-style cramps today and I just feel it in my gut. So down today, just feeling that I'm never even going to get pregnant, let alone have a baby.
Doesn't help that my social media is filled with new babies and pregnancy at the moment...
Can I join please.
Long story short - like everyone this last month has been very stressful. I was mid way through my first cycle when I got told It was potentially being cancelled due to the virus.
Then from stressing about that, and Clinics following more guidance from HFEA, I was allowed to continue to freeze all - but this was only if government advice didn’t change and all was completed before April 15. It’s been on / off on / off continually since then with the thought that staff would be redeployed etc . A rollercoaster. ( I do totally totally understand that the bigger picture is all those poor poorly people and society helping them)
I then get to egg collection and had a very poor response - much less than predicted. I think this may have been the stress of the on/off my body was under in addition to my age - 41 in sept.
I then got 2 poor embryos (c?) which in a normal non virus climate would prob not have survived a freeze / thaw I’m guessing ( clinic implied they would but have lowered their freeze standards due to virus.)
As such, and given it was just before HFEA cut off i said I understood the risks and given my age / response / embryo quality I wanted a transfer . This was against their guidance but I hope they understood my decision given my particular circumstance. If I had lots of good quality embryos I would have frozen but I think this may be my last chance and would have been devastated if I didn’t take it / risked them not surviving a thaw .
Anyway .... I digress - they very reluctantly allowed my wishes with my consent given my specific circs and that it still was before the HFEA cut off date. I’m very lucky in that respect .
I’m now 2 days post transfer and last night had period style cramps and like you @FairyAnn I just feel it in my gut this hasn’t worked .
Feel so down as I don’t even have a back up plan ( frozen embryos).
What symptoms did you other guys have post transfer, if any?
How old is the cut off for IVF?
I have to think forward and have a ‘plan’ to keep sane . Dreading the thought of having to start again when lock down over (given age and very poor response ).... if only I had some in the freezer to get me through the torment of this 2 week wait and thus have light at the end of the tunnel if that makes sense . I have no children .
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Hi @Xx40yearsyoungxx, sorry to hear of all the stress you've been through 🙁 It's a horrible time to go through.
My symptoms have tapered off now, nothing since the cramps on Sunday. Still not optimistic but will just have to wait and see.
I don't have children either. We were extremely lucky and got 7 good embryos in our collection, but this is our 4th transfer and none have taken. I've never been pregnant and the docs are mystified as to why. It's very frustrating ☹️