Title says it all really. Currently going through my second miscarriage, first was after clomid and this one is following my first FET.
Not really sure where it went wrong as everything was perfect. Here's my story..
TTC 5 years, me pcos dh poor sperm mobility. 6 rounds of clomid led to one miscarriage. Referred for ivf and icsi was done due to sperm issues.
TLA done I think that's what it was - where they put the embryos in the incubator and monitor them from a camera rather than having to get them out etc. We ended up having 3 top quality blasts.
Fresh transfer of a 5AA was successful and resulted in my DS who's now 2.5.
First FET completed Feb 2020 of a 4AB which increased in quality to a 5AB during the thawing process. A hatching blastocyst we were thrilled. We also added embryo glue to increase our chances this time.
I am within a healthy bmi due to losing weight prior to the FET.
Tested from 6dp5dt and got faint positives that got stronger and stronger day by day. By test day the test line was stealing the dye from the control line and the clear blue digital said 3+ weeks. I couldn't believe our luck this was my dream come true and my chance to complete our family and give my DS the sibling he's begging me for.
First scan was booked in for Thursday 19th March however on the Tuesday evening I started bleeding. My whole life came crashing down, I called the clinic and they told me to come in on the Wednesday. Went to be told baby was measuring 4.4mm and measuring 5 weeks 6 days rather than the 6 weeks 2 days that I was and there was no heartbeat.
Now there's conflicting advice on whether or not you should see a heartbeat at this stage but the sonographer was adamant that we should hear one by now, she also said I should prepare for miscarriage and that it doesn't look good at all however then contradicted herself by saying let's 'pray' that it will be ok and apparently fet embryos are a little bit slower.
Am I miscarrying or not which one is it?! Left the clinic in disbelief, rang the nurses later on who confirmed the same however Google told me not to worry as millions of women bleed during pregnancy and I hadn't bled again so I thought things would be fine. So I stupidly got my hopes up thinking the nurse didn't know what she was on about and I'm going to go again next week and everything is going to be fine. That was until Saturday when I started bleeding again and then again more today. Awful bleeding, awful pain so I know my baby's gone.
What did I do wrong? I had a textbook perfect cycle, not one thing was wrong, I was looking after myself and followed all advice. Did acupuncture before during and after. Through everything at it so why has it gone wrong? I called the clinic and spoke to another nurse who looked at my scan pics coupled with the news of my new bleeding and she said 'unfortunately it does sound like you are miscarrying.'
Anyone out there with any experience, advice or just anything because I really can't cope at all.
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Miscarriage after IVF/FET
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Hufflepuff1 · 23/03/2020 13:47
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