Hello :)
My first time posting on MN. I feel I can't unload any more emotions on my partner.
I am 34 and I live and work in Scotland but I am from an different country in Europe which I visit several times a year. I have my own ob-gyn over there and while I was doing my yearly pap test I mentioned we were ttc for over a year. He took my blood there and then (CD5 and a half) to check my hormones and he called the hospital to book me a HSG test for the following day (CD7).
The blood test results were normal.
The HSG was excruciating, and no wonder as it showed one tube is blocked and the other one has the tiniest passage which can do more harm than good. I was shocked as I only went in for a pap smear and less than 24 hours later I had to deal with this kind of news.
My doctor is experienced in fertility problems and -without pushing at all- he suggested I take some time to think about IVF. The cost over there would be 2.500euros per cycle (with 2 embryos transferred per try) and 1000+ for the drugs plus whatever it would cost to freeze any extra ones.
I had always hoped for a happy accident and us announcing at 20 weeks or so. IVF would mean telling everyone, doing this publicly with my partner's family following every win or failure and mine fussing over me and dumping opinions on me. I am a very private and introverted person and the thought of this fills me with dread.
Please be kind, this doesn't mean I don't love or appreciate our families. They are wonderful and loving and I know they would support the sh*t out of us.
So my thoughts now are, I don't know whether it's better to take time off and do it there (dragging my partner who doesn't speak the language with me) or stay home in Scotland and go through the NHS.
On one hand I know it's more affordable than private IVF in the UK but it is still a lot of money and time away from home and work.
But going through the NHS would be a bit more private and we would be in our own home. Even though I am not sure my foreign doctor's opinion and HSG and bloods transcripts from a different language would be enough for the Scottish GP to refer us quickly. Does anybody come from a different country and know this?
Is one way or the other a no brainer for any of you?
Have you done IVF either in Scotland or abroad and what was the timeline like?
Thanks so much for reading, I have noone to talk to and I keep weeping and munching chocolate. xxx
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Blocked tubes and so blue - Scotland IVF advice
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PheasantPlucker9 · 08/03/2020 18:58
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