I'm struggling tonight and it's hard to know where to turn sometimes. It's Valentine's day and I don't want to bring any of my family or friends down. My partner is with his kids tonight (that's another story.. his culture means his kids don't know about me yet, even though we've been together nearly 3 years). Anyway, I'm new to this site and just needed to reach out. I'm 40 now and I've had 2 ectopics, 1 miscarriage and most recently a chemical pregnancy. I have one tube left and I'm having a hycosy scan on Tuesday to find out if it's blocked. I so desperately want this scan so I can think clearly about the next step. Right now it's like I'm on this road with so many possible paths leading from it. I might fall pregnant again and have another ectopic, fall pregnant and have another miscarriage, fall pregnant and have another chemical pregnancy, not fall pregnant at all, or fall pregnant and everything be ok. Every month is a rollercoaster. Will I come on? Am I feeling pregnancy symptoms? Will it be ectopic again? Should I rest? Should I carry on as normal? Will I ever be a mum? I mean, I AM a mum to my angel babies and I think about them every day.. but will I ever have a living child? Should I give up on having my own baby and seriously consider adoption? Some days I feel the fire inside me and I'll never give up, but other days it's just too tiring and I can't deal with it any more.
I hate sounding so self pitiful. I'm lucky really, I have 2 amazing nephews and so much support from my partner, family and friends. But I needed to reach out.
Is anyone else here going through this uncertainty? Is anyone else wondering where to draw the line and look into adoption?
Thanks for listening.
Becky.
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Beck268 · 14/02/2020 22:35
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