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WantToBeMum Tue 28-Jan-20 18:41:12

Hi all, still a bit new to this site, I hope I'm in the right place. Trying to avoid the grumblings of AIBU.
I'm looking for comments and advice please.
I am planning to conceive using donor egg and donor sperm, and although I am British I am looking at overseas clinics purely to reduce costs.
So far I've looked at Spain, Greece, Cyprus, etc., where they mention anonymous egg donors from Eastern Europe being a match for UK women. Is there anyone here who has gone down this route?
I plan to be open with future child about their origins, so it's not that I want to secretly pass off a child as my own, but still I would want a similar appearance if only for the child's benefit of feeing that they fit in.
Am I overthinking this, do eggs of all nationalities mostly grow to look the same?
Should add that I also looked at Denmark where I would have a biological link but the waiting list for egg donation is too long.

allisonreed Wed 29-Jan-20 15:40:28

Hi there.

I traveled for IVF to Malaysia with a Ukrainian egg donor. The clinic price is much lower (I used the help of Fertility Associates clinic)and the legal regulations allow commercial egg donation. Here is where I`ve found the consultant www.eggdonors.asia/ivf-in-malaysia/ You can prop them an email or simply call. Irina and Alex were really helpful.

EarlGreyT Wed 29-Jan-20 21:30:35

I don’t think egg donation in Spain is any cheaper than in the uk. Greece is a little cheaper. Not sure about Cyprus.

If you go to Greece for treatment they have to ensure the donor is phenotypically like the recipient. My understanding is that this is a legal requirement in Greece.

ChocolateGateaux84 Wed 29-Jan-20 22:07:15

I have pmd you x

allisonreed Thu 30-Jan-20 07:40:34

It's illegal to pay for egg donation in the UK, that would probably be the main reason for travelling abroad. It is completely legal in Spain during the last 20 years or so.

Dozer Thu 30-Jan-20 07:43:04

It’d be very unethical.

Dozer Thu 30-Jan-20 07:58:43

It’s not “donation” it’s selling, and it’d likely be very hard for DC to trace bio parents.

ChocolateGateaux84 Thu 30-Jan-20 08:29:34

Wanttobemum. Might be good idea if you post on Fertility friends instead. You'll get a lot more support there.
Sadly mimsnet is full of judgemental people, and lots of people post on the infertility boards with no experience of it themselves.

Just to say as a mum via egg donation i am absolutely the real and biological/birth mother. Went through hell during my pregnancy and nearly died giving birth. Massive c section scar across my tum to show for it all.

EarlGreyT Thu 30-Jan-20 21:46:39

It's illegal to pay for egg donation in the UK, that would probably be the main reason for travelling abroad.

No it wouldn’t. The main reason to go abroad in my opinion is shorter waiting lists, cheaper treatment (sometimes) and because you can more easily get an exclusive donor so get all the eggs your donor produces (rather than an egg sharer where you only get half of the eggs collected). In the uk to get an exclusive donor you generally have to go through an agency like Altrui who have a fee and a long waiting list.

I have to agree with dozer that in some countries egg donation is not altruistic and is “selling” rather than donating. The possible exploitative element of this is unacceptable in my opinion and for that reason I would definitely avoid using a donor from somewhere like the Ukraine where desperate women in poverty sell their eggs for income.

I do agree with @ChocolateGateaux84 that there are people on mumsnet who come on the infertility boards and post judgemental comments when they have no experience of infertility. However unless you like twee language, unrealistic over positivity and “baby dust” fertility friends is not the place for you!

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