Hi Everyone
I just joined as I see a lot of discussion and insight on this topic of infertility and wanted to hear some views on my and my partner's current situation.
This is a bit long but I try and include as much info as possible to help get some insight.
A couple of years ago we got pregnant but it ended in an ectopic pregnancy, we were absolutely gutted. It took us a good year to even come to terms with it, and it felt like our world was falling apart.
Anyway after it we were hoping that we might have another chance, albeit chances cut a bit slim as we only had one tube now. A year and a half later we have not had even a sniff of another pregnancy.
So we decided IVF we came across some cash we could use and got the ball rolling. We have both never had kids but now we are over 40 and didn't want to wait any longer.
I know this over 40 thing is bandied about everywhere, and I know several women falling preggers at this age, it was that we just wanted to get a move on regardless as it was causing as massive stress.
Me being me I done a ton of research on this subject, I feel like a top grade reproductive doctor now lol, and as my partner has (pcos) which i'm not sure is entirely correct (no polyps on ovaries), we decided to start on a regime of myo-inositol, Vit D, fish oil, loosing weight, we even tried Chinese meds (The herb teas), which she hated, so we stopped that. In hindsight I don't know why we never just got acupuncture, we might bring that back in.
Anyway we went to first IVF consult, and I was dreading it because I knew the consultant was going to bandy all the usual stats about old eggs and the like, which he did but accepted we wanted to try anyway. Surprisingly we got AMH of 11.4 which he said was excellent for our age, and my swimmers were - to quote lab girl - really great, actually excellent. They also done the scan on ovaries and the one that was active with most eggs was the one the ectopic was removed from. One of the nurses said her TSH was a bit high so we got that reduced, over a Month, down from 4.4 to 2.08, and started 5mg folic as well. Still taking those now.
So once all the bloods, paperwork/consents/tests were finally out the way we went for retrieval. Again, waiting to go was like death row or something! We got 4 eggs and then we waited to the 3rd day to see results, again like waiting on death row.
3rd day came, the news was quite good, we had 3 out of 4 conceived, of those, 2 were really good grade A at 8 cells and the 3rd a wee bit behind.
So the transfer day was scheduled, and we went and got that done, it was day 5 transfers of all 3 eggs. Still the eggs looked good they said.
Once that was done we then waited and waited, not a full tww as we know, there wasn't anything she reported except sore boobs and nips, I thought probably the drugs. Then on Tuesday she got a bleed and said she felt like it was period, this was about 7 or 8 days after transfer, so I thought that is a bit late for implantation bleed. She freaked out so did I a bit then we hunkered down and waited for the test.
We both just knew it had failed and it had, we really were beyond gutted. Everything looked good, we didn't go over board just quietly confident but being realistic.
We know that IVF first time is more likely to fail than succeed. Anyhow after this happened I got to thinking when we went to the first consultation she had been asked about her period and the length of it, she said it's average 40 days, however the period before IVF came a bit earlier, and I reckon this was to do with the lowering of the TSH, and then the period we were waiting to do IVF on came at 29 days. Initially the plan was to start drugs before expected period start but that never happened, evidently they were calculating the day to start based on a 40 day period.
She phoned clinic and said period has started. They then said we could start you on the drugs right now. So I'm guessing they couldn't start on the drugs to stop period, but could still get the process underway.
Reason I'm thinking about mix up of dates when period was is that if the transfer was on Sunday the 24th on November (about midday) and new period started 3rd of December, 9 full days later, is this not a very late transfer. Her period this month was about 32 days. I thought the transfer was done about midway through cycle, if this is the case then it should have been the 18th, not the 24th. I'm going to sit down and go through the exact dates with her, but does this sound right, or wrong, to anyone?
Thanks for reading this and providing any thoughts/suggestions.
Andrew
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grifter01 · 06/12/2019 20:23
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