Hello,
I just wondered if anyone was going through IVF/fertility treatment to conceive a 2nd child?
I’ve just gone through a FET using my 2 remaining embryos that were conceived at the same time as my son who is now 2 years old, my OTD is wed but I’ve been bleeding heavily since Friday and tested negative so it’s pretty clear it hasn’t worked . I naively thought it would be easier this time around as I have my son but it’s been just as tough, if not harder in some respect and the emotions I’m feeling now are so different I just don’t know what to do next.
Im devastated it hasn’t worked and for the loss of my 2 little bundles of hope, knowing my son was part of that cycle makes it even harder to accept. It took 3 attempts to have him so I don’t know why I’ve been so stupid to hold out so much hope on them. I’m also racked with guilt for feeling this way when I have my son and there are people still trying for their first. But I cant ignore the longing for another child, going through this has just made it stronger yet I don’t know what to do next. Can I put myself and family through the emotional pain of another cycle, not to mention the mental and physical impact it has on me, it feels selfish on the one hand but then I know how much he would love a brother or sister. Plus it’s the cost now I have him to consider.
I’m finding it so hard, and really hard to talk about it as I think people think ‘We’ll you should be happy you have one’ .. and I know I’m lucky and am bursting with love for him but I’m also bursting to add another to our family.
Sorry long message, I’m really struggling to deal with all these emotions and speak to people about it so if there is anyone in the same position or has been through the same I’d really appreciate speaking to someone who understands xxx
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Rachb18 · 04/11/2019 21:00
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