TtTC 19 Months - very lonely

(13 Posts)
Yas32 Sun 27-Oct-19 09:21:30


Weve been trying to concieve for what feels like an eternity.
Im currently going through a period of sadness & dark.
It feels so lonely because when i talk to my DH he becomes upset and emotional so i hate telling him how im feeling.

Anyone else in the same boat???

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Maisy24 Sun 27-Oct-19 13:48:59


We have been TTC for amount 15-16 months but only been tracking and pinpointing ovulation for around 10 months. It is normal to feel like this, we have good months and bad months. Just wanted to send some love and let you know you are not alone. Try to concentrate on the good things you have and keep telling yourself it will happen when it's meant to happen.

Have you had any tests done or anything?


Iwouldbecomplex Sun 27-Oct-19 16:26:40

You're not alone. I know it feels it sometimes, and it's hard when you don't know anyone in real life who is in the same boat, and even if your partner is good at talking about it and tries his best I don't think a man can really truely understand how you feel. But that's what forums like MN are there for - to get support from people who genuinely do understand and are in the same situation. There's loads of us and we get it.

DH and I have been TTC for 21 months. 2 chemical pregnancies, 3 failed IVF's, so so many tests and investigations. Currently in the middle of 4th ivf cycle. It all sucks really really badly. I feel for you, I really do. If you feel like you need more real life support have you considered a support group? I know it's not something everyone is up for, but you might find it helpful. And sometimes the only thing that keeps me going is doing the research, having a plan and feeling as in control of what's happening as possible. I'd like to say it gets easier, but for me it doesn't. Hopefully you won't be in this position for a long time but you might be, and you need to find a way to make it as easy on yourself as you can. 💐💐 xxx

HelloViroids Sun 27-Oct-19 16:29:21

Have also been TTC for 21 months, although was pregnant for 3 of those before MMC. It does feel very lonely, I

Yas32 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:45:18


Just an update

We have been seeing the fertility Drs and theyve agreed to freeze my husbands sperm in case the quality drops
We are going down the adoption route, initial visit is due this week Thursday. So excited & nervous.

I hope you have good news to share.

Weve been trying to get pregnant nearly 2 years now with no joy due to husbands sperm quality being so low.
We might do IVF in the future but not at present.

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Mrs32 Wed 10-Mar-21 18:45:28

Girls i hope youre all doing alright. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need to talk to someone who understands the struggles.

Mrs32 Wed 10-Mar-21 18:46:26

@iwouldbecomplex any news on your 4th cycle? I pray things are going healthy and well


Iwouldbecomplex Wed 10-Mar-21 18:57:20

Hi @Mrs32 I'm afraid the cycle failed - chemical pregnancy and one frozen embryo.

After it we started to make plans to change to ARGC and full Chicago immune tests but then lockdown hit and forced us to stop for a while which in turn make us rethink everything. Came to the decision about 9 months ago to stop ivf and move on with our lives. We donated our frozen embryo to research and honestly feel like it's the best decision we ever made. I don't think we'll ever have a baby and I honestly don't think it's the end of the world, although at one point back in the ivf time it felt like it would be.

I hope everything has gone ok for you x

Mrs32 Thu 11-Mar-21 19:36:01

@iwouldbecomplex im sorry things didnt work out for you but you have made the best decisions for you.
It cant have been easy but i feel like once youve decided and have come to peace with things it helps get yourself back to living life again and not being totally focused on 1 thing.

We have decided about the future and we want to adopt as i would like multiple kids. We need to do what works best for us at the end of the day.

I wish you ever happiness hun x

Iwouldbecomplex Thu 11-Mar-21 19:38:11

Wishing you every happiness too.x

TheInstructor Mon 15-Mar-21 19:16:34

i know how you feel, we've been ttc for three years, but we wouldn't let infertility make us grow apart, even though a couple of times we came close to it, but now that we're going to try ivf, we are more relaxed, as if we resigned ourselves to the fact that this is our last chance, and if we fail, we'll move on. For the time being, find a new hobby to do together, keep trying, but not let the "failure" come between you.

Mrs32 Mon 29-Mar-21 03:02:22

Thank you for your kind words & advice.
Hubby has opened up & we are talking about things which have been painful yo discuss in the past to fo with TTC
Thankfully this has been really good for us both.

Hope everyone is well on here

TheInstructor Thu 01-Apr-21 21:51:45


Thank you for your kind words & advice.
Hubby has opened up & we are talking about things which have been painful yo discuss in the past to fo with TTC
Thankfully this has been really good for us both.

Hope everyone is well on here

I'm so happy for you. Continue in the same spirit, sharing saves our relationships <3

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