Hi,
So my partner and I have been ttc with no success. All bloods and SA have come back okay so we've been told it's 'unexplained infertility' and I have been told to lose weight so we are eligible for IVF.
However, my brother and his gf had a baby in July. They didn't really want children but she had just turned 40 so decided they'd better give it a try. She got pregnant first month. Told us how inconvenient her being pregnant was because she was so busy at work and her due date coincided with something she didn't want to miss. Told my parents at 8 weeks that if she miscarried she wouldn't bother trying again as she'd tried once and that was enough. Huge dramatics throughout the 9 months over what was, a very easy and simple pregnancy. Birth was equally drama filled with many texts stating things like 'your grandchild will be here soon even if they have to cut him out of me'. He's here now and is very cute etc and they are enjoying having him.
But I am finding this SO hard to deal with. In my head they didn't even really want a child and yet were blessed with one immediately. I'm sent photos all the time from my parents and from them even though I've told them it upsets me and I would rather they didn't. I've got a family meal coming up next week and know it's all going to be spent fawning over the new grandchild and I'm going to be expected to join in even though my period is due that day and I'll be facing yet another month where I'm accepting I won't be a Mum.
I know I sound bitter and twisted and insanely jealous, and that's because I am! The only thing I have ever wanted is to be a Mum and it's killing me to have someone so close to me not be bothered about it and just get what I want so badly immediately and without thinking. How do people cope with this? How can I stop feeling so horrible towards my nephew and so bitter that my parents want to spend time with him and my brother/SIL? Am I just an awful person for feeling this way?
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Ilovewheelychairs · 24/10/2019 13:14
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