Hi everyone,
My husband and I have been TTC for 18 months. I'm 36, he's 41. After 6 months TTC we were referred for some sperm & blood tests. We then got lost in the system and have only just got back on track. We had our appt with the consultant yesterday and it was shocking - I won't go into the full details, but it was awful from start to finish including the receptionist touching my husband's stomach and making a male pregnancy joke (my husband is normal weight, doesn't have a big belly), the consultant barking at us that the amount we have sex "ISN'T ADEQUATE" (he had misunderstood our reply to his question), he didn't introduce himself, explain what to expect or anything, just avoided eye contact and asked the same questions we're always asked and then he left us alone in a room for ages without a clue what was going on, until a lovely nurse turned up to talk us through the bundles of paperwork he'd shoved at us over the table. These appointments are always really emotive, I don't understand how the consultants aren't trained to have more empathy?
Anyway - my London borough doesn't fund fertility treatment. Our consultant is horrible. We're booked in to have some more scans, blood tests and sperm analysis and I am wondering: should we get the tests done on the NHS and then go private? Should we move house to a better borough? Should we stick at it and cross our fingers? Should we ditch it now and use our overdraft to pay for the tests? I'd love your experience & ideas
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Advice please: nightmare consultant, no NHS funding - what next?
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Sylva123 · 03/08/2019 11:57
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