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Is anyone else facing fertility issues in their 20s?

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StrawberrySundance Sun 14-Jul-19 00:32:55

I am 27, been TTC for 1.5 years and I'm tired of being told that I'm young young it'll happen hmm

We have been sloppy with birth control for 7 years and never had an accident so I wasn't surprised when months slipped past without a bfp despite our best efforts. I feel sick when I think about the money I've wasted on opks and pregnancy tests.

I can't discuss this with anyone in real life. My friends aren't having babies. My mum would fall into hysterics and tell me to pray and go to church. I am trying to stay positive with DP, so reluctant to talk to him much.

I just feel so alone.

Yeah, I am late 20s, trying 2.5 years. I think there's a wide range of ages on here.

Unlike you a lot of my friends are married and having their first baby now, which has been hard. Weirdly I don't find the babies hard, just the pregnancy if that makes sense.

GreyC Sun 14-Jul-19 09:19:15

I’m 28 and Been ttc for 2years. I’m the same the babies I don’t mind with my friends it’s the pregnancy!

We are about to start ivf as it is due to MFI

Missmonkeypenny Sun 14-Jul-19 13:32:26

We were, OP. We’re currently 14 weeks after our first round of IVF but we started the IVF process when I was 23 and DH was 24; we did our round of IVF at 24 &25. It took a lot of shouting to be heard by GPs due to age but luckily someone listened as we did have severe Male factor infertility.

Infertility doesn’t pick an age and actually, in so many respects, if there are issues it’s fare better to identify them now rather than in your late thirties.

StrawberrySundance Sun 14-Jul-19 16:45:44

Infertility doesn’t pick an age and actually, in so many respects, if there are issues it’s fare better to identify them now rather than in your late thirties.

Absolutely. I'd hate to be dealing with this with the added pressure of age hanging over my head.

Eggcellent29 Sun 14-Jul-19 20:12:44

I was told I would never have my own children when I was 27 - we had been trying for 3 months and were basically told not to bother.

I won’t bore you with the details, but you are absolutely not alone!

Drop me a message if you ever want someone to talk to!

Pinkroseuk Sun 14-Jul-19 20:30:10

We are too- trying for two and half years - we have been told IVF is our only hope when my weight is within there range but die to PCOS I'm finding it really hard to loose :/ now starting to look at other options..

ivf2019 Mon 15-Jul-19 11:38:20

Same here - and so pleased to see people who feel the same about pregnancy! I am absolutely fine with babies but being around pregnant women sends me into a spiral.

Just turned 28, TTC naturally since I was 25 so over 2 years, and starting our first IVF cycle in 3 weeks. I have a genetic issue that means 50% of my eggs are chromosomally unbalanced, and any baby from those eggs would likely die before birth or shortly after, which is why we're eligible for IVF earlier than normal. I feel very lucky to have the IVF option while we're still fairly young but also so unlucky to have to deal with this and terrified that it won't work.

Congratulations @Missmonkeypenny - hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly!

What a shame that we're in this boat but at least nobody is doing it alone xx

StrawberrySundance Tue 16-Jul-19 12:43:10

Got SA results today... It's not looking good. I was expecting it in a way but still feel quite stunned. Waiting for an appointment at the bank and keep crying a bit.

Going to a family event tomorrow with 2 pregnant women there. Not sure I'll be and to cope. Gahhhhh

theruffles Tue 16-Jul-19 15:49:44

I was - we started TTC when I was 28. I have PCOS and had 3 rounds of Clomid but the third round worked and we now have a lovely DD (born when I was 30). I'm very grateful for her and, even though our time TTC was short by what others may be experiencing, I don't take it for granted that we were able to have her.

I know the horrible sinking feeling you get when you see someone else that's pregnant and it's all you want too. I felt like I saw pregnant ladies everywhere when we were TTC (probably just that I was noticing them more because I was focusing on trying to get pregnant and wanting a baby so much!)

livinthedream1995 Tue 16-Jul-19 19:23:42

I am. I'm 24 with a 4 year old and desperately want a sibling for him but 2 years after having the coil taken out and nothing. Admittedly some months have been better than others sex wise and I have crohns disease which was severe last year but is slowly improving. I conceived my son at 19, he was a massive shock and was the result of one time with no protection so I assumed it would be as easy this time. Alas, it is not. I'm sick of feeling so low waiting for my period to start, any slight spotting hoping it's implantation but it never is. I have 5 siblings and although I don't want this many kids (heck nooooooo), I want my son to have someone outside of mum and dad. I can't escape people asking when I'm having my next, I want to scream I'm fucking trying!!! But I lie and either say I don't want another whilst my crohns isn't in remission (which it might never be so no point waiting for that but it makes a good excuse) or my boy is so lively he wears me out already. Total solidarity lovely. It's heartbreaking.

GreyC Tue 16-Jul-19 20:08:08

We are hopefully starting ICSI in August smile scarey but exciting

StrawberrySundance Tue 16-Jul-19 20:11:40

GreyC

Oh good luck!

Can I ask about your journey to get there? How long did it take to reach that stage? Are you paying yourselves? How much is it?

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