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squirrelnutkins1 Tue 14-May-19 21:27:32

So we're nearly at 1000 posts.... setting this up ready for round 2 when the other is full.

I've tagged all the regulars I think (please forgive me if not ❤️❤️❤️) and anyone else who has commented on the thread ever if you'd like to come back and fill us in!

Here's to support and success 🎉💐



FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Fri 31-May-19 07:31:29

@2fingers22018 it’s is hard work! Hoping for some good news shortly so at least I feel like I’m moving forward!! Let’s us know what the docs say! Hope your feeling bit better this am! Xx

@veeboo thankyou at the clinic now just waiting feel a mixture of nerves and excitement! I don’t blame you letting your hair down and having some fun you deserve it xx

squirrelnutkins1 Fri 31-May-19 07:45:41

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF thinking of you!

@2fingers22018 sorry things are hard hun. Hope a good nights sleep has helped a bit xx

@veeboo ooh have a lovely time! Feels a real treat getting your hair done doesn't it!

@CloudSway missed your post yesterday! Have the best time! We LOVED NYC ❤️❤️❤️

@GreyC all the best for speaking to the clinic on wed. Hope they can give some insight as it seems really odd.

How are you girls? @VenusStarr @Kelly199

I'm nervous about my occy health appointment next week but hopefully it'll help me to talk about things.

Yeah, I'm in the tww. I'm on cycle day 30 so should know one way or another over the next few days.

Hope you all have a happy Friday.

2fingers22018 Fri 31-May-19 08:18:19

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF gd luck for ur scan keep us updated💗 @veeboo enjoy ur hen do @CloudsSway i dunno why i didnt c ur post either have fun im soo jealous lol @squirrelnutkins1 i really hope it helps u hun x everyone else having a gd start to the weekend?

veeboo Fri 31-May-19 08:36:00

Sorry @CloudSway I missed your post too! Hope you're enjoying NYC!! There was loads of advice in there. Mainly following a Mediterranean style diet but some good tips. I will post some stuff next week when I get back from the hen. The thing I remember off the top of my head was walnuts for good sperm!! Xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Fri 31-May-19 08:40:19

@squirrelnutkins thanks! Fingers crossed for you xx

So good news lining is thin and I can start the tablets have had to delay that for a few days as the next scan day would of been next Friday but I can’t do that day so told me to start the tablets on Monday next scan is 11th and if all good then transfer will be the 17th June smile

squirrelnutkins1 Fri 31-May-19 08:56:05

Ooooh sooo exciting!!!! 🎉🎉🎉 @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF nice to have some good news! Xx

Kelly199 Fri 31-May-19 09:13:56

@GreyC perhaps it was just because it was a hot day? If he's taking vitamins, that should improve things anyway (so I've read from others), so perhaps just ask for a repeat sa just to see? Xx

@CloudSway hope you enjoyed your food tour lol. I think I could do with one of those 🤣 Hope you're having a lovely time, I'd love to go!! xx

@squirrelnutkins1 great news on your Occ Health! Really hope it will help you by being able to talk to someone about things. Glad it's coming up soon for you. Hope you're ok.
I'm ok thank you. Wishing you luck 🤞🏼🤞🏼 are you just going to wait until af due date? How long are your cycles usually? xx

@2fingers22018 hope you're feeling ok. It's better to let it out! Sending hugs ❤️ xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF sending hugs, hope you're ok ❤️ Hope the scan goes ok today. Let us know xx
Just read your most recent post! Great news. Hope you feel a bit better now knowing a date!!! Really hope everything goes well and you have positive news!! Good luck ❤️🤞🏼🙏🏼 xx

@veeboo hope you have a good time in hen, be good to let your hair down and try and relax and enjoy.
Have my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼
I've got to the point of trying not to test until close to my af due date now too as was so sick of the continuous bfn.
Good luck for this month 🤞🏼🤞🏼 xx

Hope everyone else is ok and you all have a lovely day xx

squirrelnutkins1 Fri 31-May-19 09:54:23

@Kelly199 thanks 😘 I totally get why other people do it, but for me I don't believe in early testing, so if I've not come on by maybe thurs I'll test. My cycles vary and obv with the mc it's been a bit hard to track but my last few months have been 32,30,28,28 so on day 30 now and no symptoms either way! Have a really happy Friday lovely xxx

Kelly199 Fri 31-May-19 10:09:19

@squirrelnutkins1 definitely think that's the best thing to do! I'm going to try and do that this month too to avoid disappointment. I think I'll only test a few days earlier if I feel different than normal.
I know, of course. I really hope you have good news. You so deserve it. Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼 thank you. Hope you do too 😘❤️ xxx

veeboo Fri 31-May-19 10:21:49

Week @finallytakingtheplungewith ivf that's so exciting!! Dont know if it is your thing but I heard about an app mindful ivf which you might like if you want to try and keep calm (if that's possible!).

Thanks @kelly199 hope you're doing okay in a new cycle. I'm not testing this time, sick of seeing a single line. I might test if late which would be Friday/Sat so similar time to you @squirrelnutkins1. Fx!

veeboo Fri 31-May-19 10:22:11

That was supposed to say eeek! Not week!

GreyC Fri 31-May-19 10:28:34

Ooo ladies some good news!!
@finallytakingtheplungewithivf - fingerscrossed for you so tightly and @squirrelnutkins!!

I’m like you@veeboo I only test if I’m late which has been once! I can’t bare to see the white either

Kelly199 Fri 31-May-19 10:39:38

@veeboo good luck to you too! I completely get why! I try to, but sometimes it bothers me more not doing one! I'm going to try and hold off this month though as I too am sick of the disappointment.
I'm ok thank you. Last clomid tablet tonight then will have to get busy every other day lol xx

squirrelnutkins1 Fri 31-May-19 12:28:33

Thanks girls @Kelly199 @veeboo @GreyC here's hoping for us all 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

GreyC Fri 31-May-19 12:35:00

Added a photo - top one is yesterday and Bottom is today.
My app says I will ovulate today. Do you think it will be more likely tomorrow considering today’s result.
Makes me feel better to be doing something than nothing haha

veeboo Fri 31-May-19 12:40:30

I'd say that's positive now. Think you usually ovulate 12-36 hours after the surge so could be today or tomorrow @GreyC

Kelly199 Fri 31-May-19 12:52:16

@GreyC Bottom one definitely positive, so as @veeboo said, 12-36 hours after the surge first started! Good luck xx

GreyC Fri 31-May-19 13:09:26

Thanks; makes me feel better to be doing something even if they aren’t sure what’s going on with me or DP 🙈

Kelly199 Fri 31-May-19 14:00:37

@GreyC definitely! Just try. I would because you know you've done everything you can. Fingers crossed for you🤞🏼 xx

2fingers22018 Fri 31-May-19 16:20:01

@GreyC woohoo looks positive to me im just bout to poas for ovulation wish me luck haha @veeboo @squireelnutkins1 gd luck luvelies i went to my docs appt today got the paperwork filled out but the nurse was off sick so couldnt get me sexual health tests done think im just gonna get them done at the hospital i was just thinking if i get them done a mnth before they could say they need to retest anyway, plus i need to go to fill out consent forms. My doctor was soo bloody rude today didnt ask how long we d been ttc how we were coping just looked like she cba!

GreyC Fri 31-May-19 19:15:47

Thanks @2fingers! Have fun 😂 just done another and it’s super positive still.

What vitamins if any do you guys take and any good books you’d recommend?

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Sat 01-Jun-19 10:04:50

Thanks everyone just want to get to Monday now! Am a big sweaty mess to day had a night sweat last night and feel like I am constantly having a hot flush right now!!!

@greyc looks like a positive to me! We take pregnacare his and hers, books are it starts with an egg and ice all read I think it’s call a his and hers survival guide to Ivf which was an interesting read

CloudSway Sun 02-Jun-19 09:59:22

@finallytakingtheplungewithivf eeeeeek that's so exciting (The transfer date, not the night sweats) I'm so pleased for you, not long to go just hold on, we are all rooting for you!!!

@2fingers22018 good news too, you are going in the right direction. Sorry you've felt crap last few days. Hope you don't mind me asking, have you thought about letting another dog in your life? I know it won't be the same, but if you're a dog person I think you always feel better with a bit of doggy contact, even walking someone else's? It's a good reason to get out of your head and go for a walk too, but I know it might be too hard right now x oh just seeing u mention consent forms, do not underestimate how long that takes, we had to print our own out and fill them in, left it til the night before and it took 2 bloody hours!! The most disturbing thing I agreed to is Micro assisted laser hatching. HATCHING! I didn't even Google it I don't want to know lol
@veeboo woohoo, Mediterranean food and walnuts is a diet I can get on board with! Especially after eating burgers and Mac and cheese for 5 days, I miss vegetables lol. Hope you have a FAB time at the hen, glad you've had your hair done too, always makes me feel better 👍

CloudSway Sun 02-Jun-19 10:04:04

Also the holiday stopped me from doing early tests, which was good, but because I used opks of course I deluded myself that it would definitely happen this month, despite considerable evidence that it's very unlikely! So more than the usual amount of gutted to see af this month, however it was amazing to have an idea of when it would be and not get caught off guard! So going to carry on with opks this month too

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Sun 02-Jun-19 10:19:24

@cloudsway glad you had a good time!! It sounds like you’ve managed to relax sorry af came though! only one more day till I can start the tablets am very excited (even though I know I shouldn’t be and should keep a calm head as I know the chances of it working first time are low) just feels like we at least finally have a chance!!

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Sun 02-Jun-19 10:19:48

Hope everyone enjoyed the sun yesterday! Xx

2fingers22018 Sun 02-Jun-19 11:13:42

@CloudsSway happy you had a great hol by the sounds of it yh the opks do really help u know when afs comin. I have been thinking a lot about gettin another dog id feel too guilty just now as if i was replacing my gorgeous girl, but in a couple of months im goin to look into gettin another dog i really miss the walks in the park with her. It lifts your mood and ur right100% it gives me someone to fuss over and stay in a routine for. I miss her ALOT which doesnt help my mood tbh..
@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF its gd to have something to get excited for tho instead of just dtd and crossing your fingers i really hope you get your bfp hun after all this x

veeboo Sun 02-Jun-19 17:02:18

Hi ladies. Hope youve all had lovely weekends. @CloudSway sorry AF arrived. If you keep using opks it might start to help but obviously dont if it's too stressful.

So the hen do was difficult. I'm not sure I'll even get through typing this up. There were 3 pregnant women and tonnes of children/baby chat. Bride to be desperate to start trying and believes wont take long. I hadn't told many people there so I just kept wandering away. Then one of my friends dropped the bomb that she is 4 weeks pregnant. One night stand. Not keeping it and very distressed about it all. Not going to go into it as it's her story but I had to support her and couldn't bring myself to confide in anyone. It was really hard.

2fingers22018 Sun 02-Jun-19 17:19:29

@veeboo hugs hope ur alrite its situations like that that make you feel soo alone we all know how it feels on here so dont bottle it up. Its soo shit especially when uve been lookin forward to a nite out and ttc and pregnancy talk ruins it. Feels like theres no escaping it x

squirrelnutkins1 Sun 02-Jun-19 17:56:25

@veeboo couldn't read and run. You poor poor thing. I'm so sorry you had to go thru that. Big hugs to you xxxxx

veeboo Sun 02-Jun-19 18:48:51

Thanks ladies. I am giving myself a day to be sorry for myself and tomorrow starting the new eating routine. Then when AF comes this week I'm going to order all the vitamins I've been reading about. I know some of you were interested so I am going to look at omega 3 and CoQ10, a multivitamin for my DP and maybe one for me.

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 19:41:15

@2fingers22018 sorry about your appt. Some of them just seem so heartless and careless. Hope you're ok xx

@GreyC the only book I've read is "It Starts With The Egg". Some good things in there. We take Proceive vitamins and I take omega 3 and I've been taking NAC and Inositol too as I've heard that's supposed to be good for pcos. Been thinking about ubiquinol too, but it can become so expensive!! Maybe next month I'll add xx

@veeboo so so sorry about the hen, sounds awful! Must've been really hard for you, especially the one night stand that's going to have a termination! Makes me so angry that happens then there's people like us so desperate and going through so much. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

@squirrelnutkins1 @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF
@CloudSway @VenusStarr hope you're all ok. Sorry if I've missed anyone xx

CloudSway Sun 02-Jun-19 21:06:56

@veeboo oh no I'm so sorry, it's unfair you get stuck in these situations that you cant just leave, and you can't tell a whole load of people that they are being wildly insensitive. I'm pissed off on your behalf, at people and at life generally x
It must have been so difficult, maybe one day some of those girls will understand what you were going through and appreciate that you didn't scalp anyone... It was hard but you got through it so massive well done you xx

KH87 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:27:00

Hi would it be ok to join this thread my husband and I are starting testing for infertility.

squirrelnutkins1 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:29:12

I'm out this month so I've stuffed my face with choc and gin and tonic 💔😭💔😭

Of course! Welcome @KH87 tell us a bit about yourself and your situation xx

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:32:45

@squirrelnutkins1 so sorry!! Sending lots of love and hugs ❤️❤️❤️

@KH87 you're more than welcome. As @squirrelnutkins1 said, tell us a little about your situation xx

KH87 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:33:15

We have been ttc for 7 years put off going to the doctors and seeking help but have finally been and got some tests scheduled. I have had day 21 bloods taken Friday and day 2 bloods scheduled. My husband is giving his first sample end of June. We have an appointment 29th July at the fertility clinic. Feels so real and worrying now!
Can anyone share what happens at an appointment at the fertility clinic? Thank you.

veeboo Sun 02-Jun-19 22:33:49

Thanks @Kelly199 and @CloudSway I did give myself a pat on the back for how calm and supportive I remained. I might take a few days off from here and focus on diet and exercise this week. AF due weds/thurs. Sorry she has turned up for you @squirrelnutkins1. Hope you're okay. Welcome @KH87 we are a friendly bunch with varied stories

squirrelnutkins1 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:50:17

@veeboo you did amazing! Can't blame you for having a few days off. All the best for this month 🙏🏻

@KH87 sorry to hear your struggles. We are a lovely bunch if I don't say so myself 😂
First appointment is normally a LOT of questions about you and OH (both should attend) how often do you dtd, any traumatic history with OHs bit (!), family history etc etc. Then they'll make a plan. Maybe something like HSG/hycosy to see if your tubes are blocked or laparoscopy if signs of endometriosis etc.

Hope all of you have had a lovely weekend xxx

squirrelnutkins1 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:52:06

Thanks girls. Ah well, at least I can have a few drinks on hol next week. I'm such a light weight but maybe it'll help me relax lol @Kelly199 @veeboo

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:54:08

@veeboo whatever you need to do. We'll be here if you need support or need somewhere to vent. Take care of yourself. I'm going to try and do the same xx

@KH87 thank you for sharing your journey with us. Good that you have your appt scheduled. Hope it'll come around quickly for you (although it never does when you're waiting!!).
When I saw my gynaecologist/fertility specialist, she basically went through all the results I'd had done at the gp and what other tests I needed to make sure I had no blockages etc. Then talked about Clomid as the first step (which I'm currently taking). If Clomid doesn't work for me, then I go back to see her and will be discussing further about ivf xx

KH87 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:56:24

@squirrelnutkins1 thank you for your reply and sorry to hear you are out this month. Hope you are ok.

So nervous about the appointment so worried something will be wrong with me and it be my fault. Does a plan of treatment get made at the first appointment or is there more appointments (didn’t think to ask the doctor)

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:58:26

@KH87 yes, forgot the bit about the questions too! She did ask a lot of questions about me and my partner xx

@squirrelnutkins1 my weekend hasn't been bad thank you. More chilled than usual which was nice. Have you had a good weekend?
Hope you'll have a nice holiday next week. Yes, hopefully! Just enjoy yourself and try your best to relax. You really deserve a break xx

squirrelnutkins1 Sun 02-Jun-19 22:59:55

@CloudSway sorry about af ☹️ glad you had a fab hol x

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF glad you're so excited 😊 keep us posted!

@KH87 our plan was made at first appointment 👍🏻
I know it's easier said than done but don't go down the blame route. It's no ones fault, it's just a crappy situation.

KH87 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:00:05

@Kelly199 thank you for that information. Did you get clomid at your first appointment or after further testing?
I hope the appointment comes around quickly but like you say probably not since we are waiting for it.

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:02:03

@KH87 I think it varies depending on your results and what the problem may be, but they'll probably discuss what it's likely going to be moving forward and then they'll probably arrange for other tests. They'll then wait for the results of those before going ahead with a plan. This was just in my experience, so I'm not sure if you'd be the same xx

KH87 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:03:16

@squirrelnutkins1 that’s good to hear hopefully we will have a plan first appointment also.

I know I shouldn’t and you’re right it is just a crappy situation.

squirrelnutkins1 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:04:04

@Kelly199 glad it was chilled for you 😊 pretty crappy tbh, OH has been really down all week and I'm struggling to keep chirpy for him. But chin up and we'll just try again 👍🏻

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:08:36

@KH87 no problem at all. They wouldn't give me clomid until I had had my bloods done (the ones you have already had/are having), a few internal scans (mainly to confirm my pcos), and I had to have a HyCoSy to make sure that I didn't have any blockages. After I had that, she gave me the prescription. I'm on my third month of it now so have another 3 before I'd need to go back, but hopefully it won't come to that!
Yes, it's so horrible waiting, but at least you're moving forward now xx

@squirrelnutkins1 of course! It must be so hard for you both. You both deserve a break. What day are you going?
It is crap trying to be the strong one all the time.
Hope your hol will relax you both so you can have a nice break together and I'll keep my fingers crossed for better news next cycle for you 🤞🏼 ❤️ xx

KH87 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:18:19

@Kelly199 hopefully you will get some good news before going back. Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

Kelly199 Sun 02-Jun-19 23:20:14

@KH87 no problem at all. We're here whenever you need any support/advice. Good luck with the tests xx

KH87 Mon 03-Jun-19 07:01:10

@Kelly199 that’s very kind thank you. And likewise if I can be of any help to anyone I am here aswell.

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Mon 03-Jun-19 07:22:38

@2fingers22018 thankyou!
@veeboo sorry you had such a terrible time at the hen do! If ur helps I’d try think of it as they don’t know your situation and hopefully if they did there wouldn’t of been so much talk about it all! Big hugs to you!!
@kelly199 I’m good thanks hope you are too? Did you have a nice weekend?
@squirrelnutkins sorry af came but like you say means you can relax and enjoy your holidays days! I will keep you posted!
@KH87 welcome everyone is so lovely on here and we are all at different stages so we all have some knowledge on different things and are very supportive!!

So I spent last night putting reminders in my phone so I can’t forget my tabs will be taking my first one shortly!!

Kelly199 Mon 03-Jun-19 08:18:20

@KH87 thank you xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF I'm good thank you. Had a good weekend too, did you?
That's a good idea! Have you got to take these up until transfer now? (Sorry I know you've probably already said) xx

Kelly199 Mon 03-Jun-19 08:18:42

Hope everyone is ok and you all have a good day 😊

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Mon 03-Jun-19 09:50:20

@kelly199 yes was good thanks! Well two aday for 6 days then have to take 3 a day after that I assume till transfer

Kelly199 Mon 03-Jun-19 10:26:15

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF hope you'll be ok taking them xx

squirrelnutkins1 Mon 03-Jun-19 18:31:29

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF it's getting closer! Eek! Xx

2fingers22018 Mon 03-Jun-19 19:04:42

Was out with my sister today(whos pregnant) and she started askin bout the ivf appt i almost burst in tears! I feel soo bad i feel like im puttin a dampener on her experience, i dnt want this to put a wedge between us but its soo hard😢 im totally excited for her she ll b a great mum but shes my younger sister this isnt how you imagine it to work out...@KH87 welcome i honestly dnt know how uve coped ttc that long fx ul now get some answers and the help u need x @Kelly199 how are you hun @squirrelnutkins1 enjoy ur holiday @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF when did u say ur transfer would be sorry i know u prob said but my memorys crap lol @veeboo u doing k uve been quiet?if ur takin a break thats fine we ll catch up soon

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Mon 03-Jun-19 19:15:59

@kelly199 thanks the headache is starting seems to be my thing I assume it’s just my body’s way of coping so I’m going to assume it will be a bad one tomorrow just got to make sure I’m drinking plenty!!
@squitrelnutkins lol I know I am a little bit eek about it all! How are you today?
2fingers22018 sorry your feeling upset I’m sure your sister doesn’t think your putting a dampener on it all! I’m sure she may be thinking it’s awkward aswell! Big hugs to you!! It’s looking like the 17th but will now more at my next scan which is the 11th to see how my lining getting on

2fingers22018 Mon 03-Jun-19 19:48:38

@FinallytakingtheplungwithIVF thats whats upsettin me that things are awkward between us i dnt want to her feel guilty talking about her pregnancy but she does i know she does i can feel it. Its horrible😟 nxt wk then xciting i bet u cant wait until its all done now! X

KH87 Mon 03-Jun-19 19:53:04

@2fingers22018 we just kept putting off going to see the doctor hoping every month it would be the month. It’s started to get harder and harder every failed month so knew we had to get seen and tested.

I am sure your sister understands, hope your feeling ok now. Are you doing ivf or just at the information stage?

KH87 Mon 03-Jun-19 19:54:42

@finallytakingtheplungewithivf exciting times for you hope you are feeling ok with all the meds etc

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Mon 03-Jun-19 20:04:09

@2fingers22018 oh sorry I miss understood!! It must be hard for both of you!

@KH87 thankyou it’s been tough I won’t lie but we getting there and hopefully will be worth it!

GreyC Mon 03-Jun-19 20:05:22

I’m sorry to here not all of us had great weekends.
I understand @2fingers22018 it’s not the same but i know my brother is trying and I’m expecting it every time he calls me! He’s two years younger aswell.
@finallytakingtheplunge- fingers and toes crossed for you!!
Welcome @KH87! Everyone is fabulous here!
@squirrelnutkins1 sorry about AF - enjoy your gin!
@kelly - back at work after half term and such a busy day back at school 🙈

Quick Q; a few days after I get a positive ovulation test (so to long to be ovulation pains I think!) I get the worst period type aches below my hip bones. You know that burning ache?! I have no idea what it is!

2fingers22018 Mon 03-Jun-19 20:18:18

@KH87 we did the exact same we re 4yrs ttc now, just got an appt to start ivf beginning of nxt month. Well we have to fillout consent forms and get bloods taken @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF dont be silly its fine lol @GreyC i knew theyd b ttc they just got married so i did have time to think bout it but its still tough i was like u waiting on the phone call. Im weird with ovulation pains i normally get cramps over a wk before i get af, dnt mean to worry u but have u been checked for cysts on ur ovaries?

GreyC Mon 03-Jun-19 20:26:16

@2fingers - I paid to have a private scan and they didn’t say anything about any cysts on my ovaries. I’m due to have another scan on Wednesday so a good check Incase anything new. I get some period pains but always after ovulation time i get pains. So strange!

KH87 Mon 03-Jun-19 20:54:09

@GreyC thank you everyone does seem lovely.

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF will keep my fingers crossed for you.

@2fingers22018 bet you can't wait to get started hope it goes ok for you.

Kelly199 Mon 03-Jun-19 21:43:39

@2fingers22018 aww must be so hard. Don't feel bad the way you feel, it's totally understandable. Fingers crossed you'll have your good news soon and these feelings will be a thing of the past, but for now, let yourself feel how you feel. At least we understand and you can come and rant on here. Sending hugs. Hope you'll be ok. xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF hope you'll be ok. Yeah, just keep hydrated. Won't be long before your transfer date is here!!🤞🏼 xx

@GreyC oh no!! Bet the time went so quick too! Always does when you have some time off! Hope you had a nice half term!
Since I've been on clomid I've had pains intermittently until my af. Although, they weren't intense? So I'm not sure.. you have it every month do you? Ask when you go for your scan xx

VenusStarr Tue 04-Jun-19 19:08:01

Hey everyone, thanks for the messages and for thinking of me. Hope you're all OK. I'm massively behind on everyone's news.

We're having a month off ttc as got my hsg on Thursday. I'm quite liking not being hyper aware of my body and cycle. I'm having a scan as well on Thursday so it should show I've ovulated this cycle. Undecided whether to stop ttc until the consultant appointment as I've got the hysteroscopy in August too. Thinking it might be nice to have a proper break. Things are still stressful, dh is still ill, although home now, my nan is still holding on and I'm really run down with a horrible cold. Roll on next Saturday for our holiday.

Hoping you're all OK, I'll try and get up to speed... Xxx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 05-Jun-19 07:21:28

Morning all hope we are all ok it’s gone quiet!
@venusStarr sounds like you are ready for a break and will hopefully give you some time to relax!! Hope you have a nice holiday!

Update from me now I’m taking the progynova there are no more night sweats or hot flushes so that’s good news!! Headache has gone aswell! So no real symptoms from this. a week till my next scan just want it to hurry up and get here so I can hopefully start count down till transfer! Mind you I am worried about having the whole full bladder to do this while having my legs in stirrups and someone pressing on my stomach to scan me! Must remember to ask the question of the best way to go about it can just imagine it be me that’s wee’s on some one 😱

Kelly199 Wed 05-Jun-19 08:35:41

@VenusStarr hope your hsg will go ok tomorrow.
Yes, it would nice for a break! Be nice not to constantly be monitoring etc.
Sorry things are not good at the moment.
Hope dh gets better.
Really sorry, must've missed your message about your nan unless I've completely forgotten! Sending hugs xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF morning! I know, it has!
Glad it's better now! One step closer!!
Haha, I think I'd worry the same! Whatever the case, I'm sure they've seen it all before and heard it all before. Everyone probably worries about the same thing lol.
Hope everything will be ok now. Not long!!! So exciting xxx

Hope everyone is ok and has a good day xx

KH87 Wed 05-Jun-19 11:36:48

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF glad you are feeling better and I bet everyone thinks the same lol

I got some blood tests back yesterday and I have an under active thyroid starting medication for it so hopefully that improves our chances. Still doing the other tests to check there’s nothing else wrong with us.

2fingers22018 Wed 05-Jun-19 12:22:24

@KH87 ive heard that can affect fertility id say thats a gd thing its easily fixed with meds my aunty had it yrs ago and now she takes meds its fine fx this is the solution u need x @Kelly199 how u gettin on with ur clomid? @VenusStarr happy to hear u back on here sorry its been soo rough for u hun hugs did they ever find out what was causing ur OH to b ill? Oh no is ur nan ill aswell? Poor u! Bad enough worryin bout 1family member never mind2! Try and enjoy ur hol sounds like u need it @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF i know it has been unusually quiet lol do u need a full bladder during the transfer or is it a scan before? God that does sound bad when i had my hycosy i kept tensing up worryin a bit of pee might come out😂the things that go through ur mind during all this stuff makes u paranoid lol

Kelly199 Wed 05-Jun-19 12:22:36

@KH87 sorry about your thyroid, but at least you're being medicated for it now!
Hope your other tests will come back ok xx

Kelly199 Wed 05-Jun-19 12:24:16

@2fingers22018 I'm ok thank you. On CD11, so dtd every other day!
How are you? Coming closer to your appointment! Xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 05-Jun-19 12:29:56

KH87 as 2fingers said I’ve read that can affect fertility so fingers crossed everything else is fine and that with the meds it will increase your chances!

@2finger22018 yes you need a full bladder for et as apparently it makes it easier for them but means more hard work for us ladies!! Like the whole process isn’t invasive enough with out having to worry about weeing on your consultant aswell 😂

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 05-Jun-19 12:31:03

@kelly199 fingers crossed for you!!!

2fingers22018 Wed 05-Jun-19 12:33:45

@Kelly199 yh nxt month i think we re goin to take a break from ttc until then. I know it sounds crazy and its not what i really want to do but its puttin my OH under too much stress atm hes not been feeling well at all! We re on holiday from work nxt wk and we re just goin to try our best to have fun go a few road trips here and there. Basically chill out fx xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 05-Jun-19 12:38:15

@2fingers22018 that sounds like a plan Just enjoy being together and doing some nice stuff will help you both relax!

KH87 Wed 05-Jun-19 14:32:58

@2fingers22018 the doctor said she reckons that’s going to be the main reason we are having issues with fertility. Would be good if it was a simple fix.

@kelly199 thank you. How are you?

GreyC Wed 05-Jun-19 17:52:57

So scan for me went well all healthy etc! Which is greatDP SA low and not good motility so IVF is the only option the NHS will fund.

I’m confused by it all; we only get one round of IVF; but what happens if they get and then fertilise say 12 good eggs. How many transfers will I get? Just one or as many untill the eggs run out before we have to pay?!
Hopefully it will work first time but... it’s a worry.
Also fingers crossed my FSH is below 8:9 as GP messed up the testing day!

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 05-Jun-19 18:23:18

@greyc glad your scan went well! Sorry that you have to have ivf. I can’t help with what they do with more eggs after you’ve had a transfer. They will probably freeze them not sure how that works on the nhs though xx

GreyC Wed 05-Jun-19 18:26:38

Another question I should have asked 😔 I’m going to give them a ring anyway as they have a sit and wait blood test morning Saturday incase that turns out to be my day 2. And I can’t find any Info on where to go haha!
Positive there is a plan of action though.
How is your cycle going ?

CloudSway Wed 05-Jun-19 20:20:44

I'm sure my consultant said IVF is literally fertilizing an egg outside the body so if you get a ton of good blastocysts (no idea how that's spelt!) then technically you are still just on one IVF - dunno how nhs works though as far as transfer and freezing goes. We have to pay extra for freezing, but there is a 10% chance thawing can destroy the eggs apparently, so worth it if you have a few, but if you only get a couple better to just stick them back in sharpish.

Def recommend anyone having a ttc break go for it, you find you automatically know when is best, but it's way less clinical because you aren't peeing on sticks and talking numbers. Found it far less stressful than when we started over analysing..

Have a fab break @2fingers22018, well deserved!

@finallytakingtheplungewithivf ha, peeing on a doctor is 100% what I'd be stressing over, do you think it's a ploy to distract us lol?! Seriously though, dh is a nurse and the things he comes out with that he doesn't bat an eyelid at, he doesn't even think it's interesting! So I bet they are the same, just the day job, another wee on the apron, whatevs 😆

squirrelnutkins1 Wed 05-Jun-19 22:07:03

Hi all. Hope you're all doing ok. Just been catching up on everyone's news.

All the best for tomorrow ❤️ @VenusStarr

Hope it's an easy fix 😊 @KH87

😂 weeing on the doctor 😂 please try not to! @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF

@2fingers22018 enjoy your time off!

@GreyC sorry about OHs results but glad you've got a plan 👍🏻

@CloudSway @Kelly199 how are you ladies?

Sorry if I've missed anyone.

I'll be honest, I've been feeling SOOOOO angry this last few days since being on AF. I don't know if it's just period hormones or whether it's part of the grieving process or both. It's not like me at all tho. I really wanted to kick off on Monday and kick shout and scream. Everything about OH is annoying me, for no reason. He's very understanding about me being angry at him for no reason 🙈 Got my occy health assessment on Friday. Think I do need some help. Think I've been too proud to admit it. Xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 05-Jun-19 22:11:38

@cloudsway another wee on the apron 😂😂 that has tickled me!! I’m sure I read somewhere it does happen the closer it’s getting the more I’m worried about it! 😂

@squirrelnutkins I will deffo try not too!!! Sorry your feeling angry sounds like it could be both which is understandable so be angry and do what you need to feel better x

VenusStarr Thu 06-Jun-19 06:38:38

Thank you @squirrelnutkins1, am feeling quite anxious, didn't get much sleep. Its first thing so getting up now. I'm glad dh is still signed off so he's coming with me. Hope you're OK 💜 not long until you have your break.

Sorry @Kelly199 I can't remember if I did actually say, my head is all over the place. My nan had a seizure and is in hospital. She's not going to come home, so we're just waiting 😔 it's really sad. She's 91 and not aware at all, just want her to be out of pain now. Hope you are doing well.

Hope everyone else is OK. I'll check back in later xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Thu 06-Jun-19 07:03:49

Hope it goes well @venusStar!! Let us know how you get on!! Sorry about your nan thinking of you big hugs x

Kelly199 Thu 06-Jun-19 08:45:08

@2fingers22018 yes, it is hard. Hope you're ok. Hope you'll have a lovely time. Just try and relax and enjoy your time off. It'll be lovely xx

@KH87 I'm good thank you. How are you? Xx

@GreyC glad scan was ok. Sorry you're only option is ivf!
Not too sure about that, but it's a good question. I'd like to know that too xx

@CloudSway I think a break is a good idea. I think one will be on the horizon for me and dp soon as I'm finding myself getting too obsessed and down all the time waiting for certain times of the month etc. Think I'll maybe give it another month of clomid after this and have a break then.
How are you? Xx

@VenusStarr good luck with your hsg today! Aww I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking when ones we love are in that situation. Hope she will go peacefully so she is out of pain. Sending hugs ❤️Xx

@squirrelnutkins1 I'm ok thank you. No surprises there. You've gone through A LOT.
Hope your occ health will go ok on Friday and I hope you'll be glad you made the appt. It's ok to ask for help. We're only human and can only take so much. It's obviously taking its toll on you. Be good to get it all out and have someone to talk to. Sending hugs ❤️

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF hope you're ok and still not worrying about weeing 😂 how are you feeling? Headaches etc. Still no show? Xx

Hope everyone else is ok. Really sorry if I've missed anyone xx

VenusStarr Thu 06-Jun-19 09:21:46

Why do they make you wait in the same area as people who are heavily pregnant? 😢 Just had a proper cry in the waiting room. It's brought back all the miscarriage stuff. I should be 5 months pregnant now. In my hospital gown waiting to be taken through... 💔😢

Kelly199 Thu 06-Jun-19 09:36:31

@VenusStarr aww I'm so so sorry that's happened to you. It should be changed. Not fair for you. Sending you lots of love and hugs ❤️ good luck with your hsg. Really hope everything will be ok. Let us know xx

squirrelnutkins1 Thu 06-Jun-19 10:16:02

@VenusStarr big hugs and love xxxxxxx

VenusStarr Thu 06-Jun-19 11:44:26

Thank you both 💜 @squirrelnutkins1 @Kelly199

Hsg was really painful. Dye went through one tube fine, it went into the other tube but they weren't 100% sure it came out but didn't want to carry on as I was so uncomfortable. We had a chat after and the said they would review the images but weren't concerned as the dye could favour a side, and I have a tilted uterus. Just come out from my scan, I have ovulated this cycle but everything is looking OK, lots of fibroids which I knew so no new information there. Feel absolutely drained. So glad I'm not going into work, just going home to rest now xxx

Kelly199 Thu 06-Jun-19 13:08:26

@VenusStarr I didn't have a great experience either to be honest!
Hope you're ok now. Glad they're not concerned and hope everything will be ok after they're reviewed.
What's the next step now? Do you know? Sorry if you've already said.
Go home and try to relax. Sending hugs ❤️ xxx

Can any of you ladies help please?
I have just had ewcm. That just means I should ovulate soon doesn't it? Had negative opk this am (as anticipated), but ew doesn't mean soon as in very soon, does it? Could be for days? I'm predicting it'll be Saturday or Sunday?

VenusStarr Thu 06-Jun-19 13:14:24

Thanks @Kelly199 sorry you didn't have a good experience either. Don't want to do that again. Even more anxious for the hysteroscopy now sad got that in August then seeing consultant in September. Really hope I don't need the laparoscopy too. Feeling very sorry for myself!

Ewcm is a good sign, think you can have it for around 5 days before ovulation, so good timing. I think it is better to dtd a day or so before ovulation. I've akwats thought if you see ewcm then dtd 🤞 xx

Kelly199 Thu 06-Jun-19 13:38:07

@VenusStarr haven't had that. Is that a similar thing? Hopefully you won't have to have the laparoscopy. Yes, take care of yourself. It is a lot to go through and a lot on your mind. Try and relax.
Oh that's good then!! I dtd yesterday so not due again until tomorrow lol. I haven't had a +opk anyway, so hopefully I should have one soon and it should all time well! Xxx

squirrelnutkins1 Thu 06-Jun-19 13:53:54

Aww sorry it was so painful ☹️ get yourself all snuggled up with a good film and a cuppa xxx @VenusStarr

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Thu 06-Jun-19 17:18:24

@kelly199 im ok have a headache today but then I know I haven’t drank enough so will try and get through some this evening but apart from that hot flushes and night sweats have now subsided thanks to the progynova! Yes weeing on the consultant is still my biggest worry at the moment I suppose I should be worrying about my lining and sending positive vibes to make it thick and comfy lol! Hope your ok too? U usually get ewcm a fair few days before ovulation so keep on dtd!

@venusStar sorry your hsg was painful hope your being kind to your self this afternoon xx

veeboo Thu 06-Jun-19 19:38:32

Hi all. Long post...So I've had a few days break after the stressful hen do. Af is also now here. I had a total meltdown at DP about my view he isn't trying hard enough but I think that was unfair really.

I emailed the clinic a load of stressy questions and they emailed back immediately covering everything. It was so reassuring! They have a bit of a backlog but we are going to attempt to get on my September cycle and go from there. So this cycle I have started to eat much more healthily focusing on protein and my vitimain/mineral intake etc. I'm also starting pregnacare which I've always been sceptical about and i've booked acupuncture. My next AF is due the day we go on holiday!

I still have an issue with people saying stupid things. One friend asked me if I was sure my DP really wants a baby because surely he would have sorted his ED out by now. I did call her out on that. Another sent me a list of vitamins...because its all because I'm not taking omega3!

How are you all? I'm bound to miss someone. What's next for you @finallytakingtheplungewithivf?

@squirrelnutkins I think talking to someone is very brave and will be a helpful step. Good luck.

@venusstarr I hope you are relaxing. Sorry it was so painful. When will you follow up?

@KH87 sounds optimistic about treating the thyroid issue. Welcome to the thread by the way!

@GreyC how are you feeling about ivf? Hope everyone else alright @kelly199 @CloudSway @2fingers22018 xx

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