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The double baby bomb

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Holly19 Fri 10-May-19 22:04:14

Will it ever get easier? I was looking forward to a good weekend and now I just feel down. It sucks. That’s about it really

Catren Sun 12-May-19 09:43:33

I'm not sure if it gets easier, maybe you get better at coping/ hiding it. I'm so sorry you've had a hard weekend. Do others know that you're struggling? It can be easier to hear with a text rather than face to face, but sometimes if people don't know what you're going through they'll expect everyone to be happy without realising how painful it can be.

I really hope you find a way to cope that works for you, and that you have some luck ttc as well 💐

Holly19 Sun 12-May-19 14:32:09

Thank you so much for your reply.
They do know our situation because sadly our infertility is due to my husband having to have chemo for cancer.
I never want anyone to feel they have to tread on eggshells around me but at the same time I wish I could find a way to make their happy news less painful for me. I know I’m not alone I’m feeling like this I guess it’s just another cruel part of infertility x

Catren Mon 13-May-19 04:11:45

My goodness that sounds so tough. When we were in the worst period of our ttc struggles I found that the way people have behaved and delivered the news made a difference to my ability to be happy for them. Which means it's hard to control. You're allowed to give it some distance to take care of yourself, and if you're close, they should understand if you explain your reasons. I really wish you and your dh all the best in his treatment and you find a way to become parents. 💐💐💐

Blondeshavemorefun Mon 13-May-19 21:16:43

It’s tough when friends tell you they are preg

Even more so when a mercy shag /accidental pregnancy

Over time it did get easier. I Think when we knew I def wouldn’t get preg naturally and rather then crying every month when af appeared

I was always happy for friends but always thought why not me

Especially when 2nd ivf failed and friend got preg accidentlty - on antibs and pill

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