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Feeling very sad before ivf(12 Posts)
Never posted before but feeling v alone and emotional ( probably as period came today and had been praying this would be a lucky month). Have unexplained infertility and this was our ‘last chance’ before starting ivf. I just feel so so sad today
Sending hugs. Totally get it. Every month is a kick in the stomach to me, and our local clinic won't let me have treatment until I lose weight so feel like in limbo. It's totally normal to be sad when you can't do the thing that as a woman you think should come so naturally. Look after yourself x
Thank you for your very kind message, I truly appreciate having someone that understands and feel much better. Wishing you all the best with everything xx
I get it. I was exactly the same.
I just wanted our baby to be conceived the 'normal' way.
BUT (as someone on here said to me), if IVF brings you your baby you truly won't care how it was made once you're holding it in your arms.
Wishing you all the luck in the world for your first cycle.
Totally get it. I never thought I would be in this position either - 4 years ago the day I was due to start ivf I got a BFP with my DC - I kind of held on to hope that it would happen again but 4 miscarriages and 1 ectopic later it hasn't. I sat and cried when the IVF drugs were delivered - I just felt completely overwhelmed x
What lovely, supportive ladies you are. Thank you both so much for your understanding. All my best wishes xx
I’m in exactly the same position. When do you start? I start downregulation a week today. EC due 19th June. I have good days and bad days. I’m worried about the injections and side effects more than anything else.
I start in 3 weeks. I think I’m less worried re injections etc. I was just very sad it was having to happen as I’d held out some hope. Feeling much better today, thanks largely to all you lovely people x
IVF isn’t so bad, it’s amazing what it can do. I had to have IVF for my son. NOw sadly IVF isnt an option for us as I have had borderline ovarian cancer. I’d do anything for the chance to do IVF again. Good luck, you’ll be fine x
I remember feeling so conflicted. On the one hand so relieved it was finally time (had a 5 year wait to start) and so lucky we were eligible and the science was available to us.
On the other hand, it was a final indicator that we were truly never ever going to conceive naturally, it was official that I had failed. I felt crushed by that. No more hope each month.
Add into the mix the pressure for it to go right, and the physical symptoms and it's a tough time.
I am currently waiting for the first of my ICSI miracles to finally fall asleep in his racing car bed. The second one is dozing in her cot already. Hold on to the positive where you can.
Mssngvwls I think you have eloquently put exactly how I feel. It’s really helpful to know other people have experienced this and I’m So glad things worked out for you xx
Mother mason you’re absolutely correct. Thank goodness we live in a time IVF exists. Feeling much more positive now. I’m sending you all my best wishes for your health xxx
I'm feeling the same. AF is just starting which means we will begin injections for our last go at iui. If this one fails it's on to ivf. I'm feeling particularly low about the whole thing as I'm worried it won't work and terrified I'll miscarry again if it does work. I can't imagine it actually resulting in a baby. Anyway, wishing you the best of luck. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone x