Second blighted ovum in a row

[Kal194]

Just want to know why I keep having the same type of miscarriages? I end up having a sac measuring around 6 weeks (when I should be around 10 weeks pregnant) and nothing inside it. Currently going through the second one and it is discouraging. I don’t have any children and to be honest I’m getting fed up. Miscarriage is not a nice thing to go through and with this being my second one in 6 months is just horrible. I thought for sure that this time it wouldn’t end up like the first time as everyone always says that you have a better chance the next time around.. anyone else have this happen to them and have you ever ended up having a baby?

[Pinktruffle]

This hasn't happened to me but I have had a miscarriage and I know how devastating it can be, I'm yet to get my rainbow baby. Sending you lots of love, look after yourself xx

A friend of mine had similar happen in her first pregnancy. It took her 18 months to get pregnant again but now has a happy, healthy 6 month old daughter.

[Kal194]

@Pinktruffle Thank you 😞 I am lucky that I can get pregnant quite quickly but I keep losing them. So tough because my body acts as if it’s pregnant when there’s no baby there. My HCG was 5800 this week which is quite high. Just waiting for it all to be over, I’m not sure if I even want to try again.

[Kinsters]

Miscarriage is awful. I don't know if it's helpful or not but I had a miscarriage last year - we went for an early scan at 7+5 and there was a baby in there with a good heartbeat, we then had another scan at 8+4 but now there was no heart beat and it measured a bit behind date wise.

I went for surgery at 9+0 and the dr did a scan before the surgery and the baby looked like it was gone, just the sac was there but nothing visible inside even though we'd seen the baby just a few days earlier. The doctor said the body absorbs it. This might have happened to you?

I hope you have better luck with next time, if you choose to try again. Its so tiring to go through pregnancy and it have a sad result. I'm like you, I get pregnant easily but struggle to keep them (though most of my losses have been chemicals with only one miscarriage).

[Teddybear45]

I was told molar pregnancy is an issue with egg quality (women with PCOS are often higher risk for it, or so I was told). Could you get an ivf referral or further testing for issues to do with your eggs?

[Kal194]

@Teddybear45 I don’t think a molar pregnancy is the same as a blighted ovum. I’ve had 2 abdominal scans and 1 internal scan, I think the doctor or sonographer would have told me if it is looking like a molar pregnancy. I’ve just been told it’s a blighted ovum? I’m not an expert or anything but I’ve just researched molar pregnancies and it doesn’t seem like I have one of those. I have another scan tomorrow and will probably see the doctor again and I’ll ask if they’ll do tests but I’ve heard that they won’t do anything until you’ve had 3 miscarriages on the nhs.

[Kal194]

@Kinsters it’s awful isn’t it. Maybe I will try again after I’ve given myself a break from it. I do feel like I’m ready to be a mother now and I’m at a good age, but obviously it isn’t working out. Hope you have some luck come your way too

[Kinsters]

After my last chemical I took a month off, drank lots and went scuba diving (basically everything I enjoy and can't do when pregnant). It was nice to have a month where I wasn't counting down to ovulation and then counting down the tww.

I'm pregnant again but I wasn't surprised to see the positive test because it seems to happen easily. Just waiting for a scan to see whether it's developing properly. Trying not to get my hopes up too much.

[Kal194]

@Kinsters yeah I’m in the process of moving so I’m going to move, get settled, hopefully have a holiday in the year with my partner or something and then I’ll let it happen. I’m not going to ‘try’ to get pregnant like I did this time, it became such a chore and ended up in another loss. So yeah, letting it just happen on its own seems to be the best way for me now.
I just came back from hospital and they’ve confirmed it to be a miscarriage, which I already knew and I have chosen the natural way for it to happen. Feel like it’s just easier on my body and I’m not in any rush to get pregnant again.
I really hope you have a pleasant surprise with your scan. It honestly makes me so mad when I see girls who just get pregnant after one night stands and don’t even want it or girls who don’t look after themselves and take drugs end up getting pregnant and having healthy babies. You deserve to have a baby and I cross my fingers for you! Best of luck!

[Kinsters]

You deserve your baby too, best of luck x

[QueenOfPain]

@kal194 I was really empathising reading your posts until I saw the bit where you trash other women.

[IABUQueen]

Had the same experience and now with a lovely 15 months old.

PM me

[VenusStarr]

@QueenOfPain why bother posting to say that? The OP is grieving, she's allowed to be angry. I was at the hospital on Tuesday for my first fertility appointment. I recently had a mmc at 9 weeks and saw a heavily pregnant lady puffing away on a cigarette and I thought that's unfair, why do you get to be pregnant and smoke and your baby is fine when my baby died?

@Kal194 I am so sorry for your loss my mmc ended up being natural between scans. I was really scared I wouldn't cope but I did. Hope you get lots of rest. Be kind to yourself 💜

[Kal194]

@QueenOfPain god forbid that you ever have 2 miscarriages in a row, desperately doing everything you can to be healthy and change your lifestyle in a really short period of time just to try and have a baby that other women who sniff crack until they get nose bleeds and go out to the town and get drunk, knowing full well that they have a growing baby inside them, end up having a healthy baby that they don’t care about. Yeah, I’m going to be mad at them for it. Their baby doesn’t deserve to have a life starting off like that. Emotions are high with me right now but I know for a fact that I am not being irrational. You can have your opinion, that’s fine, but try and put yourself in my shoes for a sec. I’ve seen too many girls in my town who can just get pregnant after a night out, not sure who the dad is after multiple one night stands, gets a house given to them because they’re pregnant and on benefits. Everything gets handed on a plate for these girls who haven’t worked a day in their lives. I work hard, own my own house with my partner, look after myself and I get nothing but pain and suffering. While I sit and watch these girls abuse their unborn unwanted babies.

[Kal194]

@VenusStarr Thank you for your kind words. Im sorry for your loss too, it’s crazy how much it affects us emotionally more than physically. We just get through it

[leasedaudi]

I'm sorry @Kal194. It may be worth getting your thyroid tested and a full blood count to see if you're deficient in anything. I had two BOs and then found out my thyroid was up the creek. When I got on medication and then had the dosage upped as soon as I got pregnant, the next pregnancy worked.

But it could be a host of different things. Take care of yourself. X

[Teddybear45]

It seems like there could be a similar chromosomal cause for both molar and blighted ovum (it’s one of the causes). As these are both fairly rare maybe you could have a NHS referral for some kind of karyotype testing (alongside the usual thyroid / clotting disorder tests) before the 3 miscarriages to see if your chromosomes look okay. The GP or even the EPU can refer you, you’ll probably have to push them, but many trusts do provide referrals after 2 miscarriages (you just don’t get an automatic one until 3).

[holamums]

Just reading this thread over a year later after having an anembryonic pregnancy, which i found out after breezing in for my 12 week scan to find no baby there. Had a miscarriage the same night naturally at home. I already have a little boy who's nearly 2 but his has knocked me for 6 and cant stop fretting about the future. I'd love to know how things worked out for you?