Mother’s Day :(

(39 Posts)
PurpleDaisies Sat 30-Mar-19 18:28:36

Anyone else dreading tomorrow?

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LillyLeaf Sat 30-Mar-19 20:36:02

Yep, I should be 18wks pregnant if I hadn't miscarried my first IVF cycle. I saw a 'mummy to be' card the other day, I don't even like cards but it made me feel crap. I think I'll just hide away tomorrow.

PurpleDaisies Sat 30-Mar-19 21:19:05

flowers lilly

I’m planning off staying off social media. Making Mother’s Day cards with my class was just awful last week.

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LillyLeaf Sat 30-Mar-19 22:05:24

@PurpleDaisies oh that must have been hard. I remember thinking last year if this year would be any different. It's not. Maybe next year?

TinyPaws Sat 30-Mar-19 22:32:48

Yes. This time last year I was pregnant for the first time after IUI. I've been pregnant twice since (through IUI and IVF). No living children.

mummeeee Sat 30-Mar-19 22:41:39

I am fortunate to have dcs now, but 2 years in a row I was in the process of miscarrying over mothers' day so I understand how it can be a really difficult day. Wishing I could take away some of the pain.

Pinktruffle Sat 30-Mar-19 22:45:38

I shoud have been 6 weeks away from giving birth....
I've booked my husband and I a weekend away so we aren't around home, my mum is abroad so I cam try and pretend it's not not happening. My husband is unlikely to understand the significance to me so his ignorance is hopefully going to make the day easier.

heresHalloweenagain18 Sat 30-Mar-19 23:05:58

Yes im am dreading it a bit and want to ignore as much as possible, while still acknowleding it for my mum. X

5 years ttc and almost 5 years since my mc and only pregnancy.

Mothers day last year i was waiting tor the following day to find out my results of my failed ivf as it was otd. I knew it failed as had already started bleeding but could try and keep the hope and igorance for another day till the negative test.

This year things are no different for me.

Flowers for all tommorow 💐💐 xxxx

heresHalloweenagain18 Sat 30-Mar-19 23:07:45

Just realised the original post was by you purple blush not sure how i missed that. Hope you are doing ok Xx

JeNeBaguetteRien Sun 31-Mar-19 00:25:11

Oh yes the build up has been going on for quite a while now hasn't it?
I really should steer clear of social media but will probably look anyway.
Saw a Facebook announcement recently 'we are shouting from the rooftops' along with scan pic. I know I could delete or unfollow but it's actually handy to know before I see them in real life.
No doubt tomorrow will be full of cringey statuses. I mean some will be lovely and sentimental but some will be downright cringey.
I know so many women who would be wonderful mothers if they only had the opportunity.
💐 💐

AliceAbsolum Sun 31-Mar-19 09:29:23

Not a pleasent look through Facebook this morning. I know feeling jealous isn't helpful, but it's really hard.
Sending compassion to everyone else struggling today in the form of cake and wine.

Kitty2017 Sun 31-Mar-19 10:39:05

Love to you all!! I decided the easiest way is just to stay off social media... hoping next year will be different biscuitthanks

Ruthyroo81 Sun 31-Mar-19 10:52:44

Lots of love to you all of you ladies!

7 years ttc for us and we're now going through another round of Icsi, trying to stay hopeful that I may get to celebrate Mother's Day one day.

Here's hoping for us all!grinthanksxx

Colyflower Sun 31-Mar-19 12:09:51

Yes, dreading today. Again! sad

I miscarried a second time through ivf in July last year, today I would be holding my one month old baby in my arms.

I found out last week that I’m pregnant again on my fourth round of ivf, so today should be exciting but as of Friday just gone, all my symptoms have disappeared and I fear that I will miscarry for a third time. This is what happened last time.

Today I will be telling my parents that I’m pregnant but I will have to tell them my fears as my anxiety levels are through the roof at the moment and I’ll need to explain why I’ll be a nervous, blubbering wreck at the dinner table.

To top it all off, my little brother and his wife will be giving birth in 4 weeks, my best friend has just announced she’s pregnant and on Friday my work colleague told me she’s also pregnant.

I’ve dealt with this for 6 years now and it just seems to get worse every year and I wonder if I’ll ever celebrate my own mother’s day.

Life can be so cruel sometimes.

HelloViroids Sun 31-Mar-19 12:18:04

flowers to all here. I got pregnant last March and miscarried in June, my baby should be 3 months. No pregnancies since then.

ProfessionalBarren Sun 31-Mar-19 12:19:48

flowers to everyone struggling today. It’s just shit.

JustLikeTheySaid Sun 31-Mar-19 12:27:21

It is so, so awful today. My grief at the loss of the mother I worry I won't ever be is horrific.

Glad to have others who are struggling today to support each other but I'm so sorry we are all in this place sad

juneybean Sun 31-Mar-19 12:28:18

Yes I've never had a BFP. And today I got my period sad

Happychappy33 Sun 31-Mar-19 12:39:39

Lots of love and hugs and positive thoughts to everyone 💐

ohbigdaddio Sun 31-Mar-19 13:25:51

juneybean l also got my period today which means my embryo transfer hasn't worked. Devastated. Staying indoors with Netflix and pretending it's not happening x

uberbarrensclub Sun 31-Mar-19 13:31:53

Hugs to all, today is shit

I wrote this blog post as part of Fertility Network's #SurvivingMothersDay campaign, sending love and strength to you all

I also took part in Tommy's #WeAreAllMums campaign - though they're a miscarriage charity, I think it applies to anyone suffering infertility too, as we're all mums in our hearts ❤️

kikisparks Sun 31-Mar-19 13:38:04

So sorry to hear of everyone having a hard day flowers I stupidly went on social media sad

27 months TTC for me, BFP in August 2017 but miscarried a few days later. Zilch ever since.

Be good to yourselves everyone brew

juneybean Sun 31-Mar-19 13:41:07

Ah I'm so sorry @ohbigdaddio hope you've got lots of chocolate.

It's a shit struggle sad

Fimat Sun 31-Mar-19 14:03:12

Sending hugs ladies. It's a tough day. I'm so lucky that I'm on the other side after 8 Ivfs but Mother's Day still feels a bit funny and I don't really like it as I remember the pain and think of those suffering. Be kind to yourself and take care xx

ProfessionalBarren Sun 31-Mar-19 14:12:09

Oh no ohbigdaddio what horrible timing sad Take care of yourself flowers

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