Thoughts please?

[GandTisgoodforme]

Hi all,

Without going into all the intricate details of everything that’s gone off over the last few years, I struggled with infertility for 3.5 years and surprisingly fell pregnant for the first time last August, I then had to say goodbye our son in the October due to major chromosome abnormalities and fluid on body. I am almost 28.

My doctor and NHS haven’t been helpful at all and have been quite awful to us during the most horrific time of our lives. Again, long story.

A close-ish relativen of mine is a highly regarded fertility specialist (abroad) and in PGD/chromosome issues. I am seeing them over the next few weeks for a gathering. Should I ask for their advice on what’s happened? Or would that be a stupid thing to do? Sorry for a daft question - just emotionally screwed up.

Thanks

[Persipan]

I'm so sorry, how very tough for you.

Could you possibly contact them in advance of the gathering to ask their advice/arrange a time to chat with them? Because I think seeking their advice in general is a great idea and why not, but I'd suggest you avoid doing it at the event itself - partly because they may not be in work mode at that time, and partly because it could be upsetting for you.

Take care, and look after yourself.

[Ginandtonic31]

How awful for you. If they know it was a chromosome issue there's absolutely no harm in seeking the friend's advice. I would in your shoes. I'm just in the process of PGD myself so do have some knowledge of it.