How do you keep going?

(41 Posts)
Minibow Tue 05-Mar-19 12:34:22

I'm only 18months in. Unexplained secondary.

I'm not coping very well this last month.

How do you keep going? xx

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ballsdeep Tue 05-Mar-19 12:38:57

I had trouble catching on my second too and it's awful. I don't know how I did it but every month I kept plodding on. I went to see a naturopath on the end and I caught the next month xx

Minibow Tue 05-Mar-19 12:45:05

I've done reflexology and now I'm on acupuncture.

How long did it take? This would be our third. With my other 2 the longest it took was 5 months.

I can't deal with the anger I have xx

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ballsdeep Tue 05-Mar-19 13:11:32

It took about 10 months. I would recommend a naturopath, mine was amazing and found what I was missing mineral wise. Its horrible, and people say be grateful for the ones you have buy it's not helpful when you have the need and yearning for another xx

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 15:42:20

hi I'm new to this had an ectopic preg nearly died big rupture in one tube they said they weren't sure if other tube was ruptured docs now won't help me because I am on antidpresent feel so alone x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 15:48:40

it's been eight years I can't take comments from family they say oh have another baby I am wondering if they have forgotten being there is feel empty what does it take for the doctors to help me they told me it was a miscarriage x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 15:53:13

hi minibus you just pray that it will all come good in the end never give up some days are better than others I go from one emotions to the next hate it it's so hard lol x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 15:55:18

sorry if I'm messing up explaining stuff new to this but needed mum's to talk to only use no how it feels x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 16:02:18

hi is anyone there how do I check replies x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 16:19:16

I cry all the time other people don't get that void in your heart I'm grateful for what I have but that doesn't stop the mad yearing for another baby x

Minibow Tue 05-Mar-19 16:48:05

Its exhausting. I take my hat of to those who have been trying for years.

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annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 16:50:20

thank you only that's noticed that in my life so far x x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 16:52:21

minibow hope ur ok life's a kick up the numbers sometimes x

Loopytiles Tue 05-Mar-19 16:53:09

Sorry you’re in this situation.

I focused on saving for private investigations as I didn’t have confidence in those done at the local miscarriage clinic. I also had counselling.

I avoided paying for alternative therapies, and wasn’t able, in my distress, to make any lifestyle changes, eg diet, exercise, I just got home from work and went on fertility forums!

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 16:53:51

not numbers meant bum I need to go back to school and learn how to spell soz x

Loopytiles Tue 05-Mar-19 16:54:44

DH is very “stiff upper lip” and seemed fine/normal at the time, but then had some emotional fall-out once we were very lucky and had DC2.

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 16:58:44

loopytiles no money for private no idea wat to do thanks for info x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 17:01:56

they won't even give me the time of day to check if other tube is ruptured because of my depression they promised to help me I'm so emotional muddled

Minibow Tue 05-Mar-19 17:19:45

I could make sacrifices and pay private..but what if it doesn't work.

And can I really justify that with 2 already.

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annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 18:39:23

so true I don't want to risk another breakdown and lose the child is have I can't risk losing her x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 18:41:16

you can't ever make it an easy desion it just isn't I hate it x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 18:46:27

we all deserve better when health professionals are able to not doors slammed in our faces x x

annburton Tue 05-Mar-19 18:48:19

meant help there x

Wishful30 Tue 05-Mar-19 20:10:54

Hi ladies,

Hugs to you all!
I hope you don't mind me joining in this thread.
I have just had a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Now being referred for IVF. No other option apparently.
This is After a year of private tests and IUI, which was badly managed and advised. Waste of time and money. But I've settled my complaint with them.

I'm waiting an appointment for a hysteroscopy. Biopsies and 'scrape'
Had more bloods today.

I can conceive, but can't keep it longer than a week or two.

I'm pretty sure my herbal meds, and acupuncture really helped last time. It's the longest I've been pregnant, but I just can't afford the acupuncture right now.

Does anyone have any suggestions on increasing blood flow to the uterus?

ginandtonicformeplease Tue 05-Mar-19 21:22:57

Wishful During this round the doctor put me on viagra as that increases blood flow.

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