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CloudSway Fri 22-Feb-19 21:08:11

I know there are a lot of threads about people starting out, but they were all started a while ago and everyone seems a lot further ahead these days.

So.... newbies unite?

DH and I have been ttc for 2yrs. Saw our gp who ordered blood tests and sperm tests. He gave us a boat load of info..... jokes, he was pants. Told me I was 'fine' and husband was 'not fine', only detail was that DH has 4mil out of a necessary 16mil sperm, mentioned ivf and referred us to a specialist. That's all the info we got. Today I had a transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound. It was not the most fun 20 mins of my life but it was fine, now I'm trying to play Sherlock and figure out what the random numbers the radiologist was shouting about my ovaries meant. How about you?

Because I'm early stages, I avoided forums/Google etc because I'm prone to anxiety and didn't want to panic unnecessarily. Therefore apologies but I'm still trying to figure out all the abbreviations and lingo! Also sorry, I'm naturally sarcastic and a bit sweary, but that doesn't mean I'm insensitive - it would be great to share stories and support each other here smile

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 27-Feb-19 19:28:53

@CloudSway they should be able to print you a copy off! As we are private I had my bloods done at the GP have to save where we can! I just asked at reception and theyprinted them for me! Same for DH!

Which part scares you the most? Maybe it will help to tell us on here?
Ben and Jerry’s always makes things better wink

squirrelnutkins1 Wed 27-Feb-19 19:59:56

Urgh I wrote a big reply then lost it 😡

Thanks for the welcomes and hello to you all too 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻

Not sure on the IUI and IVF thing. Again lottery postcode. I'm sure in some areas you get 3 tries for IVF on nhs. I'm just glad to be helped really. We're so lucky to have the nhs and if these tablets work before then it'll only have cost me (money wise) £8.80! So here's hoping!

Did you have the scan done at the hospital? If so the results will be available at the hospital. No harm asking for a copy tho.

Ooh yes, a bit of Ben and Jerry's always helps 😬

How are everyone's OHs coping?

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Wed 27-Feb-19 20:26:43

Fingers crossed for you then squirrel!!

My DH is the most laid back person around about everything!! I was the one who wouldn’t agree to doing this sooner mainly because of the injections and just how I felt in general about the whole process!

What abour yours?

GreyC Wed 27-Feb-19 21:18:43

Results are back. Haven’t spoken to gp yet (3 weeks away!) have my 21 day one tomorrow.

He filed the results as ‘satisfactory- to be discussed in review) briefly looked at them. Can’t make much sense out of them. Seems to me; things are just not quite right. We will find out soon!
My o/h is ok; being positive bless him

CloudSway Wed 27-Feb-19 22:06:03

I did have the tests done at a different hospital but under the same trust so should be able to see then. Maybe I'll get a print out just in case...

I'm not 100% sure what I'm scared of. Maybe trying but failing? Also that once we put the pressure on, either myself or OH won't handle it and we'll fight and break up! We have supported each other through a lot of crap recently- well more him supporting me through my parents dying - and I'd hate to screw up how close we've become, especially if we're not even guaranteed a baby at the end of it!!

By the way, I found out my friend is pregnant today, not sure if you can tell I'm passed off and wallowing a bit, I'm very subtle about it 🤣
Lets just assume it's the Phish Food talking lol! x

GreyC Thu 28-Feb-19 08:03:59

I understand about having mixed emotions that’s for sure!
And also being happy but slightly sad it’s not me telling my friends I’m pregnant!

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Thu 28-Feb-19 17:43:16

Yes I agree with the mixed emotions we found out that a family member was pregnancy in jan and well it was a surprise as we didn’t think children pictured in their future!

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Fri 01-Mar-19 12:30:41

So I have just received all of my medication! Feeling a mixture of nerves and excitement still just over a month to go but it’s all there in the fridge waiting!! shock

squirrelnutkins1 Sat 02-Mar-19 01:28:05

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF it must feel nice seeing your next steps in the fridge every day😊

OH shuts down a lot and doesn't talk about it but I made him chat to me on a car journey today and it was nice.

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Sun 03-Mar-19 21:56:38

Happy Sunday!

How are we all?

GreyC Mon 04-Mar-19 19:40:44

Full of the flu ☹️
Which frustrating. Waiting to get my day 21 results back but period arrived earlier than normal so not sure it was any good anyway now

squirrelnutkins1 Mon 04-Mar-19 20:01:36

Booo hope you feel better soon.

I can't really figure the day 21 test out. Surely it's only accurate if your cycles are 28 days and regular?

The Gynae last week gave me two more blood forms so I'm having a day 20 and day 26 test to see if they can catch if I do ovulate.


Kelly199 Mon 04-Mar-19 21:27:35

@squirrelnutkins1 sounds the same as me!!
My gyn/fertility specialist did HyCoSy/hsg for me on Friday and have had bloods and transvaginal scan prior, but now she's given me 2 forms for day 21 and day 26!

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Mon 04-Mar-19 21:27:49

Oooh no hope you feel better soon!!

AF has arrived a couple of days early for me it happened last month as well! I’ve gone from 28days to 26/27 no idea why!!

Well day21 because it 7days after you ovulate so I guess if you had s longer cycle and ovulated on day 30 then you’d have it on day 37 that’s what I gather from other threads I’ve read smile

squirrelnutkins1 Mon 04-Mar-19 21:44:06

Makes sense. My cycles are irregular though, between 26-36 days, so that's why I've been given more blood forms. Hopefully it'll show up on one of them!
My skin has been horrendous this last week and I'm loosely midway through my cycle so maybe the lap/HSG has done a bit of something. We'll see eh!

@Kelly199 how'd you get on? Xx

Kelly199 Mon 04-Mar-19 22:06:28

Found it quite painful to be honest, they had to use a clamp because she said my uterus was small - typical! Never mind, over with now!
I'd already had day 21 bloods with gp and she said that I hadn't ovulated, but gyn wants to repeat day 21 and do 26 too to make sure because she said it may have been done too early? She's basically told me though that either clomid then ivf or ivf? I've read so many people have different options?
My day 21 is supposed to be 14/03, so not yet!
When is yours? Xx

Kelly199 Mon 04-Mar-19 22:06:43

@squirrelnutkins1 forgot to tag you xx

squirrelnutkins1 Mon 04-Mar-19 22:33:59

Sounds like we're at the same stage!
I can't imagine having it while you're awake! Hope you treated yourself to a nice coffee or something afterwards!
Tomorrow for my day 20 bloods.
I've been given letrozole to try from day 2-6 of my next cycle for three months then if no joy IUI then IVF.
Love the support on here 😊 @Kelly199

Kelly199 Tue 05-Mar-19 07:35:06

@squirrelnutkins1 yes!! Was glad it was over and done with haha.
Hope it all goes well today!
I'm hoping they will give me something to try first.
Does it all depend on your day 20 results for the meds, or are they giving it to you anyway?
Yeah, me too! Nice to talk to people in similar situations. Always feel like nobody else understands or I'm boring them trying to talk about it! Xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Tue 05-Mar-19 08:46:25

Have you all told people in real life! I have a couple who kind in know but it’s not something we really talk about! So it if nice to be abit to come on here and talk about it all!

Good luck today squirrel!

Kelly199 Tue 05-Mar-19 09:46:14

Very close family - my mum, my sister and grandparents and my partners mum. Even then, I can't really talk to them much. They do like to know what's going on, but I feel I'm boring them keeping on about it because I just want someone to talk to about it all the time whilst we're in the suspense!!
Like minded people on here are the best to talk to because we all want to know the ins and outs of everything!
It's so nice to just ask where everyone is in their journey too! X

Claudie86 Tue 05-Mar-19 11:23:54

Newbie here!

Thanks for the invite @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF 😊

DH and I have been ttc for almost 3 years now. No clear reason why it's not happening. In 2018 we've tried 3 times to do IUI, but apparently the medicine works very well on me, leaving me with way too many follicles and thus unable to do a safe IUI treatment.

After waiting almost 3 months, last week we finally had an appointment at the hospital, and the result is we're starting IVF treatment! Still have a few tests to do, so I'm expecting to start in April or May with the first round.

I haven't told my best friends or close family about these fertility issues. I've always just said 'we'd love to have kids' and 'we're working on it', but never did I tell them we're seeking medical treatment for it. I just don't like that we'll be known as 'the couple who's having difficulties'. But I've decided it's about time I informed my friends and close family. I've been feeling quite lonely so hoping they can offer some level of support.

CloudSway Tue 05-Mar-19 11:53:52

I'm loving this forum too, even if I don't have time to reply it's nice seeing what's happening with other people and being able to ask questions! When you hear about the process it sounds quite quick so it's a relief that everyone else is going at the same page... I still don't understand half of the hormone and medical lingo mind you lol!

We got warned against telling too many people in case they constantly ask, but we are finding that the more people we tell, the more sensitive people are, so not so many passing comments about when I have kids or whatever... Also I tend to bottle everything up, so I've made sure to talk about it more, so we've now told both our immediate families, plus close friends, our bosses and a couple of work colleagues. But same as you @finallytakingtheplungewithivf I feel like I'm boring people so I work my way round all the different people in a circuit lol! Then everyone gets a day off from me 😂

Kelly199 Tue 05-Mar-19 12:15:48

Welcome @Claudie86 !!
Yes @CloudSway, know exactly what you mean!
I find it easier to tell close family what's going on with what I'm going for (bloods, scans etc.), but anything other than that I think I'm boring them! This is why I'm on here all the time reading and writing lol!

Nataliejayne26 Tue 05-Mar-19 12:33:13

Hi all
Not sure if this is the right thread to post on
I'm a 26 year old female and me and my partner have been ttc for 5years+ after being told on numerous occasions that I was to young to have infertility issues, I was finally referred to gynae who did a laparoscopy and found both fallopeion tubes blocked due to scaring from a previous miscarriage/d&c. After being told the only way I would now get a bfp would be ivf. We have got the ball rolling I have been referred for scan/swabs and my partner for a sperm count hos sperm count is not for 4 months, we are calling almost everyday to see if there has been any cancellations .
I guess what I'm wondering is how long did you guys have to wait for referal to clinic as my dr wont refer until sperm count has been done

Please help

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