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Egg Freezing at 38?(2 Posts)
Just to give some background;
I am not sure if this is the right board for this but I have had 4 IVF/ICSI treatments due to male fertility issues but all failed. They were all fresh cycles as no embryos ever survived to freeze. My husband blamed me for this and it affected our marriage considerably but this was not the only reason for our separation it just seems I was never good enough and he had an affair with someone else. We have now separated and we are currently going through a divorce. I wasted ten years of my life with this man and he has left me emotionally and mentally broken and drained. I am doubtful I will find someone else.
I am 38 years old no husband and no child. I will be turning 39 in May. All I wanted was to have my own family and be loved. Now I am all alone there is only so much I can speak to my siblings about my feelings as they have their own lives to lead and busy with their own children.
For cultural reasons, I cannot have donor sperm or adopt so I am unable to consider this. So please do not suggest this.
I really do want children but the only option for me I feel at this current time is to freeze my eggs. But due to my age I feel that it may not be even worth doing this and will just be throwing money down the pan never to be seen again.
My question is has anyone been through the egg freezing process and is it worth considering doing this at my age ? Any recommendations as to clinics whether in London or abroad?
If I have put this in the wrong board, I apologise
Thank you for reading x
What a tough situation. I'm so sorry you've had such a difficult time.
I guess I'd break it down as, if you don't do it, you save the money but maybe you'll always wonder what would have happened if you'd gone for it. If you do it, you spend the money and worst case scenario it doesn't work/you never use the eggs. So really, it's which if those you feel is the better fit for your personal situation.
When you've done IVF in the past, how many eggs were retrieved and was that recently or a while ago? I guess one if the things to factor in is your likely response to stims, so in that sense it's useful that you've had prior treatment because that would help predict your chances of success. I'd also say, if you're going to go for it, the sooner the better.
Good luck, whatever you decide!