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Everyone who was sure they'd be pregnant by Christmas(17 Posts)
We are quite early on in our journey but I'd always assumed naively that by Christmas 2018 I'd have got pregnant! Needless to say that wasn't the case.
It is horribly hard to see so many of our friends celebrating their first Christmas with children and I know some of you have been through this many times.
So I'm sending lots of love and the hope and belief that one day all the struggle will be worth it for everyone.
Sending love back to you @daydreamdaisy. Started this year full of hope, got married and thought I would be pregnant or even have our baby by now. One year later and after early investigations discovered my tubes might be blocked.
We're staying at home just the two of us tomorrow, don't fancy being around people. What are you doing for Christmas?
Best wishes 💖
Lots of love to you both and everyone in this situation. It can be a really crappy time of year as it's so focused on children.
It's been 3 and a half years since we started TTC and every Christmas is hard. I've had six miscarriages and 2 failed IVF cycles in that time and now moved onto donor eggs. Had embryo replacement last week and I've promised myself I won't test until after Christmas as I just want a little hope still, but after everything I don't have much hope left.
Should have had an eight week old baby with us this Christmas but a miscarriage earlier in the year and more failed ivf rounds since means we are still lost on this journey. Never I imagined it'd be like this, and even after the MC I still naively thought I'd be pregnant again. Time is ticking by and it scares me to think I could be in the same place again next Christmas.
Even the carol service this weekend brought out the tears. Can't even listen to anything about babies and pregnancy without it cutting raw into my heart.
Best wishes to everyone struggling x
I've wanted to be pregnant at Christmas now for the last few years. DH has always said not to worry and we'd have our family by the next year then the next, and it just gets more miserable each time.
We had our first IVF cycle that failed in Oct and moving on to cycle 2 in the New Year.
Just been baby bombed on Facebook, which has set me off again. There's no escape from infertility hell!
Thoroughly fed up of living this miserable life. Life is short and I'm sick of this pain. I've tried my best but have had a horrid run up to Christmas being depressed and isolating myself.
I hope everyone else is feeling optimistic about getting their families in the New Year. Best of luck ladies, we all deserve our Christmas wishes to come true xxx
Sending you all lots of love and hoping next Christmas is different xxx
@Botanica my first DC’s EDD was last week but sadly I had a MMC - it’s so hard not to dwell on what could have been
Sending love to everyone too, I’m finding it so hard this year. I just want to cancel Christmas & not deal with it. So much focus on family & I feel lost, trying to explain to friends who have children is impossible. They don’t seem to understand I don’t care about Christmas at the moment, that it makes me feel so lonely I wish it didn’t happen. They have said just enjoy the day, I can’t. I thought I’d be a mum by now & evey year that goes by is harder. So glad this thread is here, just knowing others understand is a comfort.
Lots of Love & hugs to everyone here & hoping next year it’s different for all of us xxx
Sending you all ￼
I should have a 2-week old now but miscarried back in April after my 3rd ivf cycle.
I "should" have a 4 week old baby to share the Christmas with, but here I am, 4 rounds of fertility treatment and 3 miscarriages later with no baby and no ongoing pregnancy. Hopefully we will all find some peace and joy today.
Thinking of you all.
Late period but negative test for me today. Bah humbug.
Really thought I'd have my first baby or be pregnant this Christmas but it didn't happen. Instead I've had ultrasounds and blood tests nooked on the 28th, oh joy! It's hard to keep positive. Especially when a friend just shared her exciting news about her 'ooops I was on the pill' pregnancy.
I'm happy for her but sad for me.
My fucking period arrived today, but only sort of so I can't even bloody drink. Just stuck in limbo, been told to bed rest. OTD 1 Jan
Yep, I should be announcing it about now, but lost my first FET pregnancy almost as soon as I'd found out. A failed FET since, two months off and hoping Jan 19 will be our month for the transfer to work, but pretty sure it won't. It's so gutting. We're lucky to have one dc although it is still shit living in limbo like this. Good luck everyone, and sorry it's so so shit.
Yes lol Christmas about 5 years ago , have given up and grateful for my little boy ( 6 ) secondary infertility.
Sending love to everyone. Last Christmas I was pregnant and thought I would have had a baby by this year but I sadly lost that baby in January and then lost another in May and will be moving on to IVF in the New Year. Also seen about 4 pregnancy announcement today! Maybe next year will be our year x