I'm due any day now, and when LO is born (obviously not right away but after a few weeks or whatever) I plan on taking him in to my place of work. One of the women there has been struggling with IVF, she had been whilst I was pregnant, never shown any hostility towards me or anything, we're very civil to each other and good work colleagues.
But I know, from when I mc before, that seeing a newborn if your state of mind isn't right can bloody hurt emotionally. And I respect her and wouldn't want to make her feel uncomfortable or upset her... I mean, she may be fine and coo over him but in my mind it's a risk of hurting her... I'm only going off my personal journey - I've never gone through IVF but have been drained from years of trying, tests and mc. At one point I would've been a wreck if a friend had come in "showing off" her newborn /:
So here's where I need the advice.. is that unreasonable? Is that something I'm right to be considering? Should I avoid taking the baby in if I know she's working or is that mean to her and look bad (like I'm avoiding her or something)? Should I text and ask her if she would like to be there? If so how do I phrase that?
I am not tip toeing around her, not alienating her or making this out to be a big deal. I hope this post doesn't come across wrong...
I just respect her, I know how I felt before, and my whole point is that I don't want to upset her or make her uncomfortable so... i need to know others opinions of what they would've preferred happen in this situation.
Thank you in advance
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sirmione16 · 16/11/2018 21:27
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