How do you cope with fertility envy.
I don’t know for sure whether I’m infertile or not but between endometriosis and no regular ovulation and a niggling feel that I just know I am I’m currently really struggling everytime I so much as see a bump. This is now made worse as my sister is pregnant for a second time...because the “pull out method had never failed for her before” 
she already has my niece who is 3 but takes no interest in her whatsoever and does no parenting just shoved her in front of the tv and makes the father give her ready meals every night as well as not having the space for a new baby and being up to her eyeballs in debt.
I shouldn’t be judgemental but she has had 7 abortions before this one because she doesn’t want to use contraception as it makes her “gain weight” all I want is a baby and it makes me so sad to see people who don’t even care being able to have them.
Just to add I have nothing against abortion but don’t think it should be used as birth control
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Coping with pregnancy envy
Elmtree53 · 12/11/2018 17:37
It awful.
The people who would be genuinely good parents, struggle. While those who don't appeiacte what they have keep poping them out. 
Hi all,
Know the feeling too well. In the 5 years we've been TTC I've seen 9 babies being born of close friends and family. Currently an additional 2 are due soon, 1 in a few weeks and the other in couple months. It's soul crushing, especially as most had a straight forward conception, some didn't even plan for it and a couple were annoyed they fell pregnant soon after the birth of their first child...! The only person I feel empathy for is my friend who has struggled with infertility suffering 4 mc and recently gave birth to her little boy.
It's hard to deal with and being the only one that is childless in your circle... 
@cherries101 I am currently looking into having IVF next year, hopefully overseas. I don't think I have long left. I was told my AMH is 2.7 in July and the fertility specialist said I had low ovarian reserve which I had no idea about. I can't believe my AMH dropped from 11.5 to 2.7 in 3 years! I didn't really think much about how much time we had left because our issue was male fertility factor of low motility. I am trying very hard not to stress but the prospect of not being able to conceive due to low ovarian reserve scares the hell out of me....
@squirrelnutskins1 Been telling myself the same thing! We have to stay positive... Not being able to conceive has made me develop anxiety... I suffer from depression already, coupled with anxiety has been very very difficult. I still try to be optimistic and hope for the best. Not much else I can do 
@squirrelnutkins1 I've done the same thing to hubby. I know deep down I felt some resentment towards him for having low motility (I know it's not his fault) especially as it kept coming up as the cause of our infertility. I've had doctors telling me "you'll never conceive naturally" which is such a horrible thing to tell someone... Obviously now with the LOR, I feel I am just as much to blame for us not having a baby
I noticed it would always hit me hard a day or 2 after visiting friends who have just given birth. I would literally spend the next few days crying uncontrollably and would dip into an even lower mood. Like you, I am really happy for them, I just find myself questioning why isn't it happening for me.
We chose overseas as I hated my IVF experience here in London and thought it will be less stressful being away from home. We'll get to have a holiday at the same time. Initially the plan was to go in August/September this year but I had to have a Laparoscopy which pushed things back. Another factor was cost. I may need to have more than 1 IVF treatment, it's much cheaper overseas than the UK.
@squirrelnutkins1 We're due to see Serum in January for a consultation and a scan. I am so nervous. I don't know what to expect and so anxious what the findings will be 
@squirrelnutkins1 The announcement is the most gut wreching feeling... That is the most hardest thing for me. Hearing everyone else experiencing the one thing I ever wanted and dreamed about in my life. So hard
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