Dear all,
I found so much solace on this board over the years, and so now I seek your advice. I started a new job this summer while in the early stages of (an IVF) pregnancy. I really like this new job and have been getting on well with the people I work with.
I really bonded with one colleague when she announced she was 8 weeks from an IVF pregnancy after several rounds. Her scan showed a heartbeat but was a few days behind. This was their last shot. We talked at length about how it was great she was still in with a chance and how I still feel like that, though I am now further on.
I've now been informed that she suffered a miscarriage over the weekend when she should have been nearly 10 weeks. I am now 19+3. I feel like shit. I know there is absolutely nothing I can say or do to make it better - but I am so worried that my growing bump will just set her off. I fear how my very presence will make her feel, hence why I feel (irrationally) guilty.
I've been in her shoes and I had to leave my job and not speak to the women who had the gall to get pregnant when I had my miscarriages.
Any advice now that the shoe is on the other foot?? I am so sorry if anything I have said is upsetting to anyone else... I'm kind of a mess...
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Colleague's miscarriage - possible trigger
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physicskate · 15/10/2018 12:54
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