Hi all
I’m a longstanding poster on the infertility boards, although since stopping treatment I’ve stepped back from most threads - though I spend a fair amount of time donning my hard hat and getting into arguments with people saying idiotic things on AIBU about infertility!!
So much of the narrative around infertility and pregnancy loss contains stories of hope, and staying positive, and how 'it'll all be worth it when you have your baby in your arms’. The vast majority of books I read when we were going through treatment all had the obligatory 'miracle baby' happy ending.
I didn't want endless inspirational positivity. I wanted to read a book that acknowledged that infertility and pregnancy loss can be deeply traumatic, desperately unfair and utterly unrelenting.
I wanted to read a book with stories from real women, sharing the real truth about the unique pain of infertility & pregnancy loss - to help me feel less alone.
I finally found this when I found forums like MN, but I wished I’d been able to find the community of women earlier.
So I decided to try and write a book to try and address this - inspired by and in celebration of the incredible women in infertility communities such as MN. More about the project here: uberbarrens.club/
And I need your help!
I would love to hear from anyone who's experienced infertility and / or pregnancy loss - regardless of how their story has played out. My goal is to represent as many different perspectives as possible about people's own experiences of their journey - whether current or past, whether successful or not.
I’ve put together a questionnaire to enable you to contribute your story (anonymously if you so wish):
uberbarrens.club/share
The questionnaire includes sections for primary infertility, secondary infertility, donor conception, parenting after infertility, adoption after infertility, as well as reaching the end of the road - all and any experiences ‘count’ - your contributions would be enormously gratefully received.
I’ve mentioned this project on a couple of threads, and I’ve been absolutely overwhelmed by the responses from lots of MN-ers (the questionnaire is anonymous, but lots of respondents have mentioned MN as a source of support!) - I’d be honoured if any more if you fabulous women would consider sharing your stories as well.
My hope is that this will help others in the same boat feel less alone - and that ignorant people who just don’t get it, will have a better understanding of the shit we go through
(I hope that MN don’t delete this as I’m not a journo, I’m a MN poster who wants to celebrate this incredible community, and try to give us a voice!)
Thanks so much for getting this far, you women are rock stars
xxx
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bananafish81 · 11/09/2018 12:23
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