I don't know what to do..

(10 Posts)
Eminen Mon 03-Sep-18 15:58:49

DH and I have been TTC#2 for 19 months now. Not a single BFP in that time. I've tried using OPKs, charting, temping, 'relaxing', nothing seems to make a difference.
We had initial tests done on the NHS. Day21 bloods came back normal as did DH SA. NHS won't offer us any other tests or intervention so we'd have to continue the journey going private.
The costs for further tests at the only private clinic in our area is £800. This includes a repetition of the tests we've had done and a hycosy and pelvic scan.
We're not particularly hard up, but Don't necessarily have £800 lying around. I just don't know what to do, do I pay to have further tests, knowing that if there is an issue then I can't afford any treatment, or carry on TTC naturally?
I just have nothing left emotionally. I know I should be happy that I have one DD but I just feel at such a loss sometimes, mourning the larger family that I may never have.
Sorry about the rambling post, and I'm not even sure if anyone can give me an answer. I'm just having a really hard day today.
Thanks for reading

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Blankspace4 Mon 03-Sep-18 16:53:24

Didn’t want to read and run. Why won’t NHS offer you the next round of investigations?

Blankspace4 Mon 03-Sep-18 16:58:04

Apologies, just re-read and note you already have a DD so understand re NHS funding.

The only advice I have is applying for a 0% credit card and spreading the cost of your treatment that way, if there is nothing else you can cut back on to raise the funds?

rainbowgrimm Mon 03-Sep-18 17:15:06

Hi Eminen, do you know for sure the NHS won't fund the investigations? We have DD age 5, 2miscarriages & an ectopic since. Our GP immediately reffered us to the fertility clinic when I mentioned in passing no further pregnancy. They've said all investigations, including surgery in my case, would be covered by the NHS. I know different areas have different rules but may be worth checking.
If moneys a limiting factor it might be worth reading the threads here about treatment abroad?
Currently we think no treatment is the right decision for us but its taken a lot of time to get to that point and we're still not 100%certain in all honesty. Wishing you well whatever you decide.

Guio Mon 03-Sep-18 17:31:33

I don't have any children and after 22 months still trying for 1... however I thought that the NHS would offer tests like hsg,amh...for secondary infertility.i don't think it is fair that you have a child and you can't have further tests which aren't fertility treatments just investigations. I would push them for more.

rainbowgrimm Mon 03-Sep-18 18:15:51

Guios post has just jogged my memory - AMH does have a charge for us (don't know if it does for 1ry infertility?) it's approx £60 within the NHS clinic.

Monday55 Mon 03-Sep-18 18:44:09

Have you tried sex once every 2 days for the full month as you might have irregular ovulation despite what the test say.


Bunbunbunny Mon 03-Sep-18 18:50:51

I had all my tests done on NHS but our treatments will be private, should seek a 2nd opinion

Justwaitingforaline Tue 04-Sep-18 19:36:11

I also am having all testing done on the NHS but we will be paying for treatment privately - I suggest you seek second opinion too!

AvoidingDM Tue 04-Sep-18 19:45:02

Realistically how old are you?

If you are under 33, so have time on your side I'd be tempted to go back to GP and ask for referral to fertility clinic.

If your over 33 I'd say go the fast route and go private.

Took me about a year to get clomid (first line treatment) on the NHS.

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