ttc for 4 years . stressed out

[bailz08]

hi everyone . new to this but thought I'd share how I am feeling in the hope for some advice. I started ttc over 4 years ago just after I got married . I was 23. shortly after my wedding, my mother got diagnosed with cancer and sadly passed away . shortly after that my husband got a job which involved him being away alot. 2 and a half years later he got a normal 9-5job and we continued ttc ( as I thought alot of the reason it wasn't happening was due to bereavement after mum passing and also hubby not being around much for years) . now doctors put me on Clomid . currently 5th round . nothing . already had lap and dye before starting . found no reason why I can't conceive and hubby sperm is fine too. although I have been diagnosed with endometriosis previously when 19 and had laser treatment, but apparently at lap and dye to find fertility issues no traces of endo . I feel I'm currently left to just get on with Clomid, nearly coming to an end. I'm unsure about what happens next . I changed job a few months ago to a hospital and feeling extremely stressed out in it( I thought at the time a change would do me good) however alot of workplace bullying going on and feeling like I can't cope I come home alot of the time very upset . I'm unsure now of what to do , maybe a change of job to destress a bit ? but then I think it's been years anyway and nothing has happened. I try to put on a brave face to hubby and in-laws by saying it will happen when it happens, but deep inside I'm hurting to much as feel like it will never happen if it hasn't in the past 4 and a half years. I feel like I'm always blaming something for it not happening... losing mum .... hubby being away ... job change . I don't know if im.blaming these thing to make myself better . thanks for listening to my problems lol

[physicskate]

I'm on my 6th cycle of clomid currently. Not sure I ovulated this month... so pretty sure it's failed. I completely understand the feeling of being left to get on with it.

I'm 34, so time is not nearly as on my side as it is for you. This may be one reason why they've suggested if clomid has failed that we move on to ivf. As far as we know, there isn't anything preventing conception for us but it's been two years with nothing but a chemical to show for it...

[bluemoonchances]

Hi Bailz, sorry that you've found yourself in this boat, it really is pants isn't it? There are still furthers tests you can have. I was in similar boat to you, years and years TTC , I had test after test including all the ones you have listed, I hand endo which I had lasered off. I also had a ruptured ectopic and lost a Fallopian tube. To cut a long boring story short, eventually after 5 yrs TTC we both had blood tests to check for genetic issues. Turns out DH is a carrier of a chromosome translocation. Basically his sperm have imbalanced chromosomes so when meet my egg my body realises that it's not right and doesn't allow the pregnancy.

What I'm saying is, there are more tests you can have. The good thing is that you are young and so time is on your side.

A GP probably won't be aware of a lot of they tests. You need to go through a fertility clinic, whether that be NHS or private.

Good luck to you xx

[melissasummerfield]

Hi, we ttc for 5 years, i had a stressful responsible job and when i finally caught i had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and was admitted to hospital due to blood loss, 2 days later i was back at work because i was so stressed that things were not being done in my absence. I was sat in my office in agony and realised that this was not normal behaviour and resigned there and then.. three months later I was pregnant and six months after the birth of my first baby i was pregnant again! I believe that the stressful nature of my job definately played a huge part in not being able to conceive.

[physicskate]

IVF is not always a solution...

And at £5-10K a pop, it's totally cheap too!

Emmily21, I'm sorry to say, but you sound an awful lot like the spammer that plagues this board...

[24Juniper]

@melissasummerfield That is really interesting as I have been TTC for 2 years and waiting for a referral to the infertility clinic. Tests so far have come back normal and I suspect my job is what is stopping me from conceiving as it's very stressful. I suspect the minute I hand in my notice I will fall pregnant however my work has such a good maternity package I'm stuck in a catch 22.

[physicskate]

Juniper I was hoping the same. Left teaching. Still hasn't happened. Women get pregnant in war zones. Stress doesn't help ttc, but it doesn't prevent pregnancy.

[leccybill]

I quit teaching too. Still hasn't happened. 6 years for me, and I'm 38.

[lolli18]

5 years for me In June wtf is wrong with me