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MissMoodyMoo Mon 12-Mar-18 00:22:50

I was kindly invited over from the conception thread after my outbreak and apparent mental health problems since trying to conceive lol! (i blame the hormones) Anyway currently on nightshift and a colleague has told me in privacy that she found out she was pregnant this morning totally by accident at nearer to 40 than 30!! Instead of the usual smiles and congratulations my first thought was to lamp her 😐😐😐😂😂 but luckily I've put on many a fake smile and congratulations even tho i feel like my hearts just broke a little more each time 😔😔

GlitterBurps Mon 12-Mar-18 00:31:46

Oh sweets it’s so hard. Before I had my dc’s (through ivf) every pregnancy announcement was like a kick in the teeth. Even though I was happy for them I was raging with jealousy and thinking that it wasn’t fair as I would be a better mum than them. It felt like everyone else was pregnant without even trying when I was standing on my head after sex to try and improve my chances. The worst was when my 20yr old niece got pregnant. I was thinking ‘Are you fucking kidding me?!’ Hugs to you.

MissMoodyMoo Mon 12-Mar-18 01:37:42

Like my "happy/ congratulation face" is getting Old! My 15yo nieces friend came bounding in one day with scan pictures and I didn't even try to hide the disgust and jealousy! I just don't understand why some people have it easy!!

Although even tho i say this every month I having a feeling this is my month for the 2 pink lines! 🤞🤞🤞 if not I may quit nursing to become a professional alcoholic to numb the pain lol 😐😔

ohbigdaddio Mon 12-Mar-18 11:41:15

It totally sucks MissMoodyMoo I've just posted on this topic myself. A friend who knows what I'm going through sent me a 'guess what?!' text followed by baby scan photo, then "We're having a baby!!!!!!"

My first thought was 'fuck off'! Which I know is horrible. But I totally relate. I had a good cry and was grateful it was a text rather than a skype call. You can see my post for more details!

Big hugs to you, and everyone in this crappy situation.

I literally cannot get my head around the fact that people can just have sex and get pregnant. Seems like a totally alien concept to me!

CLB540 Mon 12-Mar-18 13:21:03

Myself and husband have been trying for a baby for over a year and havent told anyone. My mum goes on about us having kids everytime i see her but she is a worrier and feel like she will be watching me like a hawk to see if i am pregnant so just brush off her comments.
We have had the usual tests and so far everything is fine. Last night while having a mothers day meal my sister in law and brother give out gifts and its a baby scan. They reveal they are expecting. She said she came off the pill 1st jan and found out she was expecting on the 29th jan.
Although i am pleased for them i cant help feeling deep sadness and the tears wont stop coming. Its ultimately that i am jealous at how easy its been and how crappy it is for us. I cant shake the feeling of how i feel and husband just said it will happen for us but that really isnt helping. Why cant he see how its making me feel.

sirlee66 Mon 12-Mar-18 14:32:54

I totally, definitely, 100% feel you, OP.

ScottishJaggyNettle Mon 12-Mar-18 18:46:45

Although i understand that you were hurting it is out of bounds to share horrid words about an 20Year old having a child (An adult more than capable of being a parent) .. Would you rather she had problems like you? Or are you thankfull that she will never need to know your pain.

As someone who has had years of infertility myself and still ongoing i can understand when you are having a bad day that you say mean and hurtfull things but to slate others is out of order especialy a family member.
Unless they are insensitive to you first then fire away! <<This happens all the time its like people just cant imaging the pain your going through so they just say horrid shit to you like "look after mine for an hour and you wont want one" / Moan moan moan i hate being up the duff Moan moan moan/ Just relax and the one i hate the most "Suprise im pregnant" And its all they want to talk about for the 9months with no thought or care to how much they are upsetting you.... That lot can go get fucked!

Apparently everyone's kids are accidents so i completely know where you guys are coming from. Its unfair! Two pumps and a squirt and ...Oh a new baby i wonder how that happend???? I spend so much of my time having baby making sex that most likely wont work and they open legs once and hey presto.

Its crazy though im still happy for them because this is horrible and i wouldnt wish it on anyone.

This post was not ment to sound mean so im sorry if it does come across that way!

We all have bad days but at least we all have this to talk on smile

ScottishJaggyNettle Mon 12-Mar-18 19:00:47

I am curious as to why you are asking for advice on Girl baby names when you are on the Infertility Section of mumsnet saying that you are not pregnant ?????????????

I also dont understand why you are getting angry about someone else being pregnant when you are yourself ???????

FYI i like the morag. Since you were asking.

GlitterBurps Mon 12-Mar-18 20:14:31

I think you have missed the point of my post Scottish. What horrid words did I say about my neice? My point is everyone around was getting pregnant when I couldn’t and then someone who I held as a baby and for your information was very immature was even pregnant. I then had to see her getting bigger and bigger and it was hard although she didn’t even know that. Oh and never did I say I wasn’t happy for any of the pregnant friends or family. So yes your post sounded mean.

ScottishJaggyNettle Mon 12-Mar-18 20:50:49

Right clearly im not a wordsmith
I was thinking ‘Are you fucking kidding me?!’ It Is not nice is it ????
Clearly im not good at coming across correctly I honestly did not mean to offend you glitter I Apologise.
I understand that you were hurting and it was a shock but it was your neice. and for your information was very immature was even pregnant Fair enough but not all 20 year olds are immature and if the fact that she was 20 wasnt the issue then why mention it ?

The reason that i put This post was not ment to sound mean so im sorry if it does come across that way! was to show that i was not trying to be mean and that my post was ment to be light hearted.

FYI That lot can go get fucked! was lighthearted aswell.

Glitter Im glad that you got your DC i only wish that one day i will be as lucky.

MissMoodyMoo Mon 12-Mar-18 21:02:53

We talk names to keep up morale 😐 I like the name forum because it makes me happy! How dare you question me on asking an opinion on a name!!

MissMoodyMoo Mon 12-Mar-18 21:06:08

"Get fucked" somes up my feelings at the moment! 🖕🖕🖕

ScottishJaggyNettle Mon 12-Mar-18 21:16:48

Fair enough but you have to see that it looked a bit weird that you are posting on baby names aswell. Sounds a bit Daily Fail.

How dare you question me on asking an opinion on a name!!
Bit much ? If i think that you are fake and fishing on the infertility section for good Daily Fail fodder then yes i will ask.

I had seen the other post and i like the name Morag so i was going to comment that i thought it was lovely and then seen your name and thought that it was a bit strange because it sounded like you are pregnant. I honestly thought oh here we go Daily fail is at it.

But since everyone on this post keeps taking what i am writing in a bad way I will just go bugger off then. I honestly did not set out to offend anyone.

MissMoodyMoo Mon 12-Mar-18 21:27:34

You clearly have no sensitivity button and are just plain rude! Bye pal

ScottishJaggyNettle Mon 12-Mar-18 21:44:20

Ok then, What i had wrote has been taken in the wrong way.
I then tried to be nice and explain but forget it.... Clearly you dont listen when im trying to explain you have your view of me and im not going to change that evidently .
Im far from rude! I apologised to you as i had not ment to upset you and you have been not very nice... Ahh forget it..

I thought that this was a safe space where we could all just talk and have a chance to explain what we ment correctly if it was taken the wrong way without people getting angry like that .. but clearly im wrong.

sirlee66 Tue 13-Mar-18 03:41:03

I'll tell you what is wrong, Scottish.. you stalking people's previous posts trying to catch them out... on an infertility board...... Nice. Classy bird you are, aye?

Do kindly bore off.

ScottishJaggyNettle Tue 13-Mar-18 08:01:50

Just to clarify it was an active thread that i was going to post on because i liked the name morag as i have said previously. I have not and would not stalk anyone on this. Im infertile myself so i came here to talk to people. Im not a troll.

Right please kindly stop talking to me and then i will then kindly bore off .

GlitterBurps Tue 13-Mar-18 08:11:40

Thanks for the apology Scottish.

MissMoodyMoo Tue 13-Mar-18 14:14:22

As I said I was invited over from the conception forum as I didn't fell it was approriate to vent there! Cleary we were both on the name forum for the same reason! Most people have names picked out especially when they are longing for something to happen! And yes it was active because I was bored on a nightshift and a name popped into my head! So sue me! You're clearly just after an argument which is something i can't be arsed with!

ScottishJaggyNettle Tue 13-Mar-18 19:19:09

OP i am honestly not after an argument. Wires have been crossed on both sides. You think i am after an argument and i thought you were not a real poster so i got a bit arsey for which i am sorry.

The last thing i ment to do was upset or anger people especialy you OP as i know how hard it is to post here. I am not dissagreeing with you about the name forum i just honestly thought you were the daily fail trying to get a news story as i have seen many times before. The name forum came up on active threads and the title drew me in as i like the name as i have said before. I did not appreciate being called a stalker.

I am sorry that you find yourself over on the infertillity forums i hope that you get your BFP and dont need to hang around.
I did not mean to make you feel unwelcome.

P.S Im sorry if i annoyed anyone i did not come here to argue. I tried to make my posts light hearted and clearly it did not work.

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