Anyone in TWW now (mid/end Sept 2017) ?(45 Posts)
Been thinking of you avocado, how are you feeling? Got everything crossed for you. When do you think you'll test? x
Me, I am! Although I don't know what the abbreviations all mean... I'm 2dpo so ages until can test. Early miscarriage/chemical pregnancy last month and MMC at 12 weeks in June. 2WW is killing me already as husband is away for 5 days so only dtd twice during fertile period, let's hope it was enough... and then I can start being anxious about everything else 😂
Hi Avocado, I was on a thread with you back in May, I believe! I'm 6dp5dt and an absolute wreck. Was quite happy and positive at first but for the past two days been convinced it didn't work and can't stop crying. How are you getting on?
I'm 4dp5dFET and the crazy has just hit...
Meadow I was also feeling positive for the first few days but it has faded a bit today.
I do wonder if the progesterone is making me overly emotional but that might just be an excuse.
When are your test dates? Mine's the 27th.
Hi Lemon, glad it's not just me! I dreamt two nights ago that it didn't work and haven't been able to shake the doubt since. In fairness, all of the months we were TTC naturally, I dreamt I was pregnant, so... I'm the 27th too, and not going to test beforehand!
Maybe that's dream reverse psychology? Hopefully it's a sign anyway if you believe in that sort of thing.
That's good that you'll wait. I suspect I will test before because I have no self control, even though I know it will just make me miserable earlier than I need to be. Maybe I'll try not to...
Scottish - thank you! I've had cramps and lower back ache for the past three days. I know for sure it's not the side effect of any medication but frustratingly in the couple of days before FET I had a really off stomach and had two days of stomach ache and cramp so I'm not sure if it's just that continuing. I'm feeling far more confident this time because I've got the aches and because I had the acupuncture which I think could help. I'm now a bit worried I'm being overly positive.
StillMissV - so sorry to hear about what you've been through! Have you been trying long? Hopefully this is the one!
Meadow - I remember you well!!!! Actually, it was you, Scottish and I who started talking first way back in March. We're only two days apart now! How many eggs and embryos did you get in the end?
Lemon - I had my transfer on Monday too, so I think we have the exact same timings!
I'm planning to test on Monday. Early than the nurse suggested but I'm going for it. When is everyone else testing??? X
On the subject of dreams, I dreamt the night before FET that I was pregnant with twins!!!
Lemon, not sure I believe in any signs any more, or else I'd have been upduffed a thousand times over!
Avocado oh my, twins! How many embryos did you have transferred? I remember you and Scottish (hi!) well! I ended up falling naturally in March just as we were due to start, it was ectopic and I had a tube removed. So we just had our first cycle and fresh transfer last Sat. I had eight eggs, six made it to day 5, one was transferred fresh, and two good enough to freeze. So we have some hope if this one doesn't take. How about you?
That's true - the signs approach has not exactly worked for me either so far.
This is our third FET (second round) but the first one at day 5 so I was a bit more optimistic about it. Although now I am feeling like what I think are symptoms are actually just the pessaries (sore boobs, slight cramps).
avocado yes we have the same timings I think! Monday testing might be a plan at 7dp5dt. Have you had previous transfers?
meadow I'm sorry about your ectopic. That must have been so distressing.
Hey, I'm 7dp5dt too, also testing 27/09. I read these threads and always worry I'll be a big black cloud on them... sorry in advance for this! We're finding the wait absolutely torturous. I woke up yesterday 'knowing' I'm out. My boobs had been feeling full (I know probs just the progesterone anyway) but yesterday i woke up and they're back to being like little empty bags - a sure sign of AF in my normal cycles. I've had 'twinges' but I get them every month anyway. I just don't think this has worked at all and also spent yesterday sobbing. In my car, then in the work loos, then at my desk.
DH and I have just discussed testing tomorrow. I don't want to see another BFN but DH isn't coping well with the uncertainty. I just want to put us out of our misery.
How are your partners coping with this? I'm actually pretty worried about my DH.
Meadow - just one transferred. I had 21 eggs collected, one embryo transferred back in June (BFN) and 8 blasto a frozen. I have very high AMH so was expecting to get a reasonable number of eggs. I know exactely what you mean about symptoms, I think I had 'symptoms' every month prior to IVF! I've woken up with cramps again this morning. I really want to think of it as a good sign but I was having some stomach issues and cramps in the couple of days before FET and my cramps now feel the same so I'm not sure what's going on.
Lemon - I'm definitely testing on Monday at 7dp5dFET. My plan is to secretly test first thing and then if positive I could tell my husband when I pick him up from his interview. I've got a FRER ready to go! This is my second transfer but first FET. With my first transfer I found the procedure quite painful and absolutely hated the doctor - he was so rough! I had a bad feeling as soon as that happened. This time I had a much nicer doctor, painless transfer and acupuncture before and after so I'm feeling more positive.
Nolm - you are very strong to wait until 27th, good work! My husband is fine but he's a fairly relaxed person. Plus he has a job interview on Monday the prepping for which is keeping him occupied! Is this your first transfer?
Lemon, 5day transfer is really positive, got everything crossed for you. Ectopic was distressing, really thought we'd have the pre-IVF miracle baby. It's hard because it seemed to be growing fine, just in the wrong place, so I'd hope
and dream IVF would work for us but there's really no guarantee.
Bridget I also spent all of yesterday sobbing and convinced it didn't work! Perhaps that's a sign that you're 6dp5dt But felt quite calm today (bit of a headache and dodgy tummy), how've you been? My DH is coping well but I worry he's in a bit of denial. He's been lovely and supportive of the whole process but it all seems a bit simple for him if that makes sense? He says if it doesn't work we try with the two frozens, as if it's just like popping to Tesco to pick up another embryo. He of course understands that this is a massive deal and he very much wants a baby but he is just so calm and positive. I reckon it's a good balance for my slightly more mental state but sometimes it almost feels a bit naive, I suppose. How do you feel your partner isn't coping?
Avocado, eight frozen blasts is brilliant! Glad you've had a better experience with transfer this go, everything crossed for this cycle for you. Monday is so close now!
Morning. How is everyone holding out on the testing front? I have managed not to. Mostly as I am worried it hasn't worked and I don't want to know. I did have to force myself not to on Friday (even though that would have been way too early anyway!)
My DH seems to be pretending it isn't happening. I think he is attempting to keep me sane by not talking about it. He also seems to have the popping to Tesco approach re our frosties meadow! Are you and your DH feeling any better Bridget?
Avocado 8 blasts is amazing - that must be very reassuring that whatever happens at least you don't have the do all the drugs again for a long while (hopefully ever). I also found the transfer a bit painful this time. Not sure why.
Lemon I managed not to test today too, despite great temptation. If it's negative on Wednesday I have no idea how I'll get into work, would rather know ahead of time. I'm also symptom spotting like mad, how's everyone else getting on? The only thing that keeps me sane is thinking that I haven't had IVF before so my body is in uncharted territory, whether something seems familiar or doesn't.
Does your DH tend to talk about things with you? We are quite open but with emotional stuff I often have to guide him a bit, IYSWIM. IVF feels a lot like that as well.
I think 6dpt madness must be a thing! I have spent today thoroughly miserable and convinced it hasn't worked.
I am thinking of actually waiting until test day as I just don't want to prolong the misery if it's negative. We'll see how I feel tomorrow though.
How is everyone getting on?
My DH does talk to me about it but he is generally just very practical and "it will work next time" although he does get down about it sometimes.
lemon i defo think there must be something to the 6dpt thing! meadow I also felt calmer yesterday and have also had a headache. Symptom spotting is the worst but no idea how not to notice these things!
We've managed not to test still. We did pick up two FRERs yesterday but ive put them in the medical cupboard on top of the sharps box as a deterrent. If they were in the bathroom I don't think I could resist, despite being so scared to see a BFN. I've taken Weds off work to deal with the result.
avocado 8 blasts is amazing. Fingers crossed for you tomorrow! And yep this is my first transfer.
I have some sort of POF starting/going on, had 4 eggs, 29 years old. We do have 2x day 6 blasts that thankfully were suitable to freeze. I'm thinking of asking the clinic about doing another fresh if I don't get lucky this time. I think I'd cope with everything better if I knew i had a few attempts left. I'm so scared.
DH is better today. He's honestly normally a happy go lucky guy. He was saying it's the feeling of our life being on hold that's the worst. We're the only couple we know without kids and most of them are on their 2nd. We're saving every penny for treatment and tbh a lot of it is probably my fault. I think my low mood is really bringing him down. He said we had no joy in our lives. We've overhauled our diets in the last 9 months too and, whilst he isn't taking it as strictly as I am, every meal is still another reminder of what we're going through, iykwim. We've also spent the last 5 years getting our life ready for children - mortgage, marriage, empty bedroom etc.
We talked and he's going to look at joining another sports club which will give him another distraction. I'm also going to try to keep some of my feelings a little bit more to myself. I live in his country so have no family around and tbh I've isolated myself a lot recently so the new friends I've made aren't really people I can talk to. I definitely lean on him too much but I'm going to try. I hate seeing him so sad I really feel like I'm dragging him down with me.
See, black rain cloud here! Sorry.
Hmmm it's true about day 6 past transfer - it's a bad one! My cramp/ache symptoms have gone now and I feel pretty normal today so I've definitely lost some confidence. Still going to test tomorrow morning and either way will tell my husband after his interview. Have been speaking about baby names all day
Oh Bridget, I'm sorry. I don't want to doubt you, but my clinic instructed me to wait until 12dp5dt to test, even if having bleeding. Is it possible for you to re-test? XXX
Bridget, I'm so sorry for you, it's the worst feeling isn't it. Try and just keep thinking of the frozen embryos. I can say that FETs are a FAR easier and more pleasant process to go through and I also think it can't be a bad idea to do the embryo transfer when the ovarian stimulation drugs are out of your system.
As for me, I feel horribly insensitive saying this but I got my BFP this morning. First BFP I have ever seen!!
I caved and tested (predictable) and BFN for me.
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