Hi avocado! The IVF decision is quite hard, isn't it? I imagine that even though you are 29, if you haven't gotten pregnant with two years of solid TTC (good timing, etc) than it'd be sensible to start...perhaps wait until you have more information about your results and wait for your birthday to reach a full two years? The benefit for you is that as you are young, conventional wisdom would say you have a bit more time on your side as your egg quality doesn't start to really drop off until you're 35 and then sharply every year after. You will also have more time to try and rest and try again if you have an unsuccessful cycle, but the statistics are often best for women under 35. How does your DH feel about everything?
We were TTC about 13 months when we were put forward for IVF. I asked my GP for bloods at about 6 months TTC (my periods were also a bit wonky after the miscarriage) and when we didn't fall by 11 months, asked the GP to refer. Given my age, it felt right to start the process rolling early. We are a bit of a puzzle as we fell right away (month two TTC) but not again, and the doctor had lots of problems with my hycosy. But they seem confident (overly so?) that we are a good couple for IVF so we will go for it...despite my fears and anxiety about the jabs and natural selection and whatnot.
My friends with children have all fallen right away (two on their honeymoons!) and some even had some unplanned oops babies. I love them and their babies but they are busy being mums and it's hard to chat with them about this. And at our age, our friends are mostly done and their littlest ones are off to nursery, or "child free by choice". We also don't know anyone who has gone through infertility treatment. DH and I have also moved recently so are beginning to build new relationships, and mostly through work at this point, so it seems a bit awkward to bring up our infertility. Though when meeting new people, of course they are surprised that we have been together so long and don't have kids....which always leads to awkward conversations about whether we want any...sigh.... (a brief rant on this: I am asked almost daily as a woman whether I have kids, whether I want them, and whether I plan to have them! Quite unfair, and so much more painful since learning we are infertile-subfertile! )
I hope you have something nice planned for yourself today. When will you have a chance to chat with your doctor about your results?
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