Upset during 2ww - marriage problems

[Mollymolly76]

Hello

I'm sorry to come on here but I'm going out my mind with stress and worry and can't stop crying.

I'm on my 4th ivf cycle (all others bfn) and had 1 2day embryo transferred on Monday.

The problem is I'm going through marriage problems that's all of a sudden come to light. Since Monday we have been arguing terribly and I feel like my whole world is falling apart.

Not only do I feel like my marriage is coming to an end but also I feel this cycle is completely ruined because of the arguing that's been happening.

I'm sorry to post this on here but I have nowhere else to turn to.

[Isthismummy]

Sorry you're so stressed op. This infertility bullshit tests even the strongest relationships to their limits.

I very much doubt arguing is going to ruin your chances, so try not to stress about that.

Best of luck for your cycle. Hope this is your lucky one

[Luxnuova]

I'm so sorry you're going through this op. As isthismummy said, this process is really, really hard on relationships. The stress, plus the hormonal shifts, plus the ongoing uncertainty - it is just really tough. I think if you've made it this far without much arguing, you're doing amazingly.

When you say something has 'come to light', do you mean something has suddenly changed in your relationship - or is it just the sense that you're fighting, and that this has pulled the ground out from under you? I know that feeling so well. I have a wonderful DH, but we're really alike and both quite fiery, so with stress we often have quite major fights and it feels like everything's coming apart. But, please go easy on yourself, and try to see that it is probably not your relationship that's to blame, but the shitty situation of infertility.

Arguing won't have altered your chances with the cycle. Can you cue up a feel-good, escapist movie, and give yourself a chance to settle? Wishing you luck for this cycle.

[knaffedoff]

I am so sorry to hear how hard things are at the moment, please try and seperate the ivf from whatever is going on in your marriage. As you have already discovered, ivf is incredibly hard and impossible to control. I hope things settle down favourably with your marriage and the ivf is a success.