I'm childless, and those two words put together have caused me immense pain for years. How can it have happened?! When motherhood was tragically my only life plan (I didn't have a plan B).
Something's been happening to me recently though; I'm actually coming to think it's not maybe not the end of the world after all. Various things have caused this evolution of thinking. Obviously I still long for motherhood, but I'm starting to see some light in the darkness & sorrow.
However, I'd say for me that the biggest impediment to my healing is other people! Insensitive comments made by family, friends, and even sometimes random strangers! My SIL is the worst, she's an unbelievably smug mother. Some of the things she comes out with... She has an amazing ability to make me feel dreadful about my childlessness. I assume she doesn't do it deliberately. I think childless-by-circumstance (not choice) women can often be very misunderstood; and the grief we feel isn't always recognised.
I just wondered if anyone else here struggles with the insensitivity of others?
PS, I wasn't sure whether to post this here, or in AIBU? I hope I've posted it in the right place?
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TeaForever · 18/02/2017 05:16
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