We went through an awful lot to have our daughter and now starting the ivf process to try to have a second after a long time trying naturally. My sister in law is expecting her first (due date 9 months after wedding, of course) and has asked if she can borrow a lot of our baby bits, bouncy chair, play gym, toys etc. Handing them over would break me as it would emphasise that we don't have another, and I also feel that if we are lucky enough to have another things would then be 3rd hand and very worn. I have such special memories of our daughter using all these things, and always think about a future baby using them, I'm extremely sentimental about things.
They gave us £100 when our daughter was born, so I've suggested we buy her all the bits to the equivalent value, rather than giving them money. I've explained that it makes sense for her to have new should she go on to have more. I'm sure she'll say that's fine, but now I'm wondering if I'm being mean not offering her things?
I find infertility very hard mentally (as I'm sure we all do), even now we have a child, and somehow feel that handing these things over for someone else's baby is just too difficult for me.
What would others do? Am I being ridiculous? Hubby says he understands what I mean but he would lend her things. I just don't want his family thinking badly of us. Writing it out makes me sound so silly...
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Am I being unreasonable?
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Scottishgirl85 · 04/02/2017 21:00
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