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Looking for success stories! 2 failed FET's and losing faith in the third.

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kmmr Sat 04-Feb-17 08:50:40

Hi all,

I'm just ramping up for a 3rd FET, with good quality embryos, with not a sniff of a BFP in the previous 2. I've had one success, in 2014, who is asleep in his bed, so I know it can work, but I'm struggling with all this again.

I did acupunture and all the supplements the last 2 times, but can't seem to find the motivation this time. Lining was 7mm in the last 2 cycles, one natural and one medicated. This is a medicated cycle too, which I'm finding really hard. So tired, so moody and depressed. I'm on CD 14 I guess now, and lining is 7mm again, despite a different drug protocol.

So, can someone give me some good stories of success after failures! I just can't see any reason why this time is different. My doctor is just saying keep trying, it could be the embryos weren't right. I've 2 little ones left, and then that's it, and they were created years ago pre-cancer treatment.

I'm so lucky to have my son. He's my total miracle baby, and I am so grateful. So I know it's almost greedy to want another, but I so wish it would work.

Spanielsarecool1 Sun 05-Feb-17 09:51:30

We had our 4 year old in 2012, totally lucky with our first cycle of ivf- for pcos.
I think because we had "sailed through" the journey of ivf and still had a load of frozen embroyos from when I was 28 I thought baby no 2 would b equally easy....,
Our first FET failed despite all looking good quality etc. On the day of the 2 nd FET the first failed to thaw so jumped straight to our last embryo - which I wasn't prepared for and this FET also sadly failed.
So now we had no frozen ones left, despite having said if the frozen cycles didn't work that would be us done I felt that I actually felt differently in reality.
We agreed to go away on holiday and have the summer off-mainly so I could drink lots of proseccco and start new ivf in October.
Basically once I got back of holiday I couldn't shift the stomach fat..... turns out I was 10 weeks pregnant completely naturally after over 8 yrs of no contraception. I'm due in 2 weeks.
I think it's hard when you already have one, and almost feel selfish for wanting another, but that need/longing is still overwhelming. I never never thought I'd be one of those people that it would happen for naturally-I used to hate it when pple would say "relax", I don't think it's cos I relaxed I think we just got lucky. I realise u had cancer Rx so in a different position but we had v low sperm count and I basically never ovulated with my pcos even with clomid in the past.
Good luck, you still have 2 little embryos left and I hope that you get success next time round. There's no rhyme or reason to these things sometimes and that makes it so much harder as it makes it easier to feel you can to x, y or z to help/take control. Best of luck xx

CaipirinhasAllRound Sun 05-Feb-17 12:18:50

I have a 2 and a half year old and am 20 weeks pregnant with our second, both FETs. I had to abandon my 1st go at IVF I reacyed badly to the long protocol drugs. Did it again with short protocol and got a good haul of eggs which fertilised but it didn't work. 1st got with a FET and we used 2 and got our son. This time we just used 1 and it worked 1st time.
I did acupuncture during the run up to and during the abandoned go but haven't done anything extra since then.
I don't have any words of wisdom but just wanted to wish you luck x

Blondeshavemorefun Sun 05-Feb-17 21:58:04

7mm seems a tad low. Thought 8 was the minimum most clinics liketho higher is fine. Mine is always 11

3 fresh cycles failed. As did 1st fet from cycle 3

5th try 2nd fet is now bubs and 32w preg

Have they suggested an era. Some clinics rec after 3 failures

You have had 4 so think worth checking before trying precious embrigw

kmmr Sun 05-Feb-17 22:04:21

Thanks for responding. Natural isn't likely, although a minute enough chance that I end up thinking about it each month and stupidly being disappointed each time!

Spaniel I also said we would use these FET's and then give up, but I am already thinking I can't bring myself to stop just yet. I've just turned 40 so it become much more risky, and my husband isn't supportive... but we will see what happens.

Good luck on both your pregnancies.

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