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To just give up now?

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MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:10:23

Pcos. Clomid failed. Should I just do me and the world a favour and give up ?

Hyland Mon 20-Jun-16 22:17:42

I don't know what else you have experienced during your journey to ttc. However is does seem like you need a cuddle. Time to be angry and frustrated before you can even contemplate if there is a next move.


Very unfair that it hasnt worked for you.

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:21:13

I just think its time to accept kids arent meant for me tbh

Hyland Mon 20-Jun-16 22:35:22

Would finances allow you to seek further help.

How long have you been trying?

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:37:06

Weve got money. I just dont want to waste my life

PurpleDaisies Mon 20-Jun-16 22:40:40

You could take a break for a few months and see how you feel. You don't have to decide right now in the midst of the upset that the clinic hasn't worked as you'd hoped.

Stopping is such a hard decision to make. I think you're right to consider the all encompassing effect that trying has on your life and relationship. Do you think talking up a counsellor might help.

flowers It's a rotten place to be in.

PurpleDaisies Mon 20-Jun-16 22:41:09

Clomid not clinic.^

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:43:48

I dont do talking. Id just carry on with life

PurpleDaisies Mon 20-Jun-16 22:45:14

What does your partner think?

KittensandKnitting Mon 20-Jun-16 22:45:58

I'm on the other side of the trying for a baby coin, every single time I ovulate I get pregnant but every single time I have a miscarriage ranging in weeks , I just had miscarriage number 6 three weeks ago. so I don't fully understand the working of clomid but I do understand how devastating it is not to have a child and want one so badly and the questioning of "should I try again"

It's so painfully cruel and upsetting, as there are often no answers at all as to why, it just all feels desperately unfair.

I can only tell you what I do and that is to take time to be kind to myself, lean on your partner, comfort each other and then decide what to do next.

flowers I'm just so sorry, it's so bloody hard for you flowers

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:46:43

My dh just thinks life is wonderful

Davegrohlstalkermum Mon 20-Jun-16 22:47:47

Kittensandknitting are you having that investigated? There are some really successful clinics specialising in repeat miscarriage and implantation failure. Hope you find a way through.

Davegrohlstalkermum Mon 20-Jun-16 22:48:38

Megriffen1 do you want to give up?flowers

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:49:43

Yeah i do actually. If im honest i cant be arsed

Davegrohlstalkermum Mon 20-Jun-16 22:50:19

I get not wanting to be arsed. Are you going to be happy being childless?

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:51:57

Well ive been childless for 30 years so i guess i cant miss what i dont know

KittensandKnitting Mon 20-Jun-16 22:54:41

meg does he really or is just putting on a brave face, I do think it effects men differently but it is also a very emotional time for them too.

Dave I am, lots and lots of tests already all "normal" going private now and looking at high fertility, and going to Coventry thanks to the advise of another poster on here. Just fingers crossed here for luckly number seven. Did hear of a lady who got lucky on number 19 so I keep telling myself I can keep going although at time like the OP I just want to give up on it all, but the trying eventually seems a lesser evil than not if that make sense.

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:56:10

Ive no idea how he feels

PurpleDaisies Mon 20-Jun-16 22:56:56

I'm not sure it's quite that simple meg. Quite a lot of people feel grief at the losing the life they thought they'd have.

Everyone's different. There are no rules about what's right or wrong in how you deal with this situation. You don't have to keep trying. Just beware that even if you think you're all sorted sadness can sneak up on you when you don't expect it.

KittensandKnitting Mon 20-Jun-16 22:57:31

Meg do you really feel like that or just trying to tell yourself this? It's ok to let it out how you feel here, even if it's not what you would do in RL

It's really very hard, I just worry you don't have the support you need

PurpleDaisies Mon 20-Jun-16 22:58:09

Sorry, lots of cross posts. I was responding to "you can't miss what you've never had".

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 22:58:50

I just dont care. Everyone seems to hate their kids anyway

Davegrohlstalkermum Mon 20-Jun-16 22:59:58

Kittensandknitting, I'd recommend reading "is my body baby friendly?" by Alan Beer, it's all about rpt mc and immune issues. I have/had immune issues and went to a clinic specialising in this (private) and finally between 38 and 40 had 3 kids.

Davegrohlstalkermum Mon 20-Jun-16 23:00:36

OP you don't sound like you don't care, sweetheart.

MegGriffin1 Mon 20-Jun-16 23:01:30

I just cant be arsed

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