I thought we can have a space to share all of the stupid, outrageous and plain hurtful things that family, friends, colleagues and even strangers have said to us.
I will start.
Before starting ivf, friend says 'you really need to consider and get your head around adoption, they will match you with a child who looks like you'.
Same friend on a different occasion 'you should really go for counselling, I think the drama with your family is causing you not to conceive, your body is preventing it'.
Same friend when I told her I was spotting "you need to get the hospital to check you properly, you can't seem to hold pregnancies'. (I had a miscarriage 4 years ago and haven't been pregnant until now).
In the 2 ww after first round of ivf, telling another friend I was nervous she said 'have you guys ever considered adoption?'
Spotting at 5 weeks after having a fet and telling newly duffed friend I was going to the hospital, Friend says 'Oh can they just put another embryo back in?'
Same friend after I ignored the above comment "you need to have more sex, that's what I did and I've been pregnant twice'.
They are the more hurtful ones but I've also heard on many occasions:
Just relax
You need to try ovulation kits
Blah blah fucking blah
Anyone else care to share?
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Guide on what NOT to say to people going through infertility..
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Vixxfacee · 19/06/2016 20:08
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