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Any good articles about the pain of infertility?

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Ilikesweetpeas · 11/01/2016 20:47

I an very lucky to have a lovely DD born after IVF however all subsequent treatment has failed which I find really hard. We seem to be living in a very fertile family at the moment where both of DH's siblings / siblings partners have currently announced pregnancies. I am finding this REALLY hard to cope with. I'm in floods of tears constantly and trying to resist the temptation to self harm as the mental pain is so great.

I'm would love to find an article which explains how infertile people feel when others announce pregnancy. I wondered if any of you know of anything? I would just love for them to have some insight into how I feel.

Thank you in advance

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Ilikesweetpeas · 11/01/2016 21:35

Bumping...

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Naughty1205 · 11/01/2016 21:55

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Naughty1205 · 11/01/2016 22:00

These might help you also:

www.xojane.com/issues/how-not-to-be-a-dick-to-your-infertile-friend

infertility.about.com/od/familyandfriends/qt/Telling-Your-Infertile-Friend-Or-Relative-That-Youre-Pregnant.htm

amotherfarfromhome.com/this-is-what-infertility-feels-like/

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Ilikesweetpeas · 11/01/2016 22:04

Thank you for that link Naughty. I appreciate your reply. I'm trying to be more open, but it's hard with DH family. Congratulations on your pregnancy

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Naughty1205 · 11/01/2016 23:25

Thank you. Oh dhs family don't know anything! They are completely different to mine. I couldn't talk to them at all. They wouldn't understand why we would go down the ivf road at all. In the early days I told my family about the ivf quite openly and they were supportive. I informed them as each step was progressing in our first cycle. Big mistake as we had a chemical pregnancy. So it went from my mother saying this was the best news they had had in years (bfp) to dh having to ring my sister a few days later telling them the news that it wasn't to be. I couldn't talk to them. They were heartbroken for us. So I learned a big lesson there. I found that if I did open up to some friends, so many of them were also going through fertility treatments. People who haven't been there just do not get it. Hope you're ok.