My best friend for many years is going through fertility treatment and is just about to start iui.
She's known for many years she would struggle to conceive naturally however time was always on her side back then through our twenties and she wasn't in a position to have a baby. It's always something we've discussed. She's now at the stage where she is married and they've been trying for 3+ years and have had unsuccessful Chlomid for months so the next step is iui then ivf.
I'm pregnant with my third baby in all this time we've been friends, I can't imagine how difficult that is for her.
I want to know how I can support her more if possible. We don't see each other often, less now I'm pregnant as our catch ups were always alcohol fuelled so obviously that's not possible for me just now.
Over the years I've made some pretty stupid comments when drunk like "you can always adopt" (that still makes me cringe..) and told her success stories I've known of. Pretty much infertility insensitive bingo
We don't get to chat much face to face so it's generally through texts but I really want to support her more in any way I can. Especially now I'm older and hopefully wiser in terms of the stupid comments I've previously made! I'm worried she doesn't really have anyone she can talk to about it.
I know everyone's different so what someone might find supportive another person won't. But does anyone have any advice? I was thinking of suggesting online fertility forums to her but I really don't want to come across as smug and that I know more than her about what she's actually going through if you know what I mean.
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supportingmybff · 25/10/2015 07:05
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