Newby here, couldn't think where else to turn.
Background - I'm 36, been with my OH 9 yrs, ttc for last 4. I've got horrendous PCOS so no chance naturally. He's 46 & has son 19 & daughter 11. We've tried all our NHS options & have no way of raising the money for IVF.
I'm trying to face up to the idea it'll never happen for us & at the same time have my 'happy face' ready for when yet another friend or relative (most recently my brother & his gf) have babies.
Last night OH came back from meeting his son & announced he's going to be a granddad, stepson's GF is 3/4 weeks pg. They haven't told anyone else yet so can't talk to friends or even my mum about it. After the initial shock I couldn't help but cry ... He's going to be a granddad when I'm not even a mum
His only response was "I knew I shouldn't have told you" and he hasn't spoken to me since.
How the hell do I cope with this?!
And yes I know I'm being selfish here, and obviously OH's kids have to be his priority, but after so many years of heartache I've decided now I'm putting MYSELF and my feelings first - I've got to be someone's priority!
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charlievictor9 · 13/09/2015 18:42
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