I have a 3 year old from IVF and we've been trying for a sibling for almost a year now (a combination of natural trying and assisted conception treatment). We've been pregnant twice but both ended in miscarriage sadly.
I'm frustrated with the waiting and being in limbo.
We have LOADS of outgrown clothes and toys belonging to our child as well as buggies, a travel cot, a cot, etc. Our garage, loft and spare room are full. I don't know what to keep or throw / sell and summoning up the mental energy to deal with it is hard.
Then there's the general life planning limbo. Should we book that amazing holiday deal later this year? What if I'm pregnant again by then? I wouldn't want to travel abroad if so as what if I miscarried again. So we don't book, just in case.
Then I wonder about if / when we should move our child into a larger bedroom. He currently has the box room and our larger spare bedroom is a study / guest room (we have pretty regular guests!). If baby #2 was on the way it would force our hand, but as it isn't I'm left wondering.
We're waiting for more tests to see if there's a problem behind the 2 miscarriages. Our infertility seems largely unchanged.
And then there's the 'when do we stop trying?' question. I have no answers. And the fear of not having anymore children ever, is overwhelming.
And all the while, I'm trying to focus on, and enjoy as much as possible, the chidl I do have. It's so hard.
Anyone else dealing with this? Any advice?
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when TTC (without success) for a sibling........ ?
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didwedotherightthing · 07/08/2015 14:27
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